D’s best friend, engaged since 2018, just cancelled bachelorette for this weekend as well as the early May wedding. I know weddings and graduations aren’t life and death, but this is still so hard for all who expected to be celebrating happy milestones.
My goddaughter is suppose to get married May 9 - I’m just waiting to hear it’s being postponed…or reduced in size.
D had a wedding to go to Easter weekend, already canceled.
As I suspected, changes by the minute. Kids called tonight after seeing the possible “shelter in place” order for NYC and asked if the rabbi could marry them tomorrow. We decided that they would call and see if he was available to be “on call.” If it happens, they can immediately come up here and get married, if not our Saturday plan is still in place but numbers have been reduced from 28 to 15 and can still be adjusted further down. I know they want to get married and not have that delayed by this virus but I really don’t get the rush.
As I suspected might happen - the wedding is off. Too much stress, too much angst, not enough joy and happiness. We were down to the parents, the rabbi and the kids…and then my son said that he wanted to be happy at his wedding and not worried about people. They have decided to marry each other (spiritually) on Saturday on the roof of their building and consider it their anniversary. They will get married legally when it’s safe to do so. Thanks, everyone, for riding this rollercoaster with me and I am here to commiserate with the next in line. Are you there @tx5athome?!
So sorry @runnersmom
Runnersmom, I can feel their disappointment even through your post. I love
“They have decided to marry each other (spiritually) on Saturday on the roof of their building and consider it their anniversary.” They sound like wonderful people. Wishing them all the best on their special day Saturday and again when they legally wed.
These are difficult times that really will test us as a nation. I am thinking of all the weddings, showers, Match days, graduations that will be put on hold, cancelled or altered to something we barely recognize. Our generation and our children have never experienced anything like this. I think that something that would give all of us hope would be to read stories or talk to our parents and grandparents who lived through WW II. They left their lives, jobs, schools, sweethearts, changed wedding plans and somehow seemed to be so much stronger in spirit. We need to realize that we will come through this upheaval. My thoughts and best wishes for all you you who are planning weddings.
Oh @runnersmom I’m so sorry but glad they married in spirit.
So sorry, @runnersmom. Their sentiments are understandable and good that they could hit the pause button long enough to take their own pulse amidst the chaos. What a wild time. Hang in there.
Oh noooooooo :(. So sorry, @runnersmom
(not a wedding but…) we’re considering postponing DS25’s bar mitzvah from this June until a year later.
@runnersmom, you get the award for the Mom and MIL of the year - you have been SO helpful, willing, accommodating and supportive to your son and his to-be-but-really-is wife. Joyous it should be. They are definitely married in their hearts.
Thanks all - you have been as much a support system for me throughout all of this as my IRL friends. All I want is for them to be happy - they are a perfect match and I am just grateful that they found each other in this world. My S1, DIL and GS are now living with us and my D is working 18 hour days in her apartment in the city. Once she comes up for air I suspect she will move in with us as well. No one wants to be alone if they don’t have to be. We will celebrate when we can and it will be, I suspect, even more sweet.
@runnersmom - you are a model of grace and love for us all!
Sorry @runnersmom !! A friend’s daughter, who was to be married in early April (and has been engaged for maybe 18 months, first venue fell through, rescheduled to new venue 7 months later, and now this) ran to the justice of the peace (before the courthouse closed) on Tuesday after crying all day Monday when everything was cancelled. They did it live on Instagram and my friend was watching while drinking champagne.
@tx5athome, I suspect there will be so many stories after all this settles. My FDIL was interviewed for an article in the Washington Post on weddings being postponed (outing myself a little there but it’s a sweet story). Will your wedding go on as planned or replanned or is it a game time decision?
Family relative owns a large catering business. They do mostly very large affairs, and all have been required to be cancelled until the end of April (at least). Some folks have rescheduled for the fall, but others have not. This is a huge loss for these businesses as well, and for their employees who now don’t have work.
As upsetting as it is for the wedding families…think about the people on the other end who now don’t have any income.
RunnersMOM, I’d love to read the article, but I’d have to sign up. Any chance you’d feel ok to quote part of It?
As you all now know, even this isn’t going to happen, but it was a wonderful plan. At the end you’ll know why I know my S found his person:
"Days before the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention urged Americans to postpone or cancel gatherings of more than 50 people, Robyn [last name deleted], 29, and her fiance, Andrew, were already downsizing their March 21 wedding.
The original plan: 180 people at a venue in Tarrytown, N.Y., black-tie dress, with a wedding band coaxing people onto the dance floor. The new plan: 25 people in Andrew’s parents’ living room, twinkle lights strewn about, dinner and a homemade cake, no dancing. The guest list is capped at the couple, their immediate families, the rabbi who’s officiating, the bridal party and best friends. Everyone will still wear their tuxes and gowns.
Like many other couples around the country, Robyn and Andrew are postponing their larger celebration, which will now take place in August.
To Robyn [last name deleted], the chaos of this moment has been clarifying. Her mantra to her fiance has been: “As long as I get to marry you, I don’t care.”
The whole point of this is to marry your person,” [she] adds. “At the end of the day, if you get to do that, you’re winning.”