@atomom , that’s a beautiful dress and what a deal! Love the ink blue color, too.
Since I’m short, I’m going to try a few midi length dresses from Nordstrom to see if they’re floor length on me. So many of the dresses I’ve seen have some detail at/near the hem that would be lost if the dress had to be shortened.
I told FSiL’s mom that I’ll wear a long dress to hide orthopedic shoes and compression stockings and she was relieved. It turns out that she has similar problems and wants to wear either a long dress or dressy pants outfit. As for color, I told her what has been picked out for attendants and the colors I’m considering, but that I don’t want her to feel restricted to match them. The only requests from my daughter are that she not wear black, white or ivory.
That’s a gorgeous dress @atomom. My only concern…I’m high waisted, they asked for a height from shoulders to floor and from head to floor… it not from waist to floor. That is where I run into problems. I’m high waisted…and not particularly well endowed on the top! Often regular size dresses are simply too long waisted for me.
@runnersmom, how about picking out a few dresses online that are the type(s) you think you might like and emailing them to FDIL and her mother? You could ask if any particular type resonated with the kind of group image they had in mind/would be likely to work well with whatever the MOB might pick out.
NOT having them pick out an actual dress for you–I’d make that clear! --but just getting some guidance.
Well, when my daughter got married, I wore a dressy blue jump suit & MOG wore a very traditional 2-piece skirt/top ensemble. I don’t know what MOG thought about my outfit… but it was an outdoor wedding and I didn’t want to go too formal, and I don’t wear short skirts any more because I don’t like the way my 63 year old legs look.
You were the MOB. You get to wear whatever you want, as long as your D approves. And you are not the sort of woman who gets all judgmental about what other women wear, I think.
Does anyone remember what ages of children require high chairs and what ages require booster seats at restaurants?
My daughter has received a massive list of questions from her wedding venue, and one of them is how many high chairs and booster seats she will need for the children at the wedding. It would be a little awkward to ask the parents directly because the wedding is still four months away, which means that technically, nobody has been invited yet.
So I thought the collective wisdom of CC might be able to help us out here (as you have so many times, on so many topics).
calmom, I will be wearing a pair of dressy black pants and silky black tank and a duster or flowing top of some kind.
I have not worn a dress in about 15 years or more and would be so very uncomfortable in one. D knows and is fine about this, as does MOG. I am going out looking and think I may end up in a vintage store.
@Consolation – I am not even the sort of woman who even notices what most other women are wearing, unless they are dressed some way out of the ordinary. I couldn’t even tell you what color MOG wore to daughter’s wedding without checking photos. And I never have understood the whole fascination that my DD and so many others have with shoes. – I won’t wear heels either. I do have to find something different to wear to son’s wedding – FDIL says what I wore to DD’s wedding is fine, but I’ve lost a lot of weight and it doesn’t really fit me any more. I’m probably going to come up with something similar to what @oregon101 describes – dressy black pants, some sort of fancy top.
@calmom, that’s very helpful. There will be a 15-month-old, so one high chair. The other kids are 3 or older. I may suggest to my daughter that she request booster seats for kids 5 or younger. If a kid turns out to be too big for a booster, it’s easy to get rid of it. But getting an extra one during the reception for a kid who’s smaller than we thought might be difficult.
I meant that the youngest child would be 15 months old at the time of the wedding, so I think he will still need a high chair. For the older ones, if the booster seats are unnecessary, they can be stashed in the corner or the day-of-wedding coordinator can deal with them. That’s the sort of thing the bride and groom are paying her for.
@Marian – also consider purchasing small gifts for the kids – something they can play with and hold in their hands. There were only 2 kids at my d’s wedding, my 6 year old grandson and the groom’s 3 year old nephew. MOG brought a present for her grandson (the nephew) and a similar toy for my grandson as well. It definitely was appreciated My d. had also purchased disposable film cameras for the guests, and the two boys absolutely loved them – they were busy snapping away long after the film rolls in their cameras had obviously run out… but of course no one cared- it kept the kids busy and made them feel a part of the festivities.
@ calmom - try some “flyaway” pants. They’re like a pair of palazzos with a floaty chiffon split skirt over them. They’re very festive and appropriate for weddings.
Thanks for the suggestion on the pants, @Bestfriendsgirl - but at this point I’m just going to pick up whatever seems acceptable when I go shopping. This is my son’s 2nd time getting married & he and his fiance are trying to keep costs way down, as they are facing huge personal expenses over the next several months -so overall it’s going to be a very informal affair. I don’t think it really matters what I wear as long as it is a little bit dressy.
Is anyone’s daughter struggling with the question of whether or not to change her last name? When D1 became engaged, she told us she planned to keep her name. We told her it was a good choice, especially since she’s had work published and has established a professional reputation.
Last week I commented on something about monograms and D1 said that she might be changing her last name after all. It seems that FSiL’s parents were not happy about her original decision and his other relatives have also weighed in on it, which FSiL shared with her. I bit my tongue hard while she rambled on a while, then just said that I hoped she will give it more thought before deciding. I want to say more, but would rather wait until we can talk in person. If I thought this is what she really wants that would be one thing, but I have the impression that she’s being coerced.
--but just getting some guidance.
And you are not the sort of woman who gets all judgmental about what other women wear, I think.