Heaven help that poor woman!
Maybe if @zoosermom gets to join the Grandparent thread, the future DIL will catch a break 
Congratulations, zoosermom! It sounds perfect. ?
DD got married today in the Dominican Republic. Since they did not know when the paperwork would clear and the date set, we did not go to just sit around and wait. They videoed it, though and I had the video shortly afterwards. Not quite the same, but we all decided to spend the money on the ceremony they are planning for later this year. Today was the legal part so they could start his immmgration paperwork. Looks like we will be planning the wedding part for 75 people in the DR in the fall.
Congrats! Glad you got the video quickly.
Congrats @Singersmom07. Nice to have the video and get the administrative stuff underway.
Any suggestions for online bridesmaid dresses?
My DIL chose Azazie for her bridesmaids’s dresses. I have the feeling my D will also go with them.
We are going with Azazie for bridesmaids. D1 ordered 12 samples (4 at a time) and D2 has tried them all on. Most are true to size. D2 and groom’s sister have chosen theirs. We like that some styles are for younger bridesmaids and some for older young women. Ours range from 20-31.
Sister’s niece also used them in 2017. Very pleased with sizing and quality.
DD’s bridesmaids were all over the country. They had a great experience with Brideside for her summer 2018 wedding.
Has anyone heard of Birdygrey?
She is strongly considering Azarie so m glad several& you have used that site. I like that the girls can order samples. @travelnut that also looks like a great site. I think she is hoping to stick to a site with less expensive dresses.
Thank you for all the suggestions
My D used Azarie as well. It worked well.
Goskid used Azarie as well. Worked well for the 6’1"MOH and the 5’ bridesmaid and those in between…and was easy for those out of state…
@mom60- Azarie looks good and pricing quite reasonable; DD wasn’t aware of it. Nice to hear so many good reviews here.
In case anyone else is considering Brideside option, she found the process excellent, with a designated coordinator who kept it all on track.
My daughter used Azarie and it was great. The dresses were very reasonably priced and there were a good variety of dress styles to suit a wide variety of bridesmaids’ bodies. The colors were beautiful. Everything came in on time and as promised. She and I both highly recommend Azarie.
The last 5 posters mentioned AzaRie. Is there an Azarie and an AzaZie?
Ah, sorry. It is Azazie.
@treemaven you and your family have been on my mind. I hope that your D’s situation has settled in a way you all feel good about.
room828, thank you for your thoughts. They have all helped.
It has been about two weeks now, so the initial shock has worn off. We initially contacted all reserved guests to let them know of the cancellation and what the hotel cancellation policy was. We were at a very immediate deadline before all became non-refundable/cancellable. Because of the travel involved with most likely non-refundable flights, we intended to continue with the catered events, just cancelling the special decor, etc. and asked our guests to re-confirm their presence, if they were unable to cancel.
Most, we found, were still planning to come. Many had plans to use it as part of a vacation and had planned to stay a few extra days.
A few days later, DD and I decided to cancel the catered events and band. She thought it would be “weird”. So we did. A few days after that, she re-visited that decision and re-instated it—both the catered events and the reggae band. And that’s where we left it. The caterer generously offered to reduce the reservations to what our new reduced number is.
It may be weird; it may not. But we feel a bit better offering the local food, drink, and music to those who made the effort to come down.
We, too, had planned some extra days after the wedding at the groom’s family, so we needed to find an alternative. Hubby and older daughter did a great job finding us a nice place with cool amenities where we four can relax, re-group and have our own discussions. (We live in the middle of the country and both daughters live on opposite ends of the West Coast. Haven’t had a chance to talk to DD in person about any of this).
She seems to be dealing with it well enough. He has begun therapy to help him deal with those traumatic childhood issues. They have also begun couples counseling as DD is not ready to give up on their relationship. I honestly don’t know what to think or feel about that. She tells me she knows what she’s doing. So for now, I just keep a close watch, ear, and gentle suggestions when she asks.
I think this will take some time before it shakes out and we know what the ultimate deal will be.
I appreciate all the help, suggestions, and support I received from you all. 
@treemaven sounds like good solutions. It’s a process.
What about HIS family and friends? Are they still invited to this party?