Yes, tell them
@jym626, safe travels and best wishes for a wonderful wedding weekend! It sounds like many of the to-do boxes have been ticked and now you can just arrive fresh, settle in, and enjoy the festivities.
@jym626 , I hope you have an easy flight. Best wishes for a great wedding weekend. I hope you enjoy every minute.
Thank you, @runnersmom. Boarding now. Time to celebrate. The kids are doing a birthday dinner for me tonight. Very sweet.
Thanks @momjr
Happy birthday celebration and a wonderful weekend to you, @jym626. The more intimate gatherings are a great part of wedding weekends. Smooth travels.
Thanks, @travelnut - you are right.
Happy birthday, jym, and very fun and un-stressful wedding! Safe flight!
Happy Birthday!
Thinking of @jym626 and family this morning. Enjoy the wedding weekend and a huge Mazel Tov. Hope the weather isn’t too hot and the wind behaves.
If they have 20 guests, they’re already over the limit because they didn’t count themselves. They have 22 people, not 20. That could be a problem, even without considering the musicians and photographer.
Thanks, @mom60. THe temperatures are supposed to be unusually warm today and tomorrow, so it wont be as cool outside for the welcome party night (60-ish instead of 50’s) and it may be 80 (thought windy) at the time of the wedding tomorrow. Had a wonderful belated birthday dinner at DS#1’s home last night. Enjoyed time with family and the adorable granddaughter. Woke up too early with the time difference. Was really tired yesterday. But adrenalin will surely kick in.
@marian they included themselves in the 20, I just did not do a good job of clarifying that when I first wrote
Just saying. I’d be surprised if 22 or 23 is a huge issue. If someone brought an unexpected guest, would they refuse him/her entrance or not have a plate? Likely, this is about about their own capacity to prep and tend to guests, maybe bathroom calculations.
But yes, ask. I’d phrase it as unknown, what if someone shows up with a plus1?
Jym, best wishes for a lovely weekend.
It may have to do with seating (they could only seat 20 people, maybe). If that’s the case then it should be fine because photographers and such will be working, moving around.
Checking in with a brief report- will write more when I am more awake. These weekends fly by so quickly. Everything was wonderful and DH and wife could not have looked happier. With the exception of having beverages spilled on me at the welcome party and at the wedding (thank heavens the dress last night was dark- and future parents of bride/groom this is worth keeping in mind, as the red wine that landed all over my dress was not noticeable, but the white jacket I wore Friday night may not survive unscathed.
Granddaughter is “calling”. Will update more later.
Wooohoo! Congrats jym. You looked your typical fabulous 39 years old. Great dress, and great explanation why navy and burgundy and such are so popular MOf… colors. 
Very long wedding report post to follow:
We head home in a few hours from a wonderful celebration weekend. We started on Thursday, when DS#1 and his wife hosted a birthday dinner for me after DH, the bride’s mom and I shopped for the ingredients and assembled the hospitality bags (which turned out to be a big hit, as many of the ingredients were snack foods that bride and groom ate during college and after, and the attendees all got and appreciated the symbolism and stroll down memory lane). DS#2 and now wife, her mom, my SIL, a nephew, and DS #2’s now MIL all joined us for dinner. DH and I got to play with our grandbaby before her bedtime. It was a wonderful way to start the weekend.
The hotel was lovely and the staff very attentive. There were a few snafus (the biggest being that they had no handicapped rooms available for SIL, so they gave her the executive suite that was intended for the bride and groom!!!) It was a beautiful suite, but that was the only option with an appropriate shower for SIL. So Bride and groom ended up with a standard suite room with a broken door between the living room and bedroom. It worked, but it was disappointing. It made the hair and makeup event a bit, um, cozy, but it all worked out and was lovely.
The Friday night rehearsal dinner and welcome party were exactly what the bride and groom wanted. We had almost 100 attendees at the welcome party and they had a blast. The weather was absolutely spectacular this weekend, in fact unusually warm, which was absolutely perfect. No heat lamps were needed at the outdoor welcome party and the blankets we bought to have outside on the outdoor patio at the wedding venue will be returned.
The setting for the wedding was absolutely spectacular- they were married at a golf course under a gazebo overlooking mountains and a bay inlet. Our granddaughter was the flower girl, carried down by my DIL. She was adorable and perfectly smiley and well behaved. The only shriek was a shriek of joy when the guests blew bubbles during the newlyweds recessional. As an aside, the hair and makeup people did an incredible job. The bridal party ‘s hairstyles were beautiful.
It is a good thing we had a party planner, as the venue staff was underwhelming. They made some mistakes in what was put out and when, and the bartenders were very slow and a long line backed up at the bar. But the food was fine and the DJ (they’d wanted a band but were watching the budget) was great! The dance floor was packed all evening. Some guests took the early (10:15) bus back to the hotel, but most stayed until 11:30. filling two HUGE busses (that was a fun/exciting event in and of itself, though we missed it as we rode with SIL who needed help).
The hotel has a nightclub, and many of DS and new wife’s friends, who literally flew in from all over (one college friend came in from Tel Aviv for the wedding) partied until well after 2. I crashed at 1:15, and had been up equally as late with the welcome party (which ran past midnight). DS and his wife met their freshman year of college, and they had a strong group of college friends who all, ALL made it to the wedding! They also had a large turnout of HS friends. The friends far outnumbered the work associates and relatives who attended, which was perfect for them and as it should be. They had so much fun and DS was so happy and so appreciative, which he repeated throughout the evening. DS#1’s toast (he was best man) was very funny and well received.
The bride’s mom is lovely and we spent a lot of time together this weekend, with the dinners, the hospitality bags, running errands, etc. The bride’s dad behaved and there was no drama. The only drama was that a good friend of mine who flew with her DH across country to attend had a health issue during the day Saturday, ended up in the ER, and she and her DH missed the wedding ceremony! 
Fortunately she is ok and they made it to the reception.
Because of the location of the wedding (San Francisco area) many guests came in early or stayed later to tour around a bit. So Sunday brunch was well attended and was beautifully done by the hotel. We were able to spend time visiting with people at the brunch, and then had a lovely sushi late lunch with family. The weather cooled down today and in fact, we are now up at DS#1’s home and its very cool and blustery. We had more grandbaby time before I finally crashed before she did Monday we head back to reality, will work Tuesday, and am looking forward to using July 4 to recover.
As I mentioned earlier, I did get drinks spilled all over me at both the welcome party and the wedding. I am glad I wore a dark dress to the wedding and recommend it as the red wine was all over the tablecloth and my dress, but not noticeable on the dress.
It was a beautiful weekend, and sorry to see it fly by. Whose is next?
Wow @jym626 . Sounds like a great rime was had by all. Glad your good friend recovered and returned to the reception. Congrats!
Sounds like an absolutely fabulous weekend, @jym626, congratulations!