I attended a wedding this past weekend, where my biggest reception pet peeve occurred - bands that play so loud that you can’t even carry on a conversation with the person seated next to you. The only wedding I’ve been to lately with a live band that wasn’t too loud was an outdoor wedding. I enjoy dancing, but I’d also like to be able to hear too. At this wedding, the band played throughout the meal, other than during the entree. A little too much for me.
We had a band at our daughter’s wedding. During dinner…the band members also ate dinner. There was soft recorded background music that was played during that time. They did seem to get louder as the evening went on…but really, it wasn’t a big deal. We could all chat at dinner, and the desserts were served in an adjacent room.
@lookingforward,I hope you enjoy shopping for a wedding dress as much as I did. I wasn’t prepared for how emotional the experience would be. For me. Daughter was fine. She ended up choosing a style very different from what she thought she wanted. They look so different on. The picture of the dress she bought didn’t look nearly as good as it did on her.
Well I’m having trouble controlling my anxiety. There is a shower for fiancée this weekend. I booked plane and non refundable hotel reservations. I don’t know if I’ll be able to return to SE Florida on Sunday or even Monday.
I’ve lived in Fl for so many years, I have no fear of a hurricane. My house has hurricane windows and doors.
Of course, she and her mom have been gracious. I’m the one who wanted to be filled in with wedding details. I like crafty things, and was hoping for some projects. I also wanted to shop for the food items for the goody bags, at the local Costco. The mom hasn’t offered to do that for me , so I may have to straight out ask. This weekend was a chance to bond with her family.
"I also wanted to shop for the food items for the goody bags, at the local Costco. The mom hasn’t offered to do that for me , so I may have to straight out ask. "
Consider ordering items online and having them shipped wherever you need them to be. Would save a lot of effort for either of you.
Sorry Mother Nature has put a major kink in your plans, @bookworm!
@bookworm - look into a Costco business account too. You might be able to order larger quantities at a better price. MIL and I shopped at Costco and Target for the goody bag stuff. I brought the bags , ribbon and made “hangover kits”, with little advil packs, tums, bandaids and something else which escapes me at the moment. It is something you can make in advance and bring with you.
@bookworm - As an aside, our flights have an advisory (so we can change the flights at no cost) but not cancelled. I changed the car reservation to include gas refill so we don’t have to worry about finding gas.
I’m sorry, @bookworm. Missing the weekend must be very disappointing. My D’s future MIL ordered some of the the welcome bag items from Boxed and had them shipped to my house. It’s like an online Costco with bulk items.
My D’s wedding is this weekend in Maryland. We’ve had to deal with a few minor issues in the past few days. My niece who had declined the invitation suddenly decided she and her son want to come, and we lost 3 guests at the last minute. We had to shuffle a few tables but at least we will have enough rental chairs. My younger D (MOH) lives in Florida but fortunately she flew home on Wednesday so we aren’t stressing about getting her here. Thanks to this site, I was expecting some last minute issues and keep telling my D that they won’t really matter.
@momjr, sending best wishes for a wonderful wedding weekend! It’s quite amazing how quickly dates that seem far in the future creep up on us. Glad your D is already out of the storm zone. Friends have an outdoor wedding in South Carolina next weekend and are wondering what contingency plans might be in place.
S and FDIL got the pictures from their engagement shoot (part of the photographer’s package) and they are adorable! She’s designing a Save the Date using a collage of the pictures and will send them in September, six months before the wedding. it’s a destination wedding for only a small percentage for the guests and those are mostly family who have already been told about the details. With summer ending, and fall creeping in, I know that spring will be here before I know it.
D and new SIL are on their honeymoon cruise out of Port Canaveral and have been rerouted to the Mexican route due to Dorian. Now they are told they won’t come into port until Wednesday (instead of Sunday). She has emailed her dental school profs because the new term starts Tuesday and she won’t be there. SIL has another week off before med school resumes for him. Hope the storm dissipates and they can come in sooner. A stressor they really didn’t need.
Thanks all. I’m a business member of Costco, but didn’t see the food items on their mail list. That would be so easy.
So, the bride will be busy visiting the venue, the d.j. , all last minute items. Makes me sad ? but we’ve been texting all morning and she knows I care. I’m a detail person, so discussing flowers and linens is joyful for me.
I know I’m being selfish, as FL and probably other states are preparing for a level 4 storm. There will be human and property damage and likely power outages for a week.
@bookworm, you are not being selfish. I’m pretty sure any of us would be disappointed to not be able to participate in the event. I think you’ve felt a little “left out” for much of the planning, so this probably feels even worse than if you were close/could have been more involved along the way. Maybe they can let you be there electronically for at least some part of the shower.
