VH, you know what you have to get your hubby for his birthday - an pooper-scooper on a long stick! 
Congrats on successfully putting together so many weekend activities. Congrats to the newlyweds, too! 
Woohoo!!
@VerHappy - Congratulations. Sounds like a fabulous wedding, happy to hear everything went so well. Hope you are going to stick around to share with your lessons learned. I am getting a bit nervous now. It seemed so far away when D1 first got engaged, but I just realized it is less than 9 months away now.
My major lesson learned: Don’t let the new in-laws hang around your house longer than they were invited for, even if the Happy Couple continues to stay.
Although I have no idea how to make that happen. If I did, I would have done it.
Hmmm…start loading the dishwasher? Put all the food away? Look at your watch and apologize for needing to go see a shut in who wasn’t able to come to the wedding…
Ok…none of those would work!
They like you @VeryHappy and that’s not a bad thing!
“They like you @VeryHappy and that’s not a bad thing!”
Yes! As tired as you were, I’d consider it 3 hours very well spent if your son’s in laws felt so comfortable and welcomed. Building that foundation will pay off down the road. Consider it a positive balance in your good karma bank.
Sounds like a great weekend. So nice of your son’s friends to lift you onto the dance floor and dance.
Thanks @thumper1. I always look in petite first. I know I have 6 months, but after searching last night almost nothing I liked was available in size 4/6 online. With the vanity sizing common these days I might need a 2 which will not be easy to find! I feel the stress approaching. I plan to go to a big mall and try on a bunch noting which brands fit in which size. Then I’ll attack the internet
Very Happy, we are planning on having brunch at our house the day after and I’m exhausted in advance. Cheers to you for being such a good sport about everything! I will have to plan some definite end time event so I can collapse.
The mother of the bride dresses sizing is ALL over the place. I found very few with “vanity sizing” the one I bought was very true to size. An 8p fit me perfectly…unfortunately, they on,y had a 10, so the alterations folks came and are fixing it…I hope. It should be here this week!
Some dresses actually run very small. Some are small in the waist, but not elsewhere.
I’m high waisted so the regular sizes were just too big on the top (although there was one shift sort of dress that was great…but wrong color).
Anyway…you do need to try these things on…and YMMV in terms of size from designer to designer.
I never thought I would find a dress. Read vice and you will see…imwanted lavendar, some kind of sleeve, and not a lot of bling. And I didn’t want to spend a fortune either.
I found exactly what I wanted…amazing. And on sale too!!
VH. They probably felt just as awkward. I’d ask someone to help me load dishwasher, and chat about how wonderful wedding was and how exhausted I am…
DH’s relatives also stayed till late afternoon when we had the brunch the next day…I just went to them and said “Thanks for coming…” They eventually got the message.
“Don’t let the new in-laws hang around your house longer than they were invited for, even if the Happy Couple continues to stay.”
Well, one half of the Happy Couple belonged to them, so maybe they wanted to see them off, too. That said, I am exhausted just reading about your weekend! I know I would be glad to get my house to myself again.
@VeryHappy, I’m impressed with your stamina – and your apparent tolerance for lots of company.
My introverted soul – and those of my similarly introverted daughter and son-in-law – would have been whimpering in agony at a schedule like that. Different strokes for different folks.
You could tell on my daughter’s wedding day that she had used up her tolerance for talking to strangers even before the ceremony began because she had had to chat with the hair-and-makeup woman for more than an hour. It was a strain for her to get through the rest of the day. (And it was a strain for her even-more-introverted husband to do the same, even though he didn’t have to talk to anyone other than family before the ceremony began.)
My point is that some people have more tolerance for large-group socializing and for polite conversation with unfamiliar people than others do. If your bride or groom (or key family members such as the parents) are on the introverted side, you may want to schedule fewer or smaller events than if they are life-of-the-party types.
@Marian, I’m an introvert, but I do have the skills to make small talk with people for a while. But that’s the key – “for a while.” After a certain point, I need to be alone, or at least quiet, or surfing the web, or browsing CC. I need to review in my head what was said, how it went, analyze it, digest it. Having people around all the time, all weekend, was just too much. As only the MOG, I really went all out, and I definitely need several more days to recuperate.
I think that when it got to the stage where just parents were hanging with the B&G in an easy-going intimate way, you could just plead exhaustion and smilingly retire for a nap, telling everyone to just make themselves at home. You could set an alarm and reappear before the B&G left. I don’t think anyone would be offended, although they might feel guilty for wearing you out.
Joining in this thread.
D1 got engaged over the summer and they are planning a Sept wedding. Date and venue already booked. Excited to begin the planning process and learn from y’all.
Congratulations @Sally22 and welcome to all the new MOBs and MOGs! I hope you find as much support and great advice on this thread as did I. Be careful, though, time flies! The nine months between my S’s engagement and their September wedding seemed to evaporate into thin air. It’s like life moves forward in the express lane during all the planning and then, boom, its over!
Visited the bride and groom at their apt for the first time since the wedding weekend (along with DD2 who drove in from her college) and had a wonderful time - my birthday had been during the week, so we went to a nice restaurant for a late lunch; watched UA/TAMU game (alum school for three of us); SIL had made chili, and they had bought a cake for me. Restaurant had also given me a small cake - so we had two different kinds of cake which was great.
DD/SIL have over 100 thank you notes to write. DD got pregnant right away. DD did not have a bridal shower, due to logistics. The gals went out and had a girls’ night and sleepover together after the rehearsal dinner. Now, DD has asked for a baby shower for when DD2 and her very good friend can arrange. Well I am putting on the heat that all the thank yous have to be done before one stitch of baby shower planning takes place. DD2 agrees. Sending a funny Halloween card and a little cash for them to eat out, and reminding them to have the thank you notes done before coming to my house for Thanksgiving (give them a good goal). I am holding their feet to the fire so to speak! Manner and etiquette. If they do a few a day…DD needs sleep with her pregnancy and her night shift RN job - but they had all of Sunday w/o responsibilities and I bet they didn’t do one thank you note!
I wonder how @deb22’s wedding weekend went.