That is an interesting idea. And sometimes the couple takes a long honeymoon. The wedding was almost 2 months ago. I am still waiting for a thank you note from the wedding of a friend. I think she married about 10 years ago. Her mom said she had been embarrassed that her notes were going to be late, so…
Typo above. It was the wedding of the daughter of a friend. No thank you notes were ever written. I’d be mortified if I were the mom.
Hotel reservations have all been straightened out…hopefully there aren’t any other mistakes!
I get a print out every month so I can see availability of rooms. The mistakes I saw were very obvious to me…but are all settled.
SIL’s DD didn’t send out Thank You notes. We are not close to her kids, in part because we don’t live close. SIL did the best she could with showing her right from wrong. It is like when kids fall off from their religion tradition.
@Silpat: “She fought us on inviting most of our extended family, then agreed to MOG inviting her coworkers, friends, relatives they hadn’t seen for years, etc. The MOG even asked for “extra” invitations to give to other friends and neighbors, none of whom she intended to actually invite, she just wanted to show them the invitations.”
Why did she do this (especially since you footed the bill)? Was there an even number of guests allocated to each side? Did MOG’s coworkers, friends, etc. make the number more equal, and you had more already on your side?
If all she wanted to do was show them the invitation…she could have used her own…and done so AFTER the wedding!
Former MOB here. Wedding was at the end of July. Thank you notes still have not been sent. I have no doubt that they will get done, but I hate that it is taking so long. I am not quite to the mortified state yet, but I will be if they aren’t out by Christmas when the kids will be in town. Somewhere buried in the etiquette rules it says you have a year to send thank you notes, but that is ridiculous. I know that when they do go out, they will be very personal and well done - not the 3 line generic “thank you for the gift” kind of thank you note. Still, I wish they would get them done. I don’t want to nag. I don’t want to nag. I don’t want to nag.
It took S and DIL almost 4 months to get out their thank you notes. We felt that was too long. They wanted to send them all out at once, but why it still took 4 months is beyond me.
My D thought they have a year to write thank you notes, too. I told her, no, that guests have a year to send a gift (IF they choose to do so - gifts are never mandatory), but thank you notes should be written immediately. I bought some nice informal note cards for both D and SiL along with some special postage stamps and had return address labels made, too. I think they got the hint. ; )
Ugh. Thank you notes. My kids know I am a raving maniac when it comes to sending written thank you notes. D got married in early July. In mid-September, she casually announced that she had just finished her thank you notes, but that SIL was still working on his. I had to restrain myself from a strong reminder that time was running low. To be fair, they wanted to wait until they had the pictures back from the photographer. The chose a few to use in the custom thank you notes and they look fantastic.
About the MOG and the invitations - they already had more guests on their list than we did and we were okay with that initially since they and most of their extended families have lived in the same general area for generations. We don’t have the same connections where either we or D live now. What bothered me was the inclusion of people that SiL did not know and didn’t seem to even be that close to the MOG or FOG. I had several invitations returned for incorrect address and had to chase down the new ones. We made the mistake of not setting a limit for the MOG in the beginning because we knew the venue could accommodate more guests than we ever dreamed would be invited. I took for granted that SiL was telling his mom the same thing that D was telling me about limiting the guest list to people with whom they’re close, but it turned out that neither D nor SiL would say no to her about anyone or anything.
The extra invitation request was very odd. I agree that she could have used her own, after the wedding, to show anyone who might have expressed interest. Apparently, she wanted to show her hairdresser, her alterations seamstress, her secretary, the new neighbors, etc. Why that required extras, I have no idea.
We ended up with some surprise guests, but it worked out okay since we had some no-shows as well. We would have been hit with a 50% surcharge for any overage on the day of the reception. That would have rankled.
If someone asks us for extra invitations…the answer will be NO. Ours are being hand made by the MOG. She will make a few extras…just in case…but it’s not like we are going to order a bunch of extra handmade invites. BTW…I’ve seen what she is making…and they are very nice!
It was such a nice offer…very personal!
Son’s wedding is this Saturday. I invited him and FDIL over for pizza tonight and then made him practice dancing with me. That lasted less than two minutes, but I think we will not make fools of ourselves.
Hugs and Enjoy!! music mom!!!
Looking forward to hearing about the festivities @musicmom1215
I would practice dancing, too, if somebody offered me pizza. 
Have a great weekend, @musicmom1215.
Have a wonderful time, @Musicmom2015 ! We want a full report next week!
The only weddings I’ve been to since my friends and I got married have been close family. None of them had a DJ or bandleader making announcements of “official” dances, or, IIRC, announcing the couple as Mr. and Mrs. X. Especially since all of my friends were keeping their own names, so what would they announce? Mr. X and Ms. Y? Neither did we, and I don’t think any of my friends did either. So I guess it isn’t a thing in all circles.
People did dance with their mother and father and so on, and probably pictures were taken, but without fanfare.
I would certainly want to dance with my S at his wedding, but no announcements, please. I guess it is all a matter of what one is accustomed to.
@musicmom1215, best wishes for a wonderful wedding weekend!
On the dance front, no formal dances announced and I didn’t get a chance to dance with my S at the wedding, which I regret. Had a great time, but that would have been nice. The DJ did announce the couple as they entered and they went straight to the dance floor for their first dance. I think he said, “Please welcome D & J (first names) for their first dance as a married couple.”
Thank-you notes are a sore topic around here. The wedding was Labor Day weekend, they did go on a 2 week honeymoon, and closed on their apartment 5 days after their return, but I told them they should all be out by Thanksgiving. Later than I would have liked (especially since I think they didn’t get all the early notes out for engagement party gifts until recently), but I can live with 3 months. Anything after that I will be mortified.
My daughter and her husband didn’t have themselves announced at their reception even though she took his name.