<p>Not sure why I’m posting this. Its been two years on Saturday that we lost my husband. Two years since his suffering ended and ours began in earnest. Two years of huge changes, graduations, weddings and even a grandchild (from older sibling). Everyone is doing better than expected. Despite the happiness that such milestones bring, it is a sad and lonely road. </p>
<p>I’m not looking for a “pity party” believe me. But We (and the world) lost a brillant, wonderful man and I couldnt let the anniversary pass without acknowledging the loss.
Off to put sunflowers on the grave, but he deserves so much more…</p>
<p>Our local florist, I dont know how she works her magic, but always has them for me. Its a long standing favorite flower. His funeral spray was dozens of sunflowers, absolutely beautiful.</p>
<p>My sincere sympathy. I haven’t lost a husband, so cannot pretend to even know the pain of your loss, but I have lost two sisters and it is a void that will never cease. Coming to the anniversary of their deaths is aways signficant. All I can say is, keep celebrating the love you shared with him and know that it continues on…</p>
<p>Oh, SS, I am so sorry. I remember your original post about your husband and how much it affected me. I can’t believe it’s been 2 years. He sounds like a truly wonderful man. Peace.</p>
<p>So sorry, sistersunnie. I think of you often because that was around the time I started following CC and that’s one of the first things I remember following. My niece lost her mom in her teens, and she said the same thing. Every good thing that happens to her brings mixed emotions. So happy for the event happening, yet sadness that her mom isn’t there to share it with her. How wonderful that you shared your life with such an amazing man. I lift you up today in prayer.</p>
<p>Anniversarys stir up painful memories of our lost loved ones, but my wish for yu today is that you can find some comfort in the wonderful memories that you were able to share. Time does NOT heal all wounds, we just learn how to cope with the pain of our loss more. </p>
<p>I am happy that you were able to have that special person in your life that meant so much…that is a very successful life. Your husbnd sounds like a wonderful man that would want you to be nothing but happy.</p>
<p>I can’t believe it’s been two years! I am so sorry, and I can understand how significant anniversaries can be. This is not at all in the same ballpark as your loss, but before managing to have children I had 4 miscarriages. Every year on the anniversary of the first one (the most painful because I was supposed to be past the vulnerable period), I would get depressed, even before I realized the significance of the date. </p>
<p>I hope that this next year brings comfort and some happiness, to you and your children. Congratulations on the grandchild!</p>
<p>My father-in-law died over a decade ago. I knew it would be hard for my mother-in-law, but I was shocked at how it knocked her off-kilter. She is an extremely strong person but I would say that for about 5 years she had a seriously difficult time adjusting to life in general without her life partner. She has taken medication ever since he died to help her cope.</p>
<p>Sunnie - As I once told you, our closest friend lost her beloved spouse in February 09 after his eight year battle with cancer. Much like you, these two were truly each other’s best friend. They started dating when they were in high school and they were devoted to each other. My friend was with her two adult sons this past year on the anniversary, and they all agreed that in many ways the second year was tougher than the first. Perhaps it was the permanence that was made it so difficult. </p>
<p>I think of you often. I know my friend has done all the “right” things. She has gone to a support group, she accepts any and all invitations from friends, she even went on a little weekend trip by herself. It still hurts like crazy all the time. I do think marriages are different. And because hers and yours were so incredibly good, it makes it all the harder. </p>