2016 and beyond wedding moms and dads (Part 1)

That is my point. Excel tables can be pasted into a word processing program, beautified, and printed on large sheets. :slight_smile:

DS#2 and wife (I love saying that ) used a seating chart by table. It was super easy to scan the tables listed, and actually fun to see who was sitting with who. IIRC, the lists were alphabetical within each table, so if you really didn’t know you weren’t likely to be seated at one of the tables of friends or coworkers (it was easy to discern), it was still no more than a moment to scan and find one’s name. Its like the cocktail party phenomenon (where you can hear when you name is being mentioned) - its easy to spot one’s name from amongst a bunch of others. It makes perfect sense.

@BunsenBurner, that’s a great strategy. I wish I had thought of it.

I think by table is workable if you have say 100-150 guests or less. For some of those really big weddings of 400 or more, not so much I would think.

September 1. Two type A’s, in super overdrive…they are verbalizing they just want it to be over. : (
My gosh. I just hug them and say you absolutely must enjoy this most special day. Stop agonizing, it is going to be wonderful.

Okay, it’s time to help me with jewelry. I’m thinking since the dress is sequined, I would not need a necklace?
Bracelets?

Thanks for your thoughts!
https://dimg.dillards.com/is/image/DillardsZoom/main/sl-fashions-plus-34-sleeve-lace-jacket-dress/04893748_zi_storm.jpg

I’m thinking just earrings, @VaBluebird.

@Vabluebird- will you be wearing a corsage or will you be wearing a wristlet (or carrying a nosegay)? Those might drive your decision. Do wear bold earrings.

Beautiful dress. :slight_smile: Nice dangly earrings. No necklace!

We think alike, @BunsenBurner :wink:

Are people really obligated to enjoy their own weddings?

Some people simply can’t – particularly introverts who don’t like the large crowd or being in the spotlight.

My husband and I are both introverts. We definitely did not enjoy our wedding, and in more than 40 years of marriage, we have never felt guilty about that. I don’t think enjoying your wedding is a requirement.

My mother eloped and felt the lack of more ceremony didn’t mark the event or the transition to marriage they way she later wished it had. So yes, it would be nice for the couple to enjoy their own wedding. And if that means standing up for a smaller wedding, then fine. But why mark the day disgruntled or waiting for it to be over?

Because your families want to mark the day and you’re doing it for their benefit. That’s why my husband and I had a wedding instead of going to City Hall.

Also, I think it’s great to say, as you did, @lookingforward, that “it would be nice for the couple to enjoy their own wedding.” What I was objecting to was the idea that you MUST enjoy it and feel it is wonderful. Sometimes this doesn’t happen. I don’t think people should feel guilty if it doesn’t. It’s the marriage that matters, not the wedding. And people are entitled to their feelings, even inappropriate ones (like being miserable at your own wedding).

Beautiful dress VaBluebird… I agree with the others, no jewelry needed beyond earrings.

VaBluebird, My dress had similar neckline and I wore a necklace with a pendant, tennis bracelet and diamond studs. I wouldn’t wear anything to compete with the dress because it is very pretty on its own.

@VaBluebird I had a teeny bit of bling in my dress. I wore only earrings…no necklace, no corsage, no bouquet. My dress had a somewhat higher neck in the front than the back.

I didn’t wear a bracelet either. But I am not a Jewelry wearer. I’ve seen others wearing the same dress with nice necklaces.

But really…try some things on…and see what you are comfortable wearing, and what looks nice with your dress. Any chance you have an appropriate piece of jewelry from a grandparent or someone that would work?

I actually ordered a three stone amethyst necklace today. I wasn’t going to but when I saw it I think it might be just right. I’ll let you all know.
Oh, here it is:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00NECDKPI/ref=oh_aui_detailpage_o00_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

Would it hang too low? Try it on to see if you need to shorten the chain.

I might have to change it to a 16 inch chain.

A recent wedding I attended with over 200 guests, had a seating chart on a board. It would have been easier if it was alphabetized so people weren’t stretching their necks to locate their names wit table numbers.