Sometimes we wish DS would share information with us a little bit more. He did share their engagement event with right after he and she had engaged.
We are more than 6months out, so there’s a certain dead spot where the big things are done (ceremony, reception venues, menu planning started, hotel chosen, save the dates out, photographer) but other things are too soon. FDIL and I have a FB chat thread just for sending each other pinterest ideas, and she’s really good about saying what she likes and dislikes, which I find helpful. But there’s SO much pretty and fun stuff, it’s easy to get carried away. i channel it all into the rehearsal picnic and the Sunday (at our house) brunch. It’s nice to have a happy thing to focus on.
We are just over 9 months out. They have a venue and a firm date. I am thrilled and appreciate my FDIL invited me and my D to join in the dress shopping in a month with her mom and sister.
@westparent123 , I imagine if my S were to get married one day (he swears he won’t, but who knows), I wouldn’t hear much from him. The men in my family don’t share much! 
@westparent, I probably posted on here previously that I have one son who might not even tell me until after he was married. I hope that’s not quite true, but he is very tight lipped about “his business.”
Yeah. Rehearsal dinner place confirmed , and the “kids” don’t want a formal brunch on a Monday. They want my check. We also confirmed the date for my “meet & greet” , to be held in my house. Let the de-cluttering continue.
Good morning. Our date is now booked for January 2020. The recent east coast storm helped to solidify our plans!
I’d love to get thoughts and ideas on invitations. We need about 130 paper invitations. I would like double envelopes. RSVP with envelope (or a postcard), and a card with information.
We have found prices ranging from $6 to $15 per set. (This does not include Save the Dates or thank you notes). postage is also not included in these numbers.
Options seem to be:
Online purchased template (like Etsy), printed locally.
Stationery store/local printer.
Other?
PaperSource (local or online)
Minted (does not have double envelopes)
Etc.
I’d love to get ideas of what worked for your families.
Thank you!
We were going to order from Minted BUT luckily MOG made all of our invitations and response cards.
Keep an eye out for coupons or sales at Minted. We found their costs to be decent enough and there were lots of choices.
When you say you want “double envelopes” does that mean you want an inside envelope too? I can’t remember the last time I got one of those. We didn’t have those extra inside envelopes.
Our goal was to have something that took one postage stamp, and remarkably we did it. An extra envelope would have taken us over.
My S designed his own and had it locally printed. It wasn’t inexpensive. My D would have loved a custom watercolor invitation and a watercolored map but is going with Minted. She was able to purchase a credit in December that saved her 30%. She is coming down to visit next week and we are going to finalize the wording and order. I was surprised that the Minted samples are very nice.
Regarding Save the Date- my S sent online. My D used Costco. She used photos from her engagement photos. Costco was inexpensive and has several different templates to choose from.
My D and I are trying to decide on wording. The groom has divorced parents and both are longtime remarried. My D is going back and forth from leaving their names off completely to just listing Mom and Dad or adding another line and listing both couples. How have others handled this?
It feels more inclusive to list them all. Who is harmed? And it is a gesture of goodwill to the stepparents, assuming groom has an okay relationship with them.
I would either include no one (and just say “together with their families”) or everyone (especially if they are longtime remarried), like this:
Mr and Mrs BrideDad and BrideMom
Mr and Mrs GroomDad and StepMom
Mr and Mrs StepDad and GroomMom
I’ve seen the above when all 4 parents were divorced and remarried and it didn’t look too much! I agree that it’s better to be inclusive.
Also, we had a great experience with Minted!.
Some want to be acknowledged as the original parents. I’ve seen
Son of Ms Jane Doe
and
Mr John Smith
D used Minted and was very happy. The invitations were lovely. The kids didn’t include any parent names. It just said, “Please join us for the wedding of …” No one batted an eye.
S and FDIL are using paperculture, because they are eco friendly and assign you a consultant. There are so many ways to get invitations now.
They are wanting to save money by not having RSVP cards, and only doing online responses. I worry that may backfire…
D1 ordered her invitations from Scotti Cline Designs (I think out of Atlanta).
for 105 invitations, it was $520 (double ply).
$1600 all in for all 3 pieces (wedding invitation, reception, welcome party), and it included envelope addressing, liners, etc. They were letterpress.
@greenbutton I was worried about the online RSVPs, too, but even my 91 year old dad did it without help. 
@thumper1 @Mom22039 Maybe it’s a southern thing but every invite we received has had inner envelope. Technically that is where you list who is invited when there are young people in the home. For instance, the outer was addressed to me and H, but inner included our girls names when they still lived her (through college).
My S and DIL used Minted and we were very pleased with their customer service. They addressed the envelopes and originally sent the wrong order but corrected it within 24 hours. Re: wording, their invitation read MOB (own name) and FOB (own name) invite you to the wedding of their daughter, Bride, to Groom, son of MOG and FOG. B’s parents are long divorced and we are married with same last name.
Younger s’s wedding venue included a package deal with something called basicInvite. They were fine.
Minted has “belly bands” and we are thinking about getting those without the bride and groom’s names and writing the guests names on those in place of an inner envelope.