1214mom, that’s it exactly!!,
The fiancée said she’d send pictures and I’ll try to FaceTime them, too. I’m impressed that I don’t post often, but so many of you really know me. Thanks
@bookworm - understandable disappointment. Those points of contact are meaningful and often fun. Good that you have some work-arounds in place and that fdil has an interest in sharing.
@dentmom4 - hope the honeymoon logistics work out well. They’ll always have a story…
May all in FL or traveling there be safe.
@bookworm I would definitely be disappointed, too. Hopefully Facetiming will take some of the sadness away. And I would just ask for a task – sometimes everyone is trying so hard to be cooperative that it makes tasking confusing.
S had a scheduled fairly serious medical procedure this week, and FDIL sent me frquent texts. I thanked her for taking such good care of him and she sent me the loveliest response about how she never had anyone put her first like he does (very true) and she wants to spend their lives doing that for him.
And he has a job interview next week! I could tell he was relieved, even if it doesn’t pan out. More of his former colleagues have jumped ship after the earlier downsizing so they are all supporting one another.
To add to my disappointment, my son made a last minute decision to fly to Chicago to visit with me.
Oh no @bookworm! I feel so bad for you
@bookworm your son didn’t know you had cancelled your trip? A couple of days ago?
What a sweet kid to think of coming. Is that where the shower is?
Shower in Chicago.
I didn’t cancel my trip until Thursday, when the hurricane was suppose to hit SE Florida on Sunday. I was leaving early Friday morning. So, it seems I could have gone. We didn’t know anything real about the hurricane until Wednesday
@bookworm you did what you thought was prudent at the time in terms of canceling that trip. Hoping you got to do the FaceTime chats with everyone. Im sorry you didn’t get to go…but I’m sure everyone understands.
Are they really saying this could go out to sea??
Sure hope it goes out to sea, the cruise ships can come in early, and no destruction anywhere. Just shows how hard it is to predict weather.
MOB called twice yesterday to enlist my help/opinion on making FDIL change from her gown to a dress MOB purchased at the end of the reception. FDIL wants to wear her gown. MOB is frantic that the dress will be “ruined” and I offered that 1. she won’t be wearing it again and 2. it’s up to her, regardless. MOB is very fond of this epic tale of the stolen wedding dress that never came back from the cleaners, and also seems concerned that it will cost a lot; MOB did not pay for the gown, FDIL did. Dress MOB bought for post-reception travel (to a nearby hotel) has been described by my son as “streetwalker fashion”. Is it really so awful to keep the wedding dress on because you simply adore it?
So sorry, @bookworm. These storms are unpredictable. Its not like you had a choice when they cancelled your flight home. While there are not watches or warnings, my friend, who is a red cross emergency responder, is reading her RC emails and it says there is a mandatory evacuation for Brevard.
@greenbutton, I don’t envy you. I see many more issues with changing into another dress. Who will take charge of the wedding dress? Where and when will the change take place? Where will the street length dress be stored during the reception?
There is nothing wrong with the bride wanting to keep her dress on. It’s the bride’s decision. Don’t let the MOB try to put you in the middle of it.
I realize that’s way north of you, but still…
My DD wore her wedding dress the entire wedding time. This decision should be the bride’s not the MOB.
@greenbutton I feel so badly for you and FDIL. Does the MOB realize that she is alienating her D? It just seems that there is one thing after another that this woman is trying to control. Is the FOB in the picture? Is there anyone who can help what seems like an obsessive need for any and all control by the MOB?
I know that there are 2 sides to every story. But when my kid got married, I had met the MOB twice and never called her on the phone. I can’t imagine calling the other parent to try and get them to side with me.
My sympathies
@greenbutton I believe most brides leave their gown on the entire evening, and those that don’t choice to change to a “party” dress. This MOB has not right to make this decision for her daughter, nor try to get you involved; shame on her!
If her true worry is the dress will cost too much to be cleaned, tell her you will pay for it if you are able. If she is worried about it disappearing, let her know it will be insured; have no idea if that is true.
I had the bridal store take care of the cleaning with their preferred cleaners. I dropped the dress as the bridal store and picked it back up from them, and paid them. I am assuming if the dress when missing that they would make good on it. Also, unless you open the sealed box, which would ruin the preservation, who know what is inside the box; it could be another gown, or a pile of old rags!
I work at a charity thrift store where we get donations of unopened “preserved” wedding dresses. Let’s just say, they are as yellow and the fabric as dry (the lace in particular) as those dresses that just come in on a hanger from the closet after being cleaned. The only advantage to boxing is that you don’t have to find a place high enough to hang a freshly cleaned wedding dress.
Most dry cleaners have wedding dress cleaning services…and they will tell you up front whether the stains will come out or not. Really…stains like grass and mud stains are far more common than any other kind of stain…and that happens during the ceremony or pictures.
Frankly, this MOB is a bit misinformed about this. Does she really think the dress will be MORE stained after the ceremony, and during dancing? Why?
FDIL texted to ask if she was missing some etiquette issue about changing out of the wedding gown. I told her that imho this is very simple – does she want to keep her custom made gown on or not? If she does, then she should, and we will heartily support her. The wedding dress is actually staying at my house , after, since their apartment is too small for their place to make sense. But we didnt tell MOB that.
MOB had also wanted to fuss about her friend who invited other people to the wedding ( who does that?!?) — MOB was trying to sell “I’m helpless to stop her, what could I do about it” and I said well, tell them the truth : it’s rude, and we have no seats for them. After a longg silence MOB says, well, maybe she should talk to her friend and I cheerfully said “oh great! Because I’d hate for them to be embarassed by having to sit in the lobby”
MOB is a single parent of FDIL, her only child. MOB has no siblings herself, parents are deceased. I imagine this wedding is very difficult for her.
@dentmom4 any updates from your honeymoon cruise kids? Reports here are now saying that this is where this will touch land in FL. Some areas are under mandatory evacuation! Yikes.
Back in the day I changed into a “going away” outfit as we left reception. Most wedding I have gone to have done this. One niece changed into white jumpsuit so she and groom could leave on tandem bike. I guess traditionally it was done so couple who were traveling immediately following wedding wouldn’t have to deal with a wedding dress on the road.