JYM, my friend was telling me about a wedding in Charleston, the venue didn’t charge them, but gave them a new date in May. She suspects the couple will marry and use that day for a celebration.
Booked the first florist visit. Funny thing is, he asked me things like which room at the venue and I have no idea. D1 and FSIL vetted that.
I haven’t been to a wedding in ages. Among DH’s many cousins, after the first few weddings of the next gen, they just stopped inviting all the collateral relatives. In some cases, the female cousins stopped inviting each other. Fine. It’s still a lovely, warm extended family.
DS proposed to his girlfriend last night! I know I’ll need the collective wisdom of this group over the next year as things come together. But for right now, I’m incredibly happy for them. I swear, I couldn’t have custom ordered a better match for him or our family.
That’s so exciting, @GRITS80! Welcome!
@GRITS80, congratulations! I’m now MOG for the 2nd time and we’re having a lot of fun.
Congratulations, @GRITS80. Wonderful that you are excited to have his fiancée join the family.
Congrats!!! Join the MOG club!!
Welcome to the MOG club. This is a special group. We learn to praise nice touches and act less enthusiastic about some awful ideas. Only resist when you feel it is absolutely necessary. Ex., not scheduling a wedding on the weekend of a Marathon. It took me 2 days to show how hotel prices doubled, the hotel and venue were within the zone, etc. it can be difficult at times, but you will learn to nod and smile
YAYAYAYAY @GRITS80! Congrats and welcome to the MOG club! Been through it twice. Its a blast!
Congratulations!
Went to my D1 city to wedding dress shop She found a lovely dress.
D2 is mad a me. prob rightly so. We added last minute guests . We knew many people who couldn’t come ,some expected some not. We thought long and hard. but wanted them included. We are paying BTW. She is regretting her choice of a large wedding. I should have talked to her directly but had my husband do it. She has been doing the spoiling the nest thing that kids going to college do. She was always close to me , but has been trying to separate , which I get but still hurtful the way she goes about it. She may be taking out her stress on us too. Not enjoying this. Sorry to be a drag I need ahug or a drink or something lol
Welcome to the MOG club!
S lost his job to corporate downsizing 4 weeks ago; got a part-time position this week that has potential to be long term (he works in a creative field, so contract work is not unusual) plus he’ll have professional mentors. So relieved!!
10 days! Cleaning the house like never before. MOB wants to “speak a few words” during the ceremony. Pastor firmly said not gonna do that. FDIL and I are starving ourselves. Got a wheelchair for DH and have convinced him to consider it. Phew!!
I’m considering asking to speak at either the service or reception. But I can be trusted to keep it meaningful, appropriate…and short.
MOB has expressed to S and FDIL , in the past, her concern that people will think this is a shotgun wedding because FDIL “is fat and could be mistaken for pregnant”. Apart from being completely inappropriate under any circumstances, this also happens to be completely untrue. FDIL has concerns that MOB may want to share similarly insane thoughts with the congregation.
@greenbutton - I will make a mental note not to say that (!!!) seriously that is a very strange thing to say about one’s own daughter.
Years back, I had a patient who said to her DIL, “I didn’t know they made wedding gowns that large”. She was never forgiven.
I’m not thrilled that future DIL is wearing a short gown, but I will forever keep my opinion to myself.
My niece wore a short little tutu wedding dress. The dress was not flattering. But it was what she wanted to wear, and it was her wedding.
@downtoearth maybe it’s time to have a sit down talk (or over Facetime if she is far away) to talk about decisions moving forward. It is important that she does not have regrets on the large wedding and so discussing things now and getting more on the same page might be in order. It can be a stressful time!
I’m sure others have felt like I do. Because my son’s wedding is far away, and on a Sunday night, only a dozen of my relatives are coming. The number is about the same for my son. He has friends coming from Zurich and Canada and Oregon, but not Japan nor P.R. We represent 1/6 of the crowd. Will we feel lost?
When S2 got married over a Labor Weekend in the ski resorts of Colorado none of my family made it and only dear friends of the family did, plus his siblings and best friends. Bride’s family far outnumbered us but it did not matter in the long run. A good time was had by all. Make friends with the bride’s side and have fun!