Yep, I had that issue too with my last dishwasher too, but the Costco pods’ plastic is thinner and dissolves better. The namebrand cascade ones tend to muck up the dishwasher.
The only reason I went to Costco pods was because my daughter was on a budget when she lived away at school. That was the only kind that her apartments recommended. I use them and was impressed by how clean they got everything. Now I use them religiously in my brand new dishwasher and we haven’t had an issue. We did have previous issues with my other dishwashers and the cascade pods.
I’m not an especially neat person. But I put dishes in DW right away (usually no rinsing). Once in a while we will leave a crusted casserole dish soaking - it really does help.
My H and I are having a silent dishwashing debate RIGHT NOW.
I do 98% of the cooking in our home. That 2% he does is getting himself a bowl of cereal for breakfast or maybe making an egg for himself. And I do 98% of the clean up for all that food I make.
Admittedly this is a side debate of another debate BUT yesterday I made homemade cinnamon rolls, chicken breakfast sausage and fruit for breakfast. He never eats breakfast in a timely manner so I asked when I was done if he wanted the rest. He said yes. So I left the breakfast nicely on a plate and I cleaned up the rest of the dishes. Then I left for a couple hours for errands.
When I came home he was gone, the breakfast was eaten - and the plate and silverware left in the sink. It did not need to be soaked. He just didn’t take the time to put it away. I decided not to put it away. (We do not as a rule leave any dishes in the sink) Well, it’s 24 hours later, I’ve made last night’s dinner, this morning’s breakfast and a little lunch. His dish and silverware still sitting in the sink. It’s dumb but I refuse to put it away!
When is he just going to pick it up and put it away? He’s had other food since then!
What a life it must be to have someone cook and clean up for you most all the food you put in your mouth. That dish in the sink is a symbol of 43 years of getting plenty served to him and ME wanting something given back!!!
One of my favorite Everybody Loves Raymond episode involved a suitcase that was left on the landing of the stairs after vacation. Dh and I laughed so hard while watching that episode and I still remember it to this day. We still bring it up every so often. While not exactly the same situation, your husband leaving his dishes reminded me of it.
And do all your laundry and have it magically appear in drawers and on hangers? And clean your house? I feel this, too.
Dh does help clean up after we eat, but he professes fear of attempting to clean the Instant Pot or Air Fryer. How convenient. We really do have a one-butt kitchen, though. Can’t be a team effort.
I’m assuming you have previously expressed your desire that he load his dishes in the D/W (I haven’t read through the entire thread)?
My fil never even carried a dish over from the table. My nephew pointed this out to him when he was probably only four years old. “Grandpa, you didn’t carry your plate to the sink.” When mil would do girls’ trips he would pile all his dishes in the sink. Never loaded them in the D/W. I think he went to his grave not knowing how to run it.
We had this problem early in our marriage. My mistake was leaving the dishes/clothes/whatever where they were waiting (passively aggressive and increasingly angry) for him take care of them – he knew the “rules.” The issue was that he really didn’t (and often still doesn’t) see the mess because it’s unimportant to him even though he knows how critical neatness is to me. And I would get really angry at what seemed to me a lack of respect. Eventually, I learned that he was not lazy and there was no disrespect intended, but I would be waiting until the Lions won the SuperBowl before his domestic eyesight would improve. He came up with the solution: “Just point it out and ask me to pick up/clean/do whatever, and I promise I will do it right away.” I really don’t want to have to do this as it seems like nagging, but he’s been as good as his word, and it solved the problem for us.
That he would somehow change his nature was magical thinking I had to let go of.
Well I ended up needing the plate he didn’t wash so I did it myself. Still mad about it but will let it go. He certainly knows what I prefer…after all married 43 years. As I said this was sort of step 2 in a battle and the one thing I ALSO do is be the one to forget the battle and move on .
At least since he retired he does his own laundry!
I really don’t get why people put dishes in the sink instead of DW (unless the DW happens to be running or full/clean). Well, I suppose it might be justified in some cases the parent or spouse is really picky with how dishes get loaded into the DW.
I’m a couple days behind and just catching up with this thread, but I’m surprised there was no reaction to this. I thought once you had your cast iron skillet properly seasoned, you would burn in eternal hellfire if you allowed soap/detergent anywhere near it. Do I need deprogramming?
Also one of those Swedish engineers / rabid raccoon couples. We run our dishwasher 1 or 2 times a week, I like to wait until it’s full. We do pots/pans by hand. Also a point of contention in my house. DH doesn’t rinse dishes, and thinks water will somehow miraculously get in there to clean the item even when two cups are nested on top of each other.
I used to get mad that I was the only one doing all the dishes. So he started loading stuff in the DW and then I got mad because I had to take everything out and reload it or else things would come out not clean.
Finally came up with a solution. I do all loading of the DW and he does all the washing of the pots and pan by hand. I no longer get mad that I am doing everything and we now have dishes that were properly loaded and are clean. A win-win for all!
Editing to add that we finally replaced our 15 year old KitchenAid with a Bosch. So going to be doing a bit less pre-rinsing now!
We don’t rinse before putting most items in the dishwasher. I have three exceptions that my husband forgets, quinoa, farro and avocado. The farro and quinoa clog the holes in the spray arm. Avocado is stubborn and it doesn’t come off the flatware.
I’ve never tried the Costco pods but I’m going to buy them when I finish my current pods. I should consider going back to liquid as youngest grandchild has taken to opening all the cabinets.
This did catch my eye but more recently I’ve read a little soap on tougher cast iron residue is ok if you rinse well and season afterwards. So I’ve don’t it occasionally but only if really needed.
