I've started building a college list and the more time I spend on it, the more I realize that I'm one of those kids who's stuck in the prestige mindset. I'm not ignorant, I know that there are some benefits of going to a less selective school over a T20, but I can't help but feel like this mindset isn't going to go away.
For a bit of context, I happen to go to a private HS that's pretty close to my state flagship. We send over 40% of our students there each year (another 35% go to the other big state school we have). The state flagship is no joke—it hovers around a match/reach school for most people, but just because of the area and how common it is for kids to go there, people have this crazy idea that it's a safety school. Not only that but in many Asian circles (especially immigrant ones) it's actually looked down upon if someone goes there (it's like they failed to reach their potential of going to an Ivy or something ridiculous like that).
Maybe it's because I come from an immigrant family so there's definitely a lot of emphasis and concern surrounding college, but I can't stop feeling like I need to go to a T20. How in the world do I break this mindset? I really don't want to be in a world of hurt if I get rejected by all my reach schools.