<p>in terms of shopping…BBB etc… the Yale shuttle bus does make trips to Ikea… and many of the kids get things to feather their nest there… my older child had roommates who all came “from away” and we often got them bedding at Ikea for very affordable prices… they have twin XL sheets… and great prices on comforters and comforter covers… pillows at every price range… what is nice about waiting is that they can coordinate with their roommates potentially… the rooms on old campus are SMALL… VERY SMALL… so, less is MORE than enough… there is always parents weekend in October to get additional things…</p>
<p>yeah…i just want to say that you don’t absolutely have to go crazy with shopping, or shipping, (unless, of course, you want to). My daughter and her suitemates ended up not getting a refrigerator, or a microwave and do not seem to have missed having them. She brought bedding from home (we did get new sheets because of the whole x-long thing). She did a 6-day FOOT trip, I met her on move-in day, and made one trip to IKEA and one trip to TARGET. I did have a rental car in New Haven which was useful. The items they ended up getting for the common room were: 1 pole lamp w/ 3 lights, seat cushions for the window seat, a couple of butterfly chairs, 1 small bookcase. This was a very minimalist bunch of girls - not clear to me why exactly, but they just didn’t seem wildly interested in more. Later in the year, they got a couch. So, don’t sweat the whole ‘furnishing the suite’ thing too much - unless of course you want to.</p>
<p>I mentioned this last year - but I think it bears repeating.</p>
<p>I having a common room is terrific, but it does create a potentially awkward situation. These young people don’t know one another, they common from wildly different economic backgrounds, and they are in a position where they are sharing expenses with one another. So - I think it is important to just be aware that everyone may have different ideas about what to spend. </p>
<p>I agree with other posters who said less is more. There is NOT a lot of space in most of the common rooms. </p>
<p>Besides, it all gets moved at the end of the year :)</p>
<p>Once the kids get their suitemate assignments, some choose to figure out major purchases before getting to school. As worknprogress says, much depends on socioeconomic factors of the group, and their comfort level in talking with each other up front about who wants to buy a couch, for example, without somehow sounding like a control freak, or someone who has money galore to spend on furniture, and expects everyone else to, too. The “girls across the hall” had every common room item selected and purchased prior to move-in. My D’s suitemates didn’t want to discuss this over the summer, and had a sorting-out period of several weeks before it was decided who would buy what- no shared items- each girl “owned” particular things they took with them. I think guys tend to be more in the second group. Girls who like to build nests are more in the first group. You child may be very clear with you that they want to sort this out with their suitemates, without your input. This is a good thing.</p>
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I’m sure there are lots of different experiences, but my son didn’t slow down–in fact, he sped up and is doing a tremendous variety of stuff. So much that we are worried that he isn’t having enough fun–not a typical concern for parents of a college student. He assures us that he loves what he is doing, though.</p>
<p>Thanks Hunt for quoting the above ^^ still don’t know how to do that.</p>
<p>My observation is that Yale is full of kids who like your D who are involved in HS and stay involved in college…but they do get the balance right. My D reports all her friends are doing fine academically and they are all involved. One thing that has been really special is despite being involved in their own activities but they support each other. In the past weeks my D has attended concerts (vocal and instrumental), musicals, plays, Children’s Theatre, dance performances…all because she has friends performing. It is incredible. I think it is one of the defining characteristics of the students she knows at Yale…involved, take care of “business” (classes), and support each other. Learning is so much more than the classes. </p>
<p>Your D will thrive! She will figure it all out!</p>
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<p>I’m reluctantly posting this, but want to pass it along. I haven’t gotten an email from Yale on this topic yet, but am very worried: Tuesday night at 10:30 a Yale soph male was mugged at an ATM two blocks from campus and has a pretty significant head injury. First, my concern is for this student, who needs our thoughts and prayers. Second, please remind your kids they are not invulnerable, and to use every precaution. I know Yale is counseling them about this, but I firmly believe they need to hear it from us, too. I believe much of the “crime” around New Haven doesn’t impact our kids. This does.</p>
<p>That is unfortunate news. I hope the young man recovers. Do you know where the robbery took place? Our kids need to remember that campus is safe, but surrounding areas may not be, especially at night.</p>
<p>Below is the text of the email sent by the Yale chief of police Wednesday morning:</p>
<p>I write to let you know that a robbery occurred in the Bank of America parking lot located at 88 Broadway at 10:20 p.m. on Tuesday, May 4, 2010. An undergraduate student was walking toward the ATM to withdraw money when approached from behind and struck in the back of the head. A wallet with a small amount of cash was taken and the subject fled the area. Minor injuries were reported. </p>
<p>In addition, Yale Police received a report from a third party that a student from another university was the victim of a sexual assault that occurred somewhere on campus the evening of April 27, 2010. We have no further information at this time. I urge all members of the university community to exercise caution in large social gatherings and during and following any end-of-year celebrations. If you have been the victim of such an incident or you have knowledge that such an incident occurred, please call the Yale Police. We will assist in any way possible, including providing referrals to other resources such as the Sexual Harassment and Assault Resource and Education Center, Yale University Health Services or a victim advocate. You may also contact your Dean.</p>
<p>If you are the victim of any crime or should witness suspicious activity, please report it to the Yale Police at 203-432-4400.</p>
<p>Sincerely.
