I offered to purchase the service for my son, but he rolled his eyes as if to say… “C’mon Dad, I’m not THAT helpless!”,
I will offer again over break… in case he reconsidered.
Thanks for the info. DD has never gotten pieces that don’t belong to her. She’s filed a complaint so we will see how that goes. Other than the missing items it’s been a good thing for her. She has quite a bit of dry clean only items
That was me my first year of boarding school. That lasted until the first break. The cost/benefit analysis of using dryers that did not dry made me give in and take my parents up on the offer.
^^ I guess I’m very old fashioned. Starting in 9th grade both my kids were responsible for doing their own laundry, including towels and sheets. Once they got to college, they just continued doing it on their own. We didn’t offer to pay for a laundry service, nor did they opt for one. I think it’s a skill every kid needs to learn.
@skieurope … thanks for the perspective. The way I see things, Yale is an amazing place, unique in the world. Every hour spent doing what Yale excels at is worth more than the expense of laundry.
And I’m with you on the life ski, Gibby. All three of my children took over their own laundry at 11. This was a gift but I definitely see the benefit, assuming we can solve the disappearing clothing issue.
Just to clarify, I do have to do laundry at home. Fortunately the dryer there actually functions. 
Nothing like laundry to get parental opinions rolling! My kid does his own laundry now, though I have my moments when the stinky athletic gear that never gets dried properly comes home. Most of the guys at his boarding school had laundry service because they were in shirts and ties every day. I agree that when kids have lots of dry cleaning costs, laundry service becomes not that much more expensive. Depends on the situation.
@tonymom: I’m not quite so religious about labels anymore (e.g. I no longer put them in socks!) , but I still sometimes pull them out for bigger items. I think my ds came to appreciate labels after a few guys in h.s. tried to claim that his favorite sweatshirt was theirs. Anyway, no eye rolls my way when I pull out the ironing board.
Ok this may sound totally neurotic but I was scrolling through the 2020 decisions thread and so many of the kids there were deferred or rejected. It breaks my heart for them. So many of them have worked hard.
I know my kid feels very blessed and fortunate and this gift of an amazing education is not lost on him (he gets it) but I can’t help but feel bad. Does this feeling ever fade?..
@tonymom: read the qualifications of those students. They’ll land somewhere and the colleges will be tripping over themselves to have snagged those kids. 99% of them are destined to super successful collegiate careers. So it’s not Yale. No tears to be shed.
@T26E4
No truer words were spoken. A talented bunch they are…
Just stupid mom vetching here…
@tonymom I feel your pain. But if I were in the admissions department, Yale would have 10,000 new freshman;)
It’s good news that Yale is opening two new residential colleges and so increasing opportunity for admission. And my son was looking at the stats this morning and pointing out that at least Yale defers a lot of its EA applicants. I think he told me that Stanford rejected 80 percent of theirs. The reality is that EA is primarily geared toward special interest applicants. My kid saw plenty of his top-notch friends at boarding school deferred in the first round and then accepted by Ivies and top 20 LACs in the regular round. All will be well…but a tough day for many.
… and then you have my neighbor’s child, deferred by Yale, a legacy, and I think he’s secretly relieved. Even if accepted, he might not choose to attend. Sometimes kids do have a good sense of fit.
@classicalmama: I actually wish Yale, Harvard and Princeton would be more like Stanford and reject 80% of SCEA applicants, as it’s a disservice to defer more applicants than you have room for in the freshman class – and that’s without including the 25.000 or so RD applicants. Last week the Boston Globe came out with an article which stated that just 2.3% of Harvard deferred applicants were offered acceptance letters in the RD round. I imagine the odds are about the same at Yale. Those are awful odds and it would IMHO be better for YALE to reject more students in the SCEA round than they defer.
@gibby…maybe so. I think my view of this may be skewed as my son’s friends were probably true deferrals (if that makes sense), rather than feel good referrals. OTOH, that 2.3% statistic doesn’t seem that far off the overall percentage of students in the RD round that are accepted–so you could argue that they’re essentially just getting a startover. When I look at the overall admit rate and think of the number of slots now available for that gigantic pile of applications, it seems to me that the RA admit rate must be close to 3 percent. Hopefully someone with better math skills than I will correct me if I’m off here!
That said, I always advise students who don’t have “tips” to apply to HYP in the regular decision round because I don’t think applying EA helps them at all. When we were doing our first set of college tours a few years back, the Dartmouth admissions officer came right out and told us that once athletes, first-gens., URMs, national/internationally ranked academic stuperstars, certain legacies, etc. were taken out of the pool, the remaining applicants’ chance of admission to Dartmouth was no greater ED than RD. And waiting a few months gives the applicant a chance to further polish essays, garner more achievements, and continue to show excellence in rigorous classes.
Hello everyone, my daughter is a proud new member of the Yale class of 2020! Just wanted to join in on the conversation.
I looked into hotels for Family Weekend, and most seem to be booked already. I also looked at old threads on recommended hotels for peak visit times. Any insider tips on getting a hotel room within close proximity to Yale for family weekend?
You don’t need to stay in NH if you have a car. We often stayed at the Hampton Inn in Milford; it is very reasonable in price and perfectly nice. I’d avoid the La Quinta in NH if you are looking outside downtown (it was filthy when we were there once). There are a couple other decent hotels in Milford, only about 10 miles away (I think there’s also a Fairfield Inn).
@Faulkner1897 - Welcome and congrats!
The Fairfield Inn Milford is now a Motel 6. We stayed under both names. It was still in decent shape this first year as a Motel 6. Cheaper and no breakfast. This was the third year we stayed there and it worked for us. We really are only there to sleep so we did not need anything fancy.
About deferrals. My D was deferred in 2012 and then accepted RD. If they do care about yield, I thought the fact that she applied EA gave them a good indication that Yale was her first choice. She wrote a letter expressing that she would attend if accepted. She also included some musical accomplishments that occurred after EA. Who knows what tip factor determined her RD acceptance?
@classicalmama The futility of applying early is particularly the case at Yale where 300 legacy + 300 recruited athletes + 50 Questbridge = 650 of <800 spots reserved before the first application is read.