When I write a check out to a couple, I write it as an “or” so either can cash the check. However, as was said up-thread, having the electronic submission of the check often does help it clear the bank/credit union.
A bride changing her name is a bit of work. After sis divorced, she found the process to change her last name back to maiden name cumbersome, that she didn’t change her name with re-marriage. 2nd h was ok with that.
Great report @oldfort!! Sounds wonderful!
I couldn’t wait to get rid of my last name, it is a fairly common name, but spelled differently and it was annoying. My husband has a very common, easily spelled, last name. What I didn’t realize is that when you have a common first name and a common last name, there are many, many people with your same name. DS’s fiancé will take his name.
Totally agree about having a list of pictures. Our photographer provided a list and we were asked to add to it.
Honestly in all the hubbub, I’m not sure there is one of just me and DD…but that’s ok.
Wedding planner day of really kept things moving. Our venue only has one event per day. Their planner was our go to person. She was fabulous!!!
@thumper1 , H and I were wondering if the photographer got one of the two of us. S told us that yes, the photographer did get one. I swear, I can’t remember half of what happened, and it’s only been a little more than 2 weeks. I know there is at least one of D and me when she was getting ready, and there is one of H & D walking down the aisle. We’ll see what else there is when the pictures come back, I guess!
I am going to suggest what @oldfort D did. A nice list of photos and suggest they have someone keep it on point. My friend who is a photographer said that a lot of younger photographers and current brides and grooms prefer the “joy of the day” approach.
H and I had a good visit with S and FDIL last night. We tried not to ask a lot of questions yet we also had a list of things we wanted to discuss. A fine line. It’s pretty clear that they would have been better off to have shared more with us early on and a lot of things that are an issue now wouldn’t have been. They have tried to do it all themselves while also holding demanding jobs. It also is clear that she is getting no emotional or logistical support from her family. I have doubts if any financial support will materialize.
One thing they asked of me was would I help them plan the honeymoon. Where to go and how to fly there.Their ideas have taken them all over the map. He has miles through one program, she another. They aren’t in the same airline alliance something they didn’t really understand. Most of her travel is work related and planned for her. He has mainly traveled with us and I do all the planning. I spent this morning exploring some options and I think they will use his miles to get tickets to either Dublin or Madrid. They can fly elsewhere in Europe on a discount carrier. I suggested Portugal as I think their money will go further. The wedding is late December so they really need to get a move on things.
I did find out that H and I will walk S down the aisle.
I’m not sure if she will change her name. She is already hyphenated of her two parents last name so I don’t see her adding a third name. I’m also not sure what my D will do. She likes her last name and doesn’t care for his last name.
I know S and his fiancé don’t have a joint account. I will suggest they open one. My D and her fiancé already own a house together and have a joint household account.
@jym626 -did your H’s suit arrive?
Thanks for asking, @mom60. Yes, the suit arrived late Friday, but because DH was heading out of town, the alterations person on duty when DH went for the fitting Saturday is their back-up tailor/alterations person - not the primary one. I am sure it will be fine.
I have been finalizing the land for the rehearsal dinner an welcome party which is a little challenging from across the country with time differences, but its more of an inconvenience that an obstacle. The B&G want very low key events, which makes it easier!
Argh. Autocorrect… I have been finalizing plans for the rehearsal dinner and welcome party. No land involved (just restaurants).
I’ve found a salon near the venue to do my hair. I won’t have time to go up there and try them out so I need to have an idea what I want. I know I don’t want an updo but otherwise I’m clueless.
@mom60 start looking for pictures of what you might want. Talk to your regular hairdresser about what might be suitable for your hair type.
@mom60-You could do a trial with your current stylist to figure out what you want. Then take some photos from all sides and show them to the wedding day stylist.
Whose wedding is next???
@mom60 - I had hair done by longstanding hairdresser today (monthly routine). I brought my wedding earrings (rather large as only jewelry besides rings) and had her take photos as described by @my-3-sons. Day before wedding, I’ll do wash/blow dry with bride and matron of honor. Day of, having hair and make up done. You’ve reminded me I should find “make up” pics. Haven’t had a trial, but daughter did.
@thumper1 - not sure who else, but DD’s wedding is this weekend. Getting excited and tending last minute details. Venue is 2 hour drive; DD is laughing as she rides the weather prediction roller coaster. Too early to call.
Congratulations, @travelnut! Crossing fingers and toes for good weather…
@travelnut have a wonderful week!!
I finally put the weather issue out of my head as it was totally out of my control.
Thanks, @runnersmom. We are equipped with a good plan for rain, but DD is very focused on the outdoor photos op that her creative photographer and interesting venue site will offer. If it rains, I hope her dress will survive their mutual determination to “get the shot”. And DD usually balks at photos. Photographer does an engagement shoot for every wedding couple and the results were great, so DD and DF are all in now.
@travelnut - wishing you a great weekend. Remember to eat/drink water before the wedding, and breath. Try to enjoy the wedding, it will go by so fast.
Good luck this weekend, @travelnut! DS’s wedding is in ~3.5 weeks (last weekend of the month). Getting close!
Good luck travelnut! Hope everything is wonderful!
Not just eat/drink water, but have that last bathroom break.
Happy for you all.
Here, BFIL recently told me D1 is the one, it’s just a matter of finding his own right time.
DD let me know that her BF will most likely hav a ring in July. He lives in the Dominican Republic and that is the next time she is there for a week long visit. We met him when he lived in our area and really like him. The DR will be a challenge. Destination wedding. We will probably go down in October if he does really pop the question. I’ll jump back on here if anything becomes official.