<p>I’m planning a trip northwest to the youngest the end of September for parent weekend. Both are coming home mid October. I really miss them. The dogs are getting alot of attention and I am thankful for them. Such company! </p>
<p>aibarr- I wouldnt know what someone could do for me but thank you for asking.</p>
<p>Dear Sistersunnie,</p>
<p>First of all, I want you to know that although I have never posted, I have read every single post from when your DH died, and examined every inch of the website, and grieve for you, and think of you often. Others are so much better at the emotional stuff than I am. So it makes more sense to stay out of the way and let others do it better.</p>
<p>I am the practical sort. This is not to deny your feelings at all! Just for me to focus on what I do better. For a long time - most of your life - you have possibly defined yourself by other people - you were a wife, a mother, a daughter, etc. At this point, you are having to redefine yourself big time. I know you will count the days till October when your Ds come home. But, as your Yiddish stepmother might say, “Don’t wish your life away!” As you know all too well, life is too short. There is a reason you are where you are. I know you are still grieving, and the holes left in you may never be filled. But as the haze lifts, I hope you will find your purpose for what is still yours, and will find reason to get up in the morning, and go forth with joy! (How’s that for a string of cliches?) Without knowing you better, I can’t really make concrete suggestions. I just want to say that knowing you the miniscule amount that I do, I know you will find your way again.</p>
<p>This summer was my first summer with no kids at home, and it struck me that they most likely will never live here again. I am sad. My “baby” is a college junior now. I thought it would get easier every year, and instead it gets harder (and yes, I realize that my issues are smaller than yours). A significant “purpose” for my life has ended. I am trying to be busy getting ready for the next phase. It is hard.</p>
<p>I was wondering about you too. Anyway, best wishes for you and the girls. We’re all still here!</p>