Wow, so many weddings coming up! @scout59, the weather is the one thing we can’t (much as we would like to) control, so my best advice is to just take it as it comes. If you have weather-dependent plans, I’m sure all contingencies have been provided for and it will be a lovely day. Labor Day Sunday last fall was grey and drizzling until 5:45pm when the sun came out, the skies turned blue and my now DIL headed up the outdoor aisle. Even had we had to activate the indoor rain plan, the day would have been no less special.
@zoosermom, my hair time was also at 10am for a 6pm ceremony and I went with a casual up-do. To be honest, the person doing my hair had it pulled back and up in a more severe manner than I requested, so I actually spent the day letting it fall out a bit until I was comfortable. Had I left it down I think I would have been worrying it all day anyway since it only looks really good when I have a fresh blowout. As long as you are comfortable with the style, that’s all the matters.
@scout59 - you will be sleeping so much better after it’s all over!
I had a hair pre-trial a couple of weeks before D’s wedding. Good thing, because she tried out this partially bouffant thing that is popular with the younger crowd and I felt like a Star Trek extra. I knew to say, “no pouf at all” on the wedding day and it was much better. Peace of mind is a great thing when there are so many moving parts flying around!
@scout59 and @zoosermom can’t believe the weddings are already here. I have always told my kids I can control a lot of things but I can’t control the weather. @zoosermom - can you tell us more about her vision? Your D sounds very artistic. My future DIL and S are visual and artistic types but they aren’t the most organized so we will see what comes together.
Hadn’t thought of favors. What are some ideas that have been successful? @oldfort - I thought about my homeowners insurance. One hitch in that option is that the venue and caterer and all the vendors so far have been booked in my D and her F names. I’m thinking I might need to have the name of client changed to be covered.
I’m not sure what I’ll do with my hair. I don’t know if future DIL is planning on hair for me and my girls. If not we will book something at a salon in the venue city. My hair length varies from above the shoulder to mid back depending on my mood when I get a cut. Right now it’s getting long and I’m going to consult with my local stylist for ideas. I don’t want to cut a lot off if I decide to go long and simple. I don’t think my face works well with a severe pulled back updo. I’m thinking either a straight blow out which would work at any length or long with soft curls at the ends. Finding a stylist will be a bit of a challenge since the venue is 6 hours from my home. I don’t want to spend time going up to try people out.
I was just wondering the same thing. My kids keep saying they plan to order one, but we’re almost 9 months out now and no move has been made in that direction! We have all the photos downloaded and I might just do a small Shutterfly book for me and the grandmas.
Our photographer showed the type of album he does. It reminded me of the little chubby books the kids read as toddlers. Remember the thick, almost cardboard type pages?
I think we’ll print some and put them in a regular photo album. The Paper Source had some nice ones.
The photographer will make them (and me, if I want one) an album à la the old days but they haven’t moved to order one yet. I’m not sure I need anything that extensive so I’m thinking I might order something from Shutterfly.
D1 booked the ceremony venue, and I was able to use my home owner’s insurance to cover the liability insurance. My insurance company had to issue an certificate for benefit of the venue.
Our wedding photographer had a number of packages. The one we chose has 1 wedding album, which will go to bride and groom.
We will receive a DVD with 1200-1500 pictures on it. They are ours to do with as we please.
For Christmas, we plan to get smaller albums made using Shutterfly for the two grandmas. Both parents really only want a few prints to frame.
My MIL bought a photo album for DD and FSIL with their names and the date of their wedding on it. My DD isn’t quite sure what she will do with it…since she will have both an album and DVD from the photographer.
I’m betting that the wedding photographer would be very happy to make your album…for a price.
D1 has been making albums for us for various life events. There are some services that do better jobs than others. She thinks she could do a better job of putting an album together for her wedding, so she is just going to get all pictures from the wedding and do few albums later.
Can someone please help me understand men’s clothing? My fiance says that he is planning to tell the dads and groomsmen to get any black tux. My mom is insisting that will look ridiculous and he needs to pick out 1 tux and have everyone get the same one. Fiance says that isn’t necessary because all black tuxes, for all intents and purposes, look the same, and if people already own a black tux, they should be able to wear that.
Thoughts? I really have no clue how this usually goes.
It depends on if he or you care about the difference between collar styles - tuxedos can have shawl collars or notched collars or peak collars. A bigger difference to me is the shirt and tie - do you want wing collars or spread collars, bow tie or straight tie, pleated placket or French placket, studs or no studs? Do you want cummerbunds or vests?
Personally, I would let people wear whatever they have, if they own a tux, and express preference for the shirt, tie and accessories. But then again, my S had his groomsmen wear any grey or blue suit they owned.
Full dress tailcoat or suit style? One button or two? Satin Lapel or not? Notch, Peak or shawl lapel? Tie or bow tie? Open up any tux website and show your fiance all the options. The Dads and Groomsmen will come back to him with Which Tux do I get??? The groomsmen are standing up for you–do them a favor and don’t make them guess and end up feeling awkward if they happen to pick something that is not in line with the rest and make them uncomfortable. If Dad owns a tux, fine…but I think the groomsmen will appreciate a definite selection.
I’m of the camp that everything doesn’t need to be matchy matchy. I’m also a fan of letting bridesmaids wear different dresses in a certain color palette, too. I think it really depends on what you and your fiance prefer and your vision for your look.
I agree that it all doesn’t need to be matchy matchy…if you are doing suits. Tuxes to me says a bit more formal occasion, so I’d opt for a more guidance from the B&G.
Absolutely, I think directing @rebeccar to the website above should allow her to see the differences among tuxedo styles so she and her fiancé can decide if they want the groomsmen to match or display their individual style, within limits!
Thanks! I’m pretty sure everyone involved already owns a tuxedo (the dads do and so do the brothers, his cousin might not but he’d be the only one) so I wasn’t sure if it made sense to have everyone rent a second one when there is a possibly-perfectly-good option in the closet. As far as “what do I want,” I can’t say it matters to me if they’re not identical, but it’s hard for me to visualize. I don’t want it to look messy or wrong, but I can’t picture in my head if it’ll look fine or not.
but they haven’t moved to order one yet. I’m not sure I need anything that extensive so I’m thinking I might order something from Shutterfly.