^Exactly! Schlepping an extra bag will be far less painful than dealing with an unprepared MOG!!! Have a great week.
"an unprepared MOG!!! "
My recent take…
As MOG your job is to be nonplussed and in beige at all points.
Your one and most important job is to totally enjoy the entire celebration.
No worries about anything. No matter what happens.
Blend in and be happy. No complaints from you. Stifle complaints from others.
Head off problems if you see them coming.
When the whole world collapses, it’s the MOG who should keep things in perspective.
Worries are for everyone else.
The goal is to marry off two very dear people and make it a happy occasion.
But well worth the extra bag fee–the happier you are then the easier it will be to focus on others.
We did pictures with everyone in the bridal party, parents, grandparents and siblings before the wedding because we all would have seen the wedding dress already anyway. After the ceremony we did other group pictures so it didn’t take as long.
@intparent - no extra baggage fees! The first 2 bags, thanks to seriously running up my Delta AmEx card, are free. I hope to fit everything in one carry-on and one checked bag… We shall see.
The Costco website didn’t guarantee that the little 2 packs of advil would e in the store, and I didn’t want to have to deal with running over to DS’s apartment , so good ol’ amazon will have them here Weds. One more thing to pack…
Jym, don’t you get two bags free, then one of DH’s free bags? Makes sense, he doesn’t need two, right?
Yes I do get 2 for free, @lookingforward, but I want to carry one on… just to be safe. He travels really light so will surely scrunch his suit and all into a carryon.
I recently went to a wedding that had toiletries and sundries in the Br for the guests. My daughter thought it was cute.
I wasn’t a fan. I would definitely bring extra shoes.
Jym626, I would take the extra bag if you need to. This is one time when being prepared trumps the worry of over packing. Do you have a nylon duffle that you can pack in the bigger suitcase on the way home or an old suitcase that you can just leave there?
Good luck with everything!
We got our pictures today and they are really beautiful.
And we got what we asked for…completely.
But now i wish we had asked for a picture of each table. Really…that’s the only way to guarantee you will, have a picture of everyone who attends.
The pictures we have are really lovely…and I’m sure it will be a challenge for DD and SIL to choose what the want for their album.
I, OTOH, have already picked my three picture…one of DD and SIL, me of DD SIL DH, DS…and one of DH DD SIL and me.
The one of DD and SIL will go in the middle of a three photo frame. The other two will be on either side.
We did forget one family pic…of DHs WHOLE family…but that was about 40 people…and would have been a challenge. We did get his siblings, and one of my siblings too.
My sibling pic will get framed all by itself. We don’t have dress up pics of the four of us…and this was my special request picture.
Anyway…fun to look at the pictures.
@thumper1 your post just made me realize that at my niece’s wedding a couple weeks ago we didn’t get a pic with the three of us siblings, something my mom really would have liked. From what I could see, the photographer’s focus was on the wedding party in various configurations - near reception’s end, I dragged the photographer over and she took one of me with DD and DH. We would only have appeared in one big group photo otherwise.
Thanks, @momjr . Funny thing- most of the old suitcases we had (from my parents and such) have already made the 1 way trip to s’s homes, LOL. The duffel is a great idea, but there are things I don’t think will travel well is a duffel. I’ll try with the suitcases I have and see what happens. The packing might be lighter, unfortunately, as the 50 count box of 2 pk advil I ordered from Amazon (the costco and target near the wedding venue couldn’t guarantee it would be in stock) was supposed to be guaranteed to arrive by tomorrow by 89, but hasn’t shipped yet. Amazon C.S. wants me to call back at 8 but I’ll be out to dinner for my birthday so wont be home til later. Its not a big deal, but DS made a reference to the Advil in his welcome letter 
Then again, I haven’t printed the letter yet.
@jym626, if it hasn’t shipped yet, can’t Amazon change the ship to address to where the wedding is located–like your hotel? Then just let Hotel know you are expecting package.
@jym626 Have a wonderful birthday dinner. I can’t imagine having to fly to the wedding as the parent of the bride or groom. I’m already having thoughts of how much a pain in the you know where it will be having the wedding venue be a 4 hour drive from home. Hope the weather isn’t too hot or too windy.
I have a bunch of shoes in my cart at Zappos. I’m going to wait and order once I return from my trip to see my D. I’m hoping after we dress shop for her on Friday I’ll have time to try on shoes. We will be in Walnut Creek Ca if anyone has good shoe shopping store suggestions.
For my D’s wedding- We have an appointment at BHLDN on Friday. Saturday we are scheduled at two shops in Sacramento with MOG and future sister in law. I’m not a fan of heat so I’m hoping the weather is reasonable but I doubt it will be. It will be our first dress shopping trip.
S and his fiancé still haven’t sent out invitations for their wedding. I’m resisting asking when they will be mailed. I also want to ask if they are planning a program. Any thoughts on programs? I have been to weddings both with and without. I like learning about different wedding customs and I also like when they tell a bit about each member of the wedding party.
For S1’s wedding, I made fans that contained the program. Of necessity, we kept it fairly short and sweet, so no bios, but we did have the cast of characters, a list of the music, and the sequence of events, as well as a mention of relatives who had passed/were unable to travel. No bios. Got wooden sticks, ribbon and printed in color. Fans were about the size of half an 8.5 x 11 page, one sheet on each side, and got a card punch to make curved edges. Even though the venue had A/C, it was still a bit warm, so the fans were handy.
@mom60,
Thanks. This is the second cross country trip for a s’s wedding (well… you know where DS#1’s wedding was. 
)We traveled to Asia immediately after DS#1’s wedding, so had even MORE luggage, and left the wedding clothes/suitcases at DS#2’s house before going overseas, and picked them back up from his house when we returned to the area, as a stopover before returning back home. That was an adventure (as we call it in our family).
Just solved the Advil 2-pack problem. They have them at Office Depot AND I had a rewards coupon that was about to expire, so ordered them to pick up in the store on our way out to dinner. Saved a few bucks.
Amazon still showed the box as pending shipping so couldn’t “officially” cancel the order, but for the small amount they cost, they are just refunding me the $, and said if they happen to show up to just keep them. Well, if they show up tomorrow, great, but if not, I’ll let the neighbors keep them The ones from Amazon were gel caps and these are pills, but who cares.
@jym626 - I hope all goes well during the wedding festivities, and look forward to your report back.
I will be thinking of you often over the next several days.
Thanks! Tomorrow I pack. Welcome letters are printed.
OK-- mostly all packed. Will check one bag. Weather forecast for the flight isn’t great. Have to hope it will change.
We visited the wedding venue yesterday. It was the first time any of us had been there. It will be an outside wedding in December in southern California. There is a backup plan for inclement weather.
The venue has a limit of 20 people. An issue has come up. D and FSIL have invited 20 people, likely all will come. There is a small chance 1 or 2 elderly grandparents may not come.
The issue is, the 2 musicians and the 1 photographer are not included in the guest count, so with them there may be as many as 23. Do we need to tell the venue there may be more than the 20? It isn’t violating any fire codes since it is outside.
I would tell them. Better to find out if there is any issue now than on the day.