I always have wondered what kids with hyphenated last names do when they marry each other?
Mr. & Mrs. Smith-Jones-Moore-O’Brien? 
Follow the Brits, lol. Or the Germans.
Everyone in our family (including SisILs and BILs) have chosen for the women to take the husband’s names. Several of us are professionals (attorneys, MDs), but it just seemed easier for us and less confusing. I will note that for our kids’ preschool and private HS, there are many families where mom has one name and dad + kids have another. Mom kept her maiden name. It doesn’t matter as long as the woman and couple are happy.
I did not take my H’s name for about 15 years. Then I found it so confusing–picking up the pizza, etc.
I then used my H’s name for family but continue to use my name for my profession.
The deciding issue was getting the kids passports. I did not want to travel with my name being different from theirs. I use my maiden name as my middle name. Both D and S have my name as
their middle name.
@Silpat , I wouldn’t bit my tongue, I’d tell her to keep her own name!
If my S and his GF get married, I fully expect that she will keep her own name and would fully support it.
I kept my own name and have never for one second found ti to be a problem or too much trouble or inconvenient. If it is a problem, it is someone else’s problem!
Aaaaaa! Invitations are going out! The day is coming up fast now. Major things are done but lots of little things seem to keep popping up. Trying to stay calm.
I used both last names professionally (no hyphen) and on our bank accounts, but for social stuff and medical offices/utilities, etc. I just use DH’s. DH didn’t care whether or not I changed my name (this was 1983). If the parents or in-laws had an opinion, I didn’t know about it.
Former DIL didn’t change her name, but she and S1 were working for the same company and she wanted some distance professionally. I never had an expectation that she would change it.
Some gorgeous wedding cakes in here:
http://www.bonappetit.com/story/stunning-cakes-maggie-austin?mbid=social_facebook
Omg, doschicos, if you start looking, the beautiful cakes are endless, you’ll be addicted. I probably still have the 20 or so pics I sent D2 (out of hundreds I looked at) and, thank my lucky stars, she wanted simple. Those elaborate ones take forever to get all those little flowers done.
Yeah, I’m sure it’s addictive looking at all that is out there. This one just came across my path. I can’t imagine how expensive they would be with that kind of intricate detail. Too pretty to eat!
Given the impossibility of actually serving really, really tall layers in an attractive manner, I’m willing to be that some of those are simply show cakes with sheetcakes in the back to actually serve.
I’m not a fan of sugar flowers, even though they sure can be pretty. Love the watercolor ones.
Cakes with tall tiers are very trendy and are frequently made with real cake, not fake. They call them Double Barrel tiers. Basically, it is two separate cakes stacked with a cardboard disk between them so when it comes time to serve, the two cakes can be separated, sliced, and served. Or some do a dummy bottom with a regular cake on the top for height.
Daughter is doing 5 different types of pies, no cake. Fine with me.
My niece did pie at her wedding last September. It was fabulous! I had a slice of apple and then later on went back and had a slice of French Silk. Both were so delicious! They had tons of leftovers but said it was still a much more affordable option than the cakes they had been looking at.
No cake here either for the guests. DD and FSIL want a Venetian table of desserts. There will be a small bride cake and a small groom cake…made by a close friend.
Mine are doing…doughnuts.
We went to a wedding and theynhad fabulous donuts! Really was terrific!!
According to the MOB, my S requested doughnuts! Both S and FDIL wanted dessert tables rather than a cake, but her mom convinced them to at least have a “ceremonial” cake for cutting - it will not be served. I haven’t had much to do with the actual reception planning, so it will all be a surprise for me.
I suspect niece will have a ceremonial cake, some cake to serve to interested folks AND dessert buffet, since the whole dinner will be buffet and that’s what her two older sisters had. In any case, I’m sure my kids and all those present will have a blast!
I have a few stories about name changes. A HS male classmate changed his last name to hers to be accommodating and I guess hip. She divorced him…don’t know the whole story and I never met her. I don’t think he legally changed it back, but we all refer to him as his original last name which we knew him by.
Another HS classmate decided to hyphenate her last name, and had a devil of a time getting the hospital record pulled when they needed to confirm birth certificate - hospital had misfiled it due to the hyphen…
Two female friends that are MDs did not change their name, but one always went by H’s last name and I only knew she didn’t change her name because she told me. The other I always tacked on the H’s last name after her last name because on group emails and such other people wouldn’t know who she was w/o H and children’s last name.
A professional friend kept her maiden name, and her picture with her kids was in the paper. The newspaper guy didn’t get that she was their mother - assumed she was their step-mom even though my friend told him she was their bio mother.
If H’s name was incredibly long and difficult, I may have thought twice about having our last name be that along with the children. But my 4 letter last name only expanded to his 5 letter last name. Funny how both still get mispronounced.
I do think the parents are way overstepping their boundaries commenting on future W changing her name.
If one has a long and happy marriage, having the same last name makes life easy. If one divorces and no longer wants the married last name, it is a lot of work. Sis got her name back, and didn’t take 2nd H’s name - and he perfectly understood.