<p>this is why you get a futon for the common room. also “in the cold” its been very warm in new haven the past two weeks LOL</p>
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Forty years ago, when I was a freshman at Boston University, I was living in a double – two twin beds in a 9 X 11 room with no common area. Several times a month, my roommate’s girlfriend came to visit and I was sexiled. With a little advanced planning, however, I was able to sleep on a rolled-up futon on the floor of a neighbor a couple of floors above me. The key is “advanced planning” and your son should have a discussion with his roommate about getting as much notice as possible. As a freshman, it’s difficult the first few weeks of school to find a last minute place to spend the night when you don’t know many people nor the available options. That said, at Yale, I know there are plenty of couches in the common rooms of other student’s rooms – I’ve actually taken a nap on one when I visited my son – and even in the Saybrook Library there are plenty of comfy couches. I imagine its the same at every college and your son’s ID will get him into his house college’s library at any time, so there’s absolutely no reason why your son should be out in the cold at 3:00am!</p>
<p>I agree with all who say that the time to be firm is now. Also, I wonder if the amorous couple ever sexile the roommate of the girlfriend? If the OP’s son is too accommodating, they may always expect him to vacate and never try to go to the girl’s room/suite.</p>
<p>If the roomate doesn’t give enough notice, then the roommate should have to be inconvenienced and find another location to bed his partner. Why should your son have to find other accommodations @ three in the morning? That’s a bunch of bs. Or the randy couple can wait until the next night which will allow your ds to find appropriate temporary housing. Having sex is NOT life or death. Trust me, it can wait…</p>
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My memory, distant as it is, was that at 18 waiting wasn’t what we were best at. Otoh, I also vaguely remember that we didn’t always need a bed, and for sure didn’t insist that it had to be our bed, in our room. </p>
<p>Roommate can either plan ahead in some kind of cooperative way, or get creative. </p>
<p>Absolutely!!! I agree!!! To hell with giving up his bed for non easentials at the last minute!! The last time I checked, humans don’t die from a lack of sex.</p>
<p>First, it’s not cold in New Haven, as litotes pointed out.
Second, the suite/common room thing
Third, OP has all of two posts.
Fourth, my kid and I have a very open relationship, but I guarantee he would not be sharing this particular set of troubles with his mama.</p>
<p>Really?</p>
<p>@classicmama, you had me until the fourth point. My kid absolutely would share the story, not looking for a solution from me, but along the lines of “I like my roommate, but the %<em>€}ing nerve of the ^</em>#{[}, last night he woke me up and told me …”</p>
<p><a href=“http://www.newhavenindependent.org/index.php/archives/entry/paul_is_not_dead/”>http://www.newhavenindependent.org/index.php/archives/entry/paul_is_not_dead/</a></p>
<p>An effort is being made to avoid fatalities by motor vehicle. Before cell phones, Yale students were notoriously known for running out into traffic. One stepped into the street yesterday, while looking down at her phone. I tapped her arm to get her attention so she wouldn’t get hit by an oncoming bus. She looked at me like I was nuts. Sighhhh…clueless.</p>
<p>One student even gave me the thank you wave when I stopped for her in the crosswalk, but I recognized her as another local so I waved back. </p>
<p>Over the years I’ve learned to accept Yale pedestrians as a force of nature requiring maximum pedestrian mode defensive driving–such as being prepared for them jumping into the crosswalk when you’re right on top of it. </p>
<p>It looks like the Yale club hockey team has a tournament during Parent’s Weekend. My son is conflicted, but I think we probably wouldn’t see much of him anyway, so no need to miss the tournament if he wants to go. As Google sees it, it’s around 1.5 hours to Brown (location for the tournament), so maybe we will see our son at Brown rather than Yale. </p>
<p>Some gripes: I know Yale isn’t the only team at the tournament, but couldn’t this be better timed? We only found out after booking our room (non-cancellable and with a mandatory extra gouge-nigh minimumt).</p>
<p>@IxnayBob that certainly could be better timed. Last year D’s friend found out that Family Weekend was also a recruit weekend. While she was not hosting a recruit, she was required to attend events with recruits. Her parents chose to come another weekend. I don’t think they got much notice. Don’t know if they had hotel reservations. We stayed in Milford, where there was no price gouging or minimums. We just drove in to campus each day.</p>
<p>Second musicmerit’s choice of hotel. We avoided the price-gouging and non-cancellable reservations for 8 years by staying in towns outside of New Haven–some only a 5-10 minute drive away and much more affordable.</p>
<p>I’m skipping parents weekend and flying my son home to FL during October break. Unfortunately his club waterpolo team has a tournament that same weekend @ Wesleyan, so now he’s coming for a short stay and return Friday for the tournament:(</p>
<p>Re the removing of a roommate to allow for the other roommate to have a private moment (or 3 hours) with his date, I was told by DS that it is referred to as “being sexiled.” </p>
<p>@IxnayBob - Re: hotel room. I would still call and try to cancel/get a refund (or at least a credit for a future stay). A friend of mine had a similar situation at another university - prepaid the gouged rate with a three night minimum for graduation. Her son “surprised” her with the news that he would be graduating a semester later (that must have been a fun night at their house!). She called the hotel and explained the situation and they were great about letting her cancel with a refund. At this point you know it is likely that they will be able to re-book that room!</p>
<p>Yes, most places keep a ‘waiting list’ for big event times. So, they most certainly will be able to re-book. Remind them that you most likely may be a ‘repeat’ customer since your son will be there for four years–perhaps that might help get you a refund or credit. Worth a try.</p>
<p>We are not sure what we want to do anyway, but might cancel and visit another weekend (we are a couple of hours away by car). We were supposed to go to some functions for fund-raising “volunteers,” but I think they’ll still have us make phone calls even if we miss the lunch :)</p>
<p>As luck would have it, it’s also Comi Con weekend in NYC, and younger child wants to attend. </p>
<p>So, it’s time to get together with DS and figure out what to do. First world problems. </p>
<p>I am even wondering if said “ceremony” is still slated to occur. After purchasing our senior son’s ring, I have emailed Yale ASA and left 2 phone messages to no avail. Can find no reference to this ceremony in weekend agenda posted online. Please post any details if you have them! We are trying to firm up travel plans. (I purchased through Balfour online…maybe that’s why.) Any feedback appreciated…Thanks.</p>
<p>I’d say to forget the ring ceremony, even if it happens. It’s not a Yale tradition, and is unlikely to become one. There will be better things to do.</p>