It seems clear that the issues this child has go far beyond whether or not Dad pays for college.
I really question the value of a thread that in part uses the circumstances of a child’s life and condition to complain.
This thread wasn’t started by the mother or father of this child, and there is little reason to believe that the step parent (by their own words) has much influence on the child or the steps taken by either mom or dad.
I think this thread should be closed.