There were two wedding back in 2013 that I never received thank you notes for. My niece hasn’t send hers out yet either from her July wedding. My DD took a couple of months to do hers because she was waiting for the photos in order to design them.
Quick question.
Save the date cards- Only for out of town guests? Or should everyone on the invite list receive one?
Sally22 post reminded me that I need to input email addresses to the google doc my S and his fiancé have set up. They are going to send the Save the Date via email. I’m still not sure how many guests I’m going to be allowed. I’m just going to give them my list and go from there.
I’ve heard no talk about how they imagine the evening flowing nor the procession. Future DIL does not have a relationship with her father and as of now he is not invited. She might want a dance with her Mom as her Mom has been the most important role model in her life.
I’ve noticed that all of the last 4 wedding invitations we have received none of them list the parents. In 3 of the cases I know the brides parents were paying the majority of the costs. It surprised me. In my friends case they were paying for the wedding and they went traditional Mr and Mrs Smith invite you to the wedding of D to groom, son of Mr and Mr Jones.
I ordered a dress from Saks and it should arrive on Saturday. I’m not expecting it to be the one but it’s a start. I got a call from one of my credit cards about a possible fraud attempt. It was my purchase on Saks. I guess a over $400 purchase from Saks is not in my regular buying pattern.
We sent save the date to everyone.
After reading posts on thank you cards I emailed D1 about her engagement party. She was quite miffed that I even asked. She said she sent a hand written card to everyone, including people who brought wine/champagne. I really didn’t even think to ask.
Everyone should get save the dates. Out of town guests need to plan transportation, but local guests may need to plan vacations around the wedding if they want to attend.
If others are handling the headcount and save the dates, I’d want to be sure that the number of S-t-Ds going out to “my” guests did not exceed the number of guests I was allotted to invite. (I’d also want to be the one deciding who to cut if the numbers were too high.) I’d prefer to determine my list knowing a fairly good approximation of number possible or preferred.
We finalized our guest list before sending the Save the Date cards.
DD mailed them… it the list was gone over by DD, FSIL, his family and us…before the Save the Dates were sent.
They went to everyone we are inviting.
Thumper – I guess I’m not invited?? :))
Well, they are married. It was a lovely ceremony. Farmhouse chic in a historic building. Everyone looked great and it seemed to go off without a hitch, although I think the flower girls came down the aisle before the ring bearer, but I didn’t notice that until the bride asked about it afterwards.
My mother and my daughter and I rode together. 200 hundred miles and a small hotel room is a lot of togetherness with my mom. She thought the wedding just “lasted forever” and commented that we had been there five hours (it had only been three counting the hour before the ceremony we arrived.) I don’t think she gave any thought that I was the mother of the groom and couldn’t sneak out. Finally, a cousin who had a child there was going back to the hotel so I hitched her a ride with him. She has a negative comment about everything (especially food) and just cannot keep it to herself. I am glad to be home. I might add that every moment I get to spend with my D is very enjoyable. We just rolled our eyes and smiled at each other every time Grandma said anything.
Can’t wait to hear more about the wedding, @musicmom1215 Spunds like it was terrific!!
Sorry your mother was such a Negative Nancy. Glad you rose above it and enjoyed what sounds like a fantastic wedding. Congrats to your son and his new bride!
@musicmom2015: It’s good you and your daughter can laugh about your mother’s comments.
Just lost our florist. D is very, very upset. There was a snafu where we were waiting for one more estimate to come in, and waiting, and waiting. I had determined that we shouldn’t go with the late estimate florist anyway and when it finally came it was way over budget too. The wedding planner had been in contact with the first florist and said she was fine with the delay. Turns out she wasn’t, and never gave us any warning.
Time to start over. I hope we have some good choices. The wedding is 5 months away.
@greenwitch I hope your planner can help find a new florist, especially since it sounds like she dropped the ball with the first one.
I hope so too! We both sent out inquiries today.
Some interesting numbers:
https://www.coastalliving.com/syndication/wedding-guest-pet-peeves?
Had our first visit to see the wedding venue my S and fiancé have booked. It is stunningly beautiful but on the rustic side. I can see why my S loves it. It is definitely a flat shoe venue. The purpose of the visit was the food tasting as the venue has its own catering. We tasted appetizers, 2 salads, 5 main courses and 2 desserts. The food was all very good. We met the owner of the venue and she was lovely and helpful. We were able to wander the grounds and look in the on site cabins. The cabins are pretty bare bones. Most of the cabins sleep 5 so I’m not sure how you assign the sleeping space. It’s basically a step up from camping. For those who don’t want to rough it there is a hotel 20 minutes away.
The venue is a destination wedding for both families and all the guests. It was a 4 hour drive for us so we spent the weekend in the area. It was nice to have the extended time with them to go over details and to work towards making some decisions. We shared the tasting with another couple whose wedding is two months before my S. They were much further along in their planning. I think it made my S aware that they need to get moving.
We have ordered my D’s wedding cake, and it was one of the happiest experiences of my life. I purchased my dress over the weekend with minimal drama, and last week, my D1’s gentleman came over and told my husband that he will be proposing before Christmas, so another wedding to be planned. What incredible blessings!
Younger D got engaged on Thanksgiving. No date set yet. I do know it will be after her brother.
We have our food tasting this afternoon!!