What Can I Do?

I’m a Junior, my dad died in late November. Since then I’ve tried my best but my grades dropped from high 90s to anywhere from 65 to 95, depending on the class. I already had my share of mental issues, and this only made it worse. I know I’ll get in somewhere, but at this point it feels worthless to even try. I cant focus anymore, it’s hard to finish most of my assignments if they aren’t something I’m actually interested in, and even when I do it feels half baked.
To make it worse, my mom is trying to move us out of state. I’d be in a new district, new teachers, no friends, my senior year is basically screwed. I had my extracurriculars set at this school, volunteer hours at the local library, accepted into our CTE program, and I just got voted president for the coming year in one of the bigger clubs at my school. It feels like it’s all just gone.
I could stay here and live with my aunt for the school year, but I’d lose the rest of my family close to eight hours away. Is that the better option here? Or can I make senior year work at a new school? If colleges know about my circumstances, how much will my grades this year affect my chances for admissions?

Thanks

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So sorry to hear about your dad’s passing.

Take a deep breath.

Is there a counselor or psychologist you can talk to?

It’s a time to grieve and focus on your well being vs excelling at school.

Good luck.

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So sorry to hear that.

In terms of any less than stellar grades right now you can ask your guidance counselor to describe the circumstances.

In terms of next year, don’t make any decision right now. You have time to consider which of the (imperfect) options will work best for you. Maybe your mom will consider postponing the move for one year. Take care of yourself and your mental health.

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Agree, please focus on your mental health and taking care of yourself. There is no rule that says you immediately have to go to college right after high school. You could take the time you need to care for yourself and your family. College will always be there. We are rooting for you!!! Talk to your mom. Be there for each other.

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