Is it not customary to have wedding programs anymore? I had no idea what was happening next. Also, for those who have upcoming weddings, do ensure that the DJ speakers are strategically placed. At the recent wedding, seating was in a circle , some were seated behind DJ who were not able to hear or see a thing. While the decor was amazingly put together, the attention to details were missed.
We didn’t have a program. Program for what? The only programs I’ve seen are for the ceremony. In our case, the ceremony was all of 15 minutes long, with no speakers or singers. I can’t imagine what we would have put in a program…so we didn’t have one.
I’ve never seen a program for a wedding reception. Is that a thing that is done?
We also didn’t have the menus of what was being served for dinner on the tables either. I mean really…I guess it’s nice if you do…but we decided these were an unnecessary expense.
We had a program for the ceremony. We had different people doing readings, bride and groom also said their own vows, and there was a wine ceremony.
Agree…for a ceremony with readers, and music and the like, a program is a nice thing to have.
I know some folks like to have a listing someplace of the bridal party, and parents. I’ve seen some really nice ways to do that. One I really liked was a very pretty framed old full length mirror…everyone was written on that in very pretty writing and it was near where folks entered the ceremony…and was then taken to the reception as well.
@learninginprog, my D & SIL had a program, but they also had an hour long full mass. Program included ceremony order, names of wedding party and relationship to couple, ceremony order, songs performed and songs to be sung by congregation, etc.
Program for what? My daughter and her husband had a seven-minute nonreligious ceremony.
For ceremonies in a house of worship, programs are essential. People of different faiths need to know what’s going on. For example, our daughter had a full nuptial mass. The protestant needed to know that communion was only for the Catholics.
But in a nonreligious ceremony, no program is necessary.
@VaBluebird, have you looked at silver or white gold versus yellow gold next to the dress. Is the dress a blue or purple color? I think I would go with either an opal, tanzanite or light color sapphire and silver if the dress is blue.
@VaBluebird - I wore a navy dress. I had what I thought was a too-big gold and sapphire necklace with matching earrings and bracelet that my dad had made for my mom many moons ago. I thought it would be a bit much, but they were my mom’s so had sentimental value, and I figured, where else would I wear them? So I did, and I am glad I did. I think they went well with the outfit. The white rose that was pinned on me kept falling over anyway, so I had something to wear that added some sparkle. They look good in the photos too. And it felt like my mom was “there”.
I’m afraid that the delicate necklace will be totally lost in the sparkle of the dress.
Neither s had a program at their weddings, but I have been to weddings where they did and it was lovely to follow along and to know who was who.
Weddings I have attended are what @gosmom and @oldfort reference. The programs would have names of who read the scripture, singer as well as name and order of persons giving the toast to Bride, Groom, parents et al. I can understand for 7 or 15 mins a program would not be necessary.
I like a program for just about any wedding. It helps to know the order of the ceremony, nice to know the title/composer/vocalist of the chosen music/readings, and who the attendants are.
For my sister’s niece’s wedding, I made her program from fall-colored cardstock. Ceremony on one side, bridal party on the other. Very inexpensive. Niece and her groom were going to do greet the guests as they left their seats, so at the end of the ceremony order I wrote “To our guests, please remain seated following the ceremony. B and G will dismiss the rows and greet each of you individually at that time”. That’s how she did her receiving line and people moved quite fast, knowing others were waiting.
I just happened to call S2 and FDIL last night to chat. I learned that they’ve changed the date of the wedding!! 8-} Just a tad annoyed about it – if I hadn’t called, when were you planning to tell me?! It was to be Sunday Feb 17; they’ve changed it to Saturday Feb 16. Not a big change (it’s a holiday weekend) but it does matter since it’s happening in Puerto Rico and people will need to fly and get hotels.
FDIL is not big on details, I’m learning. They’ve been together for eight years, so I thought I knew her well, but there’s always more to learn.
@VeryHappy have they somehow let their guests and family know the date of this wedding? I’m only asking because that can be a big travel week…and lots of folks fly into Puerto Rico to catch cruise ships…or just vacation at one of the resorts.
Our daughter’s wedding was Memorial Day weekend, and we actually sent an email to everyone a year in advance because we knew folks sometimes make plans for three day weekends. Save the Date went out more than 6 months before.
Even with that, we had a few guests with standing plans that weekend who couldn’t (or wouldnt) change them.
When I first saw this, Very Happy, I thought your wedding would be “competing” for hotel rooms, etc. with tourists who would be traveling to see Lin Manuel Miranda reprising his role as Hamilton for the Puerto RIcan run. However, a little googling tells me that will be in January. Hope it all goes well!
@thumper1: I make recommendations, but at the end of the day remember I’m just the MOG. And it appears FDIL does not have my (or your) organizational skills.
At the end of the day…it doesn’t matter! The wedding is going to be wonderful!
I know!!
D is getting married In MN, a little over a year from now. I am really hating this planning. We picked the venue, but the venue rep is pushing for us to hire her as a “day of coordinator” for $1,000. My daughter begged for her services, so I agreed. Now I hear she has upped her charge to $1250.
Also, the venue insists we use a certain caterer. I’d like to serve appetizers during the cocktail hour, but they are insisting appetizers need to be ordered for the full number of guests. If I want bruschetta, then I have to order 120 servings of bruschetta, one serving for each guest. Ideally, I’d like to offer 3 different appetizers, but refuse to purchase 360 to be able to do this.