Chief James A. Perrotti</p>
<p>Hope D1 heeds this as she banks at BofA.</p>
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<p>Who hits somebody BEFORE they get their money out? No wonder the student wasn’t paying attention to his or her surroundings. I am going to remind my daughter to withdraw money in daylight. I try to trust my daughter’s good sense - but at this time of the year when they are up late writing papers and studying - not a bad reminder.</p>
<p>In general, those who use Bank of America should use the ATM in the Bass library or the one in Durfee’s rather than the one on Broadway. It’s a lot safer, especially at night. The one at Bass even accepts deposits, so there’s no reason to go to the branch unless you actually have to talk to a person (which obviously isn’t a reason to go there late at night).</p>
<p>At one time, I was followed by some suspicious person while I was walking toward the courtyard hotel on Broadway, which is located one block to the west of Bank of America. Luckily, I had entered the hotel before that person caught up with me. It was 3:00 pm.</p>
<p>It is also strange to me that the person at the front desk of Courtyard Hotel needs to push a button before the sliding door to that Hotel would open.</p>
<p>Whenever I can, I would rather stay at Omni Hotel on Temple st. I have gone to the UPS store on Broadway before 5:00 pm several times though. Do you think the area near the UPS store is safe?</p>
<p>How about the area near the new “Study at Yale” hotel on Chapel St. IN THE EVENING (e.g., 10 pm). Study at Yale hotel was Hotel Duncan before it was renovated. It is near the Thai Taste restaurant and the School of Architecture.</p>
<p>This incident is particularly scary to me because the shortest path between Old Campus, a number of the residential colleges, and the gym (Payne Whitney) is right past this ATM on Broadway. It’s also near Au Bon Pan, the Yale Bookstore, and the other “most frequented” retailers for Yale students. Hundreds of students walk down this block at all hours of the day and night, especially if they are trying to sqeeze in a workout, or are an athlete. I think this incident represents a new level of brazenness, much too close to campus. There is no way students could be advised to “avoid this area.” It can’t be done. YPD should be all over this, in my opinion.</p>
<p>I agree RR. I know that generally D travels with another student at night, but that area is usually pretty busy, so I could imagine her being there by herself. To me, it seems like part of the campus itself. </p>
<p>My thoughts and prayers and with the student and his family - his parents must be beside themselves!</p>
<p>Riverruner, you actually are incorrect about the location of the ATM - it’s at the Bank of America branch that is on the other side of Broadway from the places you’re talking about. I know to most people crossing a street doesn’t seem like it could produce a big difference in safety, but this is a divided street with a parking lot in the middle of it, one side of which is full of campus activity (the side riverruner described with restaurants, the bookstore, etc), the other of which is pretty empty at night, and always a bit sketchy. No one going to the gym from Yale’s campus would have any reason to walk by that Bank of America - it’s very definitely off campus, and feels off campus, in a way that the other side of Broadway doesn’t. Students can very much avoid that area at night - I’ve only walked there at night when with someone else, and it’s never inconvenienced me.</p>
<p>You can see the location here to get a sense of what I mean: <a href=“Google Maps”>Google Maps;
<p>My mistake, svalbard. Yes, the ATM is across the street from the Yale Bookstore. This doesn’t change things much in my view. Every visitor to Yale who wants a t-shirt has been on this block, and many parents, families and prospective students stay at the Courtyard Marriot (mentioned above) which is one block further west of this location. </p>
<p>My point is, while this area of Broadway isn’t technically owned by Yale, it is certainly frequented by students. Toad’s, Ashley’s Ice Cream, etc. are within a block of the ATM, and kids are there late at night, every night of the week. I’m going to stand by my concern that this is a new level of crime, too close to campus. The alternative is there have been a lot more incidents in this area, and I’m just not aware of them. Either way, I hope YPD steps up their presence here.</p>
<p>Thanks Sval. That is a LITTLE better than the ATM I was thinking about - but not much. </p>
<p>I hope that Yale continues to regard student safety as its greatest obligation. In a time when they are looking for ways to scale back spending, I would hope this would not be touched. In fact, if anything, a greater emphasis might be necessary as other resources in New Haven become tighter.</p>
<p>I just talked to my son about this, and he said this was not a place one should go at 10:30 at night. It really is quite a different place from the other side of Broadway–it’s not like being on the same block, really. Students at Yale have to remember that the campus is in the middle of a city, and that it’s permeable. If you have a kid who’s staying on campus between the end of exams and commencement, you might want to remind them of this, because there will be fewer people around for the next few weeks.</p>