* 20 yrs ago I had a screaming toddler. I asked my mom and dad what to do; my mom said "hug him and love him!" and my dad said "he needs spanking!" and I thought - gosh, that's how I must have been raised; both parents doing what they thought was best for me, but very conflicting. I don't ask for much advice any more with my kids but certainly read, listen and learn about parenting styles from others.