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Scared I will not get into college

joeblue32joeblue32 Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
Hello everyone. I hope to get some knowledge from this post.

I suffer from depression, anxiety, and extreme ADHD. Freshman year of high school was very difficult for me and I have improved since then but I still do not have very good grades. I go to a very hard school with a 7 point grading scale meaning that a 92 is a B. I am very smart and have a lot of potential, I just cannot focus on anything, but I cannot get on ADHD medicine because my doctors say my anxiety is to bad. What are my options? I have scraped by with a 2.5 on a 7 point grade scale and I have an 1050 SAT and I take ACT in March. Could I get into college? Should I tell them about my issues?
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Replies to: Scared I will not get into college

  • DustyfeathersDustyfeathers Registered User Posts: 3,265 Senior Member
    I agree with the above comment. I would only add that gap time can be as long as you need it to be. Be sure to not complicate your life with any major life changes -- like don't get married, get pregnant, or get someone else pregnant. Be sure to stay clean and sober. If you do that, then take as much time as you need to figure things out and to feel more comfortable with yourself. One of my children (very smart, very capable) is currently in gap limbo in year 2+ since high school. This child spent much time trying this, trying that, and over time has found some jobs and professions that feel right. That gives child direction in life. Child has also been able to save some money for college by working. Child will eventually go to a community college and then transfer to a 4 year, but there's no rush.

    Here are some things you might want to consider. Be sure to include your adult advisors/ parents as you think about next steps --

    Student Conservation Association -- https://www.thesca.org/serve/youth-programs

    Americorps -- https://www.nationalservice.gov/programs/americorps this is a government organization where you work, get a uniform, a place to live, some spending money and at the end some money towards college.

    Volunteer.gov -- https://www.volunteer.gov/

    Coolworks -- https://www.coolworks.com/ paying work in great places.

    Workaway -- https://www.workaway.info/
  • bopperbopper Forum Champion CWRU Posts: 12,450 Forum Champion
    Also perhaps talk to another doctor...can they help you manage both conditions?
  • taverngirltaverngirl Registered User Posts: 593 Member
    You also may want to look into executive functioning coaching; it is something I'm looking into for my son with ADHD who does not want medication (has intermittent tics that will be exacerbated with ADHD meds). I'm still in the research phase, but it looks promising.
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 39,641 Senior Member
    I would imagine your add would create anxiety too, so why not see another doctor who might be willing to look for anti anxiety medicine that isn't made impotent by ADD medicine.
    Your grades aren't good but it's really terrific you got C's and B's with such heightened anxiety AND untreated ADD AND a school where 92= B!
    Do you have accomodations for ADD at school (tests in quiet place facing the wall or in an empty cubicle so as to minimize any distraction for instance).
    What classes have you taken so far in...
    English
    Math
    Foreign Language
    Social science
    Science
    Electives
    ?
    There are lots of colleges for a 1050 SAT although you may retake to try and improve. Since you're taking the ACT in March, take a class to prepare (sometimes high schools offer one, sometimes the library). You might want to invest in a good tutor, working one on one in a room with no distractions, in a low pressure environment (sitting on beanbag chairs, no target score just mastering one thing at a time).
    What's your parents' budget?
  • Groundwork2022Groundwork2022 Registered User Posts: 1,183 Senior Member
    Since you have a diagnosis, you might want to have a parent and guidance counselor look into taking the SAT and ACT untimed, which might help to reduce your anxiety about those tests.

    In general, your guidance counselor should be the one to tell a four year college about your health issues, not you. I would agree that you might want to start off in a community college to give you more flexibility while you get a handle on your health.
  • joeblue32joeblue32 Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
    I go to a private school where Special help for ADHD is very limited. My parents make good money and will definitely be able to help put me through college. I just feel very depressed and really hopeless because my mental health has really messed up my life and I wanna get back on track. I just can’t seem to get things up
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 39,641 Senior Member
    Are you a senior or a junior?

    Untimed testing and testing in a room without distractions would seem like very simple accomodations - I would even imagine it's illegal not to provide accomodations but since it's a private school it might be legal, just as unfair though.

    Don't assume college budget - you really need to know.
    What region of the US do you live ib?
  • joeblue32joeblue32 Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
    I really appreciate all the suggestions, it has really made me calm down a bit. Thank you so much
  • joeblue32joeblue32 Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
    I am a junior
  • MYOS1634MYOS1634 Registered User Posts: 39,641 Senior Member
    Do you have to stay at your current school? Might you be able to transfer to a public school, where accomodations are mandatory and where you wouldn't be in a high stress environment? Or would switching schools cause you anxiety such that the cost/benefit would make it too costly?

    What region do you live in?


    What classes have you taken so far in each category
    English
    Math
    Foreign Language
    Social science
    Science
    Electives
    ?
  • retiredfarmerretiredfarmer Registered User Posts: 791 Member
    @joeblue32

    Did fine in school/college until a bad family situation developed. In the matter of a few months all I could do was sleep. Flunked out of college and took a forced time out. The time off and change in of environment was all that helped me. The depression eased off through ski bumming and the military (never went to a war zone).

    I am not a doctor, but I do believe you need to find a medical solution. You are not at fault. I vote with "akin67."
  • joeblue32joeblue32 Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
    Doubt I will be able to switch schools, I have taken all CP classes and I’ve
    Never failed a class. I’ve always kept basically B and C grades but like I said it was on a 7 point grading scale. I’ve taken all the basic CP classes in each subject.

    Science- Physical science
    CP Bio
    CP Chem

    English 1 2 3

    Took 3 years of Italian

    Math- CP algebra 1
    CP geometry
    Algebra 2 trig

    Took all basic CP history classes

    I just really want the college experience and I’m afraid that If I don’t go straight to college that I’ll never be able to have a college experience with new friends
  • joeblue32joeblue32 Registered User Posts: 6 New Member
    I just really want the college experience of meeting new people and I feel like if I don’t go straight in I’ll never be able to have that experience. I’ve lost so many things because of my mental health and I am on medicine and in counseling but they won’t put me on ADHD medicine because of my anxiety. I’m just really scared for my future
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