Hope this isn’t too off topic for forum but I could really use some advance from parents who may have been there done that.
I have a rising college junior who has always been very introverted. Met his first girlfriend about 7 months ago at college. The relationship quickly became infatuation and almost obsessive in seeing and only spending time with each other. He stopped calling home, stopped hanging out with friends, stopped doing his extra curriculars at college, spend entire weekends at her family since her school was remote etc. He begrudgingly came home for summer to work since it was financially sensible.
He’s been home a week and it is horrible. He will not leave his bedroom (literally).(his internship is remote from home) Will not talk to any other family members even siblings who he was close to. Acts like we don’t exist. Won’t do anything with anyone. Talks and texts NONSTOP to his girlfriend. She is usually on his FaceTime most of the day. It’s like having another person in the house.
I suggested he come out of his bedroom this morning to eat breakfast with us and he flipped. Said he should have stayed at school because we don’t leave him alone and that this sort of stuff will drive him away more…
I am not sure what to do. His relationship is not sustainable like this. His mental health is concerning. He has cut everyone off. I don’t know what to do because he is of age and I can’t force him to a counselor or anything like that. He does have adhd ocd and anxiety. It’s like the relationship has become an addiction. Do these first relationships slow down after some time. My daughters never acted like this with their boyfriends so this is new to us. Thanks