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No Happy News at My Desk...
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Replies to: No Happy News at My Desk...
That's what I, along with DadofB&G, kick ourselves for. No. She doesn't. We looked at Tufts and Northwestern - she didn't like them. I know now we should probably have looked at Duke, Vanderbilt, Emory, and Rice - but she is a redhead who sunburns from even looking at a bluesky, and I was(was)unaware of how much of a crapshoot we are talking about. I didn't know that 1470 was a weakness in SATs, she only took them once....and she didn't study on her own...Princeton Review not so great....
But we did what we did. And now of course even though she is proud she says the problem with Berkeley is that everyone will be from California, even though she was the one who told me that if she didn't get into the Ivies she would just as soon stay in CA. Yes, our weather is the best, BTW. But the Regents is great. And she is the kind of kid who is undaunted by numbers, or distant professors. All along I have told myself that Cal in some ways is the best fit for her to challenge her desire to be the boss of the world. (As an aside, when she was little, I had to periodically allow her to be the "boss of the day" to survive).
And I am still holding on to the thought that my alma mater, the alum of my name, will give us a break. Although even if they don't, I love Princeton, I always will. So if anyone else has a kid who gets in and is undecided, send him/her my way for a conversation.
The WLs just plain stink...I know: been there, done that...my S got a flat-out rejection (how to make a WL feel better: get a rejection instead) from Stanford in December...not sure the sting will ever really go away. He got 4 acceptances in the last week...I like the 4 acceptances a whole lot more than the rejection...
So, think about Berekely and a pox on all those elites who play mind games w/our our kids (and hence torture us)...you know what's the best thing about all this? How cool the kids are about acceptances as well as rejections...S is happy about his choices, but recognizes there's as much luck in the "yes's" as there was in the "no"...how did they get to be so level-headed and together when they're only 17 & 18???
As for me: I vote celebrating to the max (let that cyber-champagne flow!) on the good news (Berkeley/Regents is definitely worth celebrating!)...and more of that pox on all those elites who aren't smart enough to accept our kids!
Here's a hug for your daughter...we don't know each other, but the hug is full of love and admiration for her job well done...
I recall far too well the year my daughter was applying to schools and hated the three safeties she got into, money or no money, and was waitlisted at the other three choices, Swarthmore, Harvard, and Princeton. She called upon two faculty members who wrote impassioned letters for her to Swarthmore and after some time passed in May, she got in to Swat. It was a really scary time for us, as she was sure she would be miserable anywhere but Swat.
From my investigations of Berkeley, there are so many opportunities available for students, it is a fabulous place. But my heart goes out to you as you wait to see what happens next. . .it can be so tough. Fingers crossed for Princeton!!!
I am all too familiar with the emotions in your home tonight and I sincerely feel your pain for your D. We send our hugs your way and know that this will pass quickly. She will realize how wonderful she is and how very happy she is to have the opportunity and honor that she has achieved. Congratulations to her!!! (and remind her how lucky they would have been to have her in their student body) My D was rejected by Brown (after an ED deferral) and waitlisted at Cornell. But she does have 5 acceptances (Bucknell, Vanderbilt, Syracuse, Wake Forest and Tulane) to choose from with really nice aid as well. I know our Ds will excell this fall at whichever school is lucky enough to get them
Please don't focus so much on the "SAT" angle, as your daughter's scores are very good. If you look at the decision threads of the Ivy League schools, it seems like just as many students with SATs in the high 1500's and even 1600 and with almost perfect SAT 2s were rejected as those with lower (but still very good) SATs similar to your daughters. The more I look at those threads, the more the process really does seem like a "lottery" or a "crapshoot." I know it is easier said than done, but please try to relax a little bit during these most stressful few days!
Big huggs and a cyber cone for you in your favorite flavor.
COngrats to you daughter on Berkley and the regents scholarship (good news, good news)
Sorry to hear about the wait list (just a temporaty setback) It was nothing she did because all of the Ivies had a bump in applications with the same limited amount of slots for admissions. She needs to think about if she want to take a place in the wait list. It is not over yet as you haven't heard form the last 2.
We hate for anything to hurt our kids, next year as you see that blur of red hair flashing by you happy as a lark today will be a distant memory.
When my D applied, she got into her first choice school with merit money, but the rejection and waitlist that she also got from two others still hurt. Much as we say it is a crapshoot, or that they admitted their ballet dancer who was great at math during ED, and that it is not personal, it still can feel that way to our kids, and to us.
But my D got over it quickly, and yours will too! Berkeley is a really big one! I hope her disappointment/shock soon turns to happy anticipation!
I am thinking of you and your D. I know the disappointment you are feeling. I want to mention that there are two possible outcomes to a kid like yours going to Berkeley: (1) she could spend a year there, then transfer anywhere in the world if she didn't love it, (2) she will love it and never want to leave.
Neither outcome is bad!!
Keep your fingers crossed. Your D has a fighting chance at any school and there are two to go yet.
XO
Congrats on Berkeley. Fantastic school. Good luck on Princeton and Stanford.
And if she came so close at H and C, that legacy at P might just push her over.
but if not, start planning something special she could do for a summer program or travel with that money saved from her scholarship.
Congratulations on your D's acceptance to the Regents program at Cal. Many kids would give their eye teeth to be in her shoes. She applied to the top schools (didn't notice any second tier schools in your list) and should be proud of her accomplishments. Start celebrating! There are no rejection letters in that pile!
When he was accepted at a school he really wanted to attend I told him I loved him and was proud, but would have been so even if he had been rejected.
This is the second time through this process and both my kids were accepted at great schools but I think it a very hard and negative experience for kids and in some ways they are exploited by the colleges. I wish there was an alternative possible.