So glad you could put a Plan B into place.
@bajamm - remarkable turn around and your attitude is everything. It will be a wonderful time and circumstances beyond one’s control may make it easier to focus on what matters most. Cheers to your family.
Are there any other beach places where this bride could,have her wedding? Maybe under the circumstances, some place might be able to offer a ceremony spot on a beach.
@travelnut thank you
Also, does anyone know if non refundable deposits at the venue should turn out to be refunded in such situations?
@bajamm - do you have a written contract to review? Is the venue doing all food,etc or do you have separate catering, floral vendors? Contracts usually spell this all out. Wonder if the possibility of government issues is addressed. These contracts are drafted by the venues and the ones I’ve seen are highly protective of them. Given circumstances, I hope you are given full consideration. Good luck.
Isn’t it the ceremony only that was supposed to take place at the national monument? Not the reception…food, etc.
@travelnut @thumper1 yes, only the ceremony at the national monument. A deposit was still paid, part refundable and a part not. I told her to ask if it could all be refunded since it was not us that cancelled.
This is confusing:
The Point Cabrillo Lightkeepers Association shall not be responsible for events or
circumstances beyond its control that would prohibit or render it impossible to
perform the terms of this Wedding Contract. In such an occurrence, PCLK
reserves the right to cancel, and all fees will be refunded.
Google Point Cabrillo Light Station Wedding SIte Contract
Totally agree…you should get a full refund.
Thanks @lookingforward they probably have that wording about not being responsible so that they are not sued. A refund helps to stop the sueing.
I’m not sure I’m ready to read this topic yet.
Not sure I will be as calm when 1 or 2 or 25 of these "little glitches " or major issues pop up!
DS announced today that he and his live in GF of 2 yrs are engaged…
He is 33 yrs old, stable career, owns his own home.
GF is great and we have been hoping they’d take that next step.
I’m just not a “big event” person. The thought of all those plans that go into a typical wedding are fairly terrifying!
Luckily, as MOG, I’ll have less involvement?
Best to all in a similar place!
Had a little holiday fun: sent out email greetings and additional thanks to the “dream team” vendors for DD’s wedding (DH and I hosted). They were amazing at their roles as well as personable and a pleasure to do business with. These three (florist/designer, baker for wedding cake and cookie favors, wedding coordinator for 5 months before wedding) spent much time with us over the course of 15 months and were deeply appreciated. (The photographer was also super, but as DD did all coordinating with him, think that’s her thing.)
Oh, the Christmas revelations! Writing their own vows. Not carrying flowers, the attendants will be carrying “sentimental,objects” to symbolize the couple. Played with the food reuqests AGAIN. Photographer has changed AGAIN. Bride carryingg a bouquet the size of Kansas. No clue about how the guest list grew. MOB – who is confined to a walker — has announced she will walk the bride down the aisle or she won’t come to the wedding at all. And not in a “Gosh! I will meet this challenge” way, in a “MY WAY or ELSE” kinda way. My poor FDIL was so sad …" I just need her to not make a scene" …and this with months to go, God give me strength.
@greenbutton it’s going to be a lovely wedding…really…it is. Hard to see the forest through the trees now…but really…it will get there.
I know, I know. DH is correct – at the end of the day, they will be married, and that is what counts. But FDIL has a perfectly ordinary desire to have a plain old nice wedding , and MOB is just so … MOB is now planning to have her double knee surgery in the months prior to the wedding, and if she isn’t ambulatory, my son reports she did indeed say " well, you’ll have to move the wedding or I won’t come" . FDIL reports that my son replied “really? well I’ll make sure we take lots of pictures for you on [their date]”
The MOB is probably in a lot of knee pain, and just wants to be part of the wedding day…and is worried she won’t be able to be.
The bride and groom need to set a date. And be done with it…unless MOB is actually paying for the event. If that is the case…there should be some discussion about the date.
We paid for our DDs wedding…and I can tell you…if there had been any time when I wasn’t going to be able to attend, that date was jettisoned.
If she can’t walk…you can rent her a scooter!
She’s been in a scooter for the past 8 yrs. And for the past dozen or so, the doctors have said the only real remedy is knee replacement, which she has refused until now. The wedding date was set with her input and blessing and is a done deal, which is why these threats of move the date or I won’t come are so not helpful.
bride, groom and we are paying for the wedding. MOB is covering the flowers and the dress – and she’s already pronounced the dress not to her liking and she won’t pay for it. I don’t pretend to understand what’s going on here, so when MOB calls I just keep reinforcing that our kids are smart adults who are doing a fine job planning and deciding, and we should just enjoy the day when it arrives.
When I had an event my mother was sure to be overly dramatic at, I had a friend of my girls be in charge of her, during the event. That worked.
So, essentially, MOB has offered to,pay for the flowers. So, you and the couple are paying for the rehearsal dinner, wedding, bar, after brunch, DJ, photographer, gift baskets, favors, and??? The flowers are probably the least expensive item on that list. I’m doubtful MOB is including table centerpieces as part of flowers.
I guess you get my point. She is not in charge. She can offer opinions, but if they are all negative ( such as the wedding dress), she’s no longer welcome with her ideas.
I don’t know her, but have met a few MOBs or MOGs who only had negative things to say, and they hurt the engaged couple. Toxic people …