@jym626 I don’t understand the irony, either. Coincidence, sure.
I’m a descendant of a slave who was raped (I’m white, one of her children “passed” and moved away from Maryland then married a white woman.) This kind of story is much more common than you’d think if your family has been in the U.S. for a long time.
I also didn’t find this out until I was an adult. Am I supposed to have some sort of affinity with the slaveowner, who is my ancestor? Because I don’t.