I can’t imagine why ANY parent would want their kid to go through K-12 with the stigma of an IEP and being pulled out of classes to have “special” teachers to help him speak, read and eventually write at 50% with a 99th percentile brain… Porsche brain yes…a good analogy. More power to my kid. He took it in stride and never, ever gave up, but it was painful for him I’m sure (as a “third” following two brothers who were excellent students and things came easy). When S3 got accepted to Engineering school I sent an email to his elementary special ed teacher and thanked her. I thank every day that I walk the earth for the first grade teacher he had who recognized something was terribly “wrong” and took care of coordinating his initial testing with the school psychiatrist and I did a private little mental happy dance each time S3 made the dean’s list in college.
I especially thank S3 for grasping what he wanted, grasping what he didn’t and becoming his own best self advocate. It is not too far in the past that dyslexics were considered slow and never went to college. It runs in our family. One shirt tail relative went into the computer industry in the early days – a high school drop out labeled dumb because he struggled to read and write and with no college degree – and ended up doing exceptionally well. Many dyslexics go on to do amazing things these days now that there are real supports and understanding. I really try not to be concerned about what other families do. Some people will cheat to get a leg up. But best to just be true to yourself.