Bought it!
It’s very similar to the Alex (different mfr) but V in front. As you all described, the lace is stretchy and surprisingly flattering for a not so young body.
Mine’s ivory. D1 loves it. The thread trim on the lace is a pale coppery tan. It solves the problem of standing out from the BMs (in simple navy) without either overpowering them or being lost.
I just can’t get over that it looks so great. A thought for other MOBs or MOGs: everything looked better on (or even on a hanger) than any photos I’d seen. (!)
So the dress for DD1’s wedding was teal. I ordered a very nice navy dress from Macy’s for niece’s wedding. However I also saw another dress (in silver) that I ordered from Nordstrom. Both the Macy and Nordstrom dresses were on sale. I know the navy dress fits; the Nordstrom dress was just ordered. Another similar dress that they didn’t have in my size was with the color ‘dove’ which is like a silver. Good thing you can see what the dress looks like in the different color schemes - I liked a champagne in one dress until I saw the dress in that color - the under the lace/beads was too pale beige-ish where the other color choices had the lace/beads layer matching the under fabric.
I didn’t even look at Dillard’s.
This is a great time to find formal dresses, and on sale. From the holidays/holiday dressing.
No more winter weddings? Just spoke to MOB who told me that one invitation was inexplicably returned (address was confirmed correct) over a month after it was sent and I know of one other that never arrived. Our numbers seem to be in line with what we’re expecting but FDIL asked for a pretty early response date so we’ll soon figure out if others did not make it to their destinations. I hate them but am beginning to think digital invitations are the way to go.
S is still looking for a new job and I suspect that will continue after the wedding. He’s not too down about it now and I hope that continues until after the wedding and honeymoon. Good news is he got good severance so income, for now, is not an issue.
Things are beginning to move quickly - I think we’re 7 weeks away at this point.
FSIL survived his bachelor party last weekend. The only casualty was his phone (they threw him in the pool and he had his phone in his pocket). They closed escrow on their house yesterday and will spend the rest of the month moving in. DDs bachelorette party is this weekend.
Online responses are fine with me…easy to do and efficient.
Online invites…not so much so. A family member her used paperless post for invites, and save the date. Some people got them and others didn’t. Some folks don’t check their spam folders. I almost deleted the save the date because the sender didn’t look familiar.
I vote for mailed invites, and online responses. It’s so easy to customize the online responses. We did mail responses and I wish we had done online.
I will say, the bride and groom need to check the online data base very carefully. We had online responses to a wedding a few years ago…but some of us could not RSVP…each person had to do this separately…which would have been fine if all of us had been listed…but we weren’t. A quick call to the parent of the groom got it fixed, but it never should have happened.
I guess there can be issues no matter the method of delivery. Bachelorette party was this past weekend and my D and DIL reported that it was nice. Low key, off season resort on the ocean where they did spa things and stayed in a cottage. S reported that FDIL had the most amazing time and that’s what mattered. His bachelor party is being organized by his brother and will, too, be small and low key. I think they’re renting a house upstate and will do some outdoor stuff my S likes, then probably eat meat and drink bourbon
S2 never got the mailed invite to his cousin’s wedding, and the thank you note the couple mailed him was returned. They had the address correct both times. Issues can happen no matter what delivery method is used.
DD did online save the dates, mailed invitations and online RSVP. A couple people mistook the actual invitations for Save the Dates. Nudging those who didn’t RSVP was easy because you could send them a link. All but my 85 year old aunt were able to easily RSVP.
My kids sent a real paper invite to their wedding. Everything else was on line. I know my sister couldn’t open attachments. The kids spent hours describing each person who a part of the ceremony, their registry at crate and barrel, and list of things to do in city of wedding. I see this method as the future.
D getting married in August. Doing paper invitations but they have an extensive website.
We “negotiated” the RSVPs. My future SIL wanted RSVPs online (“It is so hard to mail a letter” LOL) and I like old fashioned response cards. So we’re including response cards with a line on the bottom saying an online RSVP option is available on their website. It will be interesting to see who RSVP’s in what manner.
Having the paper vs paperless invite discussion at this very moment with FDIL. I am voting for paper invites/online response with website. Thank you for this discussion!
S and DIL had paper invitations, but online RSVPs. The only person who needed help with that was my 81yo aunt. They still had to reach out to people who didn’t bother with the RSVP.
Niece is doing paper invites, online rsvps. May wedding, invites out mid-March. My nephew has already responded! I made the rsvp website live last week after she finished her registry and he had his save the date card ready.
We got a “save the date” from a friend’s daughter, with a link to the website. The website has an RSVP option but I don’t want to click on it yet as I am not sure if its the wedding invitation or not.
I checked FDIL’s spreadsheet and it looks like most responses were received by the 2/14 deadline. I’m going to suggest that we wait another 10 days and then start contacting people because we have to give the venue a final count on March 8th.
My current worry is that they are planning to go to Thailand for their honeymoon. They have travel insurance but pandemics are not covered and since their flights go through Dubai and not China, Emirates is not canceling or offering free changes…yet. They are adults and can obviously make their own decisions but I worry that they still think they’re infallible and will assume that even if they get sick, they will recover. I’m more worried about them being denied reentry to the US if this thing continues to snowball.
