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So what do you do with an empty-nest?


Replies to: So what do you do with an empty-nest?

  • snowballsnowball Registered User Posts: 2,714 Senior Member
    @eastcoascrazy I know you posted a year ago, but do you know that the Heirloom app is shutting down? There is a message on their website about saving your photos before this happens.

  • rockymtnhighrockymtnhigh Registered User Posts: 1,921 Senior Member
    Good for you veruca! I am in my second year at local U taking audit classes and love it.
  • verucaveruca Registered User Posts: 1,193 Senior Member
    Just got home from taking D to college. The empty nest has officially started. I cried as I got in the car -but I am doing OK now. I think an adult beverage may be on for tonight.
  • abasketabasket Registered User Posts: 16,753 Senior Member
    Hugs to you Veruca. One day at a time! For everyone! :) <3
  • BarbalotBarbalot Registered User Posts: 443 Member
    There's a new book called Mrs. Fletcher by Tom Perrotta about a divorced mom whose son is leaving for his first year of college and her experience of the empty nest. I just read the sample available online, and I like it. It alternates between the mom and the aspiring frat boy son, who anticipates lots of partying, but starts to flounder. From reading about it online, I do know the mom, who is a senior center director and in her late 40s, starts getting into Internet porn, so this book may not be for everyone.
  • verucaveruca Registered User Posts: 1,193 Senior Member
    Well that is one way to cope that I hadn't considered ;)
  • shawbridgeshawbridge Registered User Posts: 5,258 Senior Member
    Love the premise. Probably not the most likely path for CC empty nesters, but made me laugh.

    We are now long-time empty-nesters -- our youngest left for college in 2011, I believe. She is now 24 and working as a nurse practitioner and works in a town one and half hours away. She has a boyfriend who lives in our city and drives in most weekends, so we see her every two or three weeks. Our son is Silicon Valley, finishing up grad school and starting his second company. He calls me regularly for business advice -- he calls to report successes as well as to ask for my advice on strategic matters (valuation, first hire, etc.) plus general feedback (name of company) and encouragement. We spend the winter on the west coast and see him about every other week. Plus he had a major surgery last spring and he stayed with us for about three weeks while he was recovering.

    So, while empty, the nest has a few visits and lots of meetings. We were hiking in the Canadian Rockies and met a retired couple who had one kid in Calgary and one kid in Ottawa. When they retired, they moved from the Toronto area to Canmore (a former mining town in the Canadian Rockies) at the advice of both kids -- the Calgarian grandkids come up on weekends and the grandkids from Ottawa come for vacations. We're wondering if we can have a place that enables those visits.
  • hannuhyluhannuhylu Registered User Posts: 276 Junior Member
    Sell the house, be a short term renter, take contract jobs throughout the us (wife can work anywhere close to a major airport), if the kids stay in college and dont screw up go see them from time to time.

    Lots of husband and wife time :) (: and travel!!
  • HouseChatteHouseChatte Registered User Posts: 38 Junior Member
    Offspring have been out of the house since 2009 / 2011, but right in there my mother moved in for a couple of years. She moved to her own apartment about eighteen months ago. Empty nesting, round 2 for DH and me. Then he got a job out of state -- empty nesting for me, myself, and I, round 1. But Karma is sometimes kind, and the puppy we'd been waiting for showed up three weeks after DH and I got our out-of-state apartment set up. We kept the house since DH is coming back as soon as he can find something here. Puppy and I hold down the fort and go around different parts of the country visiting family. :)

    Husband and I are only children of widowed mothers in their 80s. They both live in the area here, and I've been doing some errands, a little help with downsizing and housekeeping, admin support when they ask for it, things like that. There are days it really really helps to have a dog. :o3
  • HImomHImom Registered User Posts: 29,700 Senior Member
    Over the past year, we've been playing an online game and over the past few months, have met some other empty-nesting adults and have started several friendships with them. :)
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