And @thumper1, I know. We have rescheduled to an open date and the venue will have our money to use until then (everything but the final payment had been made, and that was mostly taxes and service charge). Our hope is that the venue will still be in business. We have purchased the ordered and not cancellable flowers from the florist and my house is now filled with white roses and orchids - many of which I will get to my S and FDIL in the next couple of days. This is a challenging time for everyone and we do appreciate the economic consequences to the vendors with whom we have been working.
And got to be married on St. Patrick’s Day. May the Luck of the Irish be with them.
@runnersmom, thanks for sharing. Teared up
As you know things change rapidly. Every time I think it couldn’t possibly get worse, it seems to. AT THE MOMENT, the plan is to have immediate family only in the backyard with maybe pictures at a park. We will see. Nine days.
May all our kids find their person. <3
@runnersmom I have to ask…what happened to the cake you were baking?!
I will frost, decorate and drop one tier (3 layers) off at their apartment on Saturday, with the many flowers the florist dropped off today … the florist is now closed, as is the local caterer I was planning to use if the small ceremony had come to fruition. I will save the remaining tiers for their first anniversary!
So very sorry about all the changed wedding plans . I am so thankful my son got engaged on February 28 th. He and his fiancee were able to have a happy private proposal and a celebration with 20 + friends that night after the proposal. We have nice pictures of the engagement ring and pictures from the party. But, we were planning a nice visit together in early April to celebrate with them. Now cancelled of course.
I am just so grateful that they had at least a few days of joy and excitement before everything started breaking loose. All the best to you and your children!
Well, the sun is shining here on what would have been their wedding day. I delivered the middle tier of the cake I baked, decorated with flowers the florist delivered in anticipation of the revised wedding that never was. My H and I drove to Queens and stood on the sidewalk as my S and FDIL scooped up the cake, some other food and supplies they needed, multiple vases of flowers and a case of wine. We exchanged virtual hugs, blew kisses and departed for home. I am sad today but so proud of them. They are embracing the joy of being together, come what may.
@runnersmom what a wonderful attitude. Your son and his wife sound like the kind of couple who has the right priorities for a long life of happiness together. And that’s what really matters.
I just came back from HI. I was thinking about all of you while I was away. It just seem like news got worse each day. I got a call from my sister about possible postponing of niece’s wedding next year because she is afraid things won’t better by next March.
@runnersmom - so sorry about your son’s wedding. The couple has great attitude. They are going to have a great wedding when this is all over.
That is poignant, @runnersmom. Choked me up; they sound as remarkable as you are.
@runnersmom Sorry the second planned wedding was cancelled. It is really day to day with changes and decisions. I want to applaud you on how you handled the entire situation… offering flexibility and not stress as the plans continued to change… to finally even delivering them a cake, flowers, food, wine and virtual hugs on their chosen, and now simply between them and God, wedding day. Thank you also for sharing the beautiful article. Your son is marrying a lovely woman who gets what is most important and even though of course they were disappointed, her love shined through in her words and she remained focused on that. Congratulations. I agree with the bride… they are both winners!
To everyone else, I hope in a few months this thread returns to chaotic plans and decisions. But for those of us that have been part of this group during this time period, I believe the stress of changes and planning will not be there the same way as in the past. It is incredible to be living in a time right now that everything is stopped and we cannot simply move forward. When we do return to normalcy, we must remember, as long as they get married, and the world is returned to normal, inconveniences and changes are just that. Figure it out, move forward and enjoy life.
@tx5athome, thinking of you as this week commences. I hope your kids are able to get married or find their own joy in this challenging time. Also hope everyone is dafe and healthy…really the only thing that matters right now.
I feel so badly for the families enduring Plan B, C, D…My DIL of 6 months is the MOH in a wedding scheduled for May; we all spoke about that (my son is severely immunocompromised) . Right now the wedding Plan B is downsized and excluding any non family guest over 60 or under 18. Regardless, S & DIL decided he will not attend, but she is struggling with her own exposure as MOH.
I said maybe he could live with us for 2 weeks if things are still dangerous; she said she could live without being the MOH , but not without him for that long, and the bride would have to adjust.
You know, life will go on. In wartime, people married on the fly with ad hoc arrangements. A wedding is a sign of faith in the future. It’s a gesture of optimism, at least as meaningful (if not more so) when entered into during trying times.
I love weddings and enjoy the preparations and the rituals. But really, the basic ceremony of commitment is all that really matters, and that can take place regardless of other difficulties. My DD set her wedding date for May Day 2021. I hope she goes through with it, in any format possible, regardless of the global situation, because the basic thing that matters is the vows.
An Instagrammer I follow was supposed to get married yesterday. They cancelled their wedding probably a month ago due to the virus. But they decided recently what they really wanted more than anything especially now in this crisis to be married. So they decided to get married in their living room, only them and a friend to officiate, a friend to take pictures. All socially distanced. They dressed cute but casual. Her friends surprised her and put balloons outside their house, one of them made a fancy cake, someone put a bottle of champagne on ice and several friends put signs of encouragement.
The Instagram woman who got married posted last night that for a day, they had exactly what they wanted. They honored the date, they are husband and wife, instead of waking up on that date depressed she woke up excited - something no one has really felt for a few weeks. It was just really touching to hear her words and how when you get down to bare bones, bare bones is all that is needed. They will say their vows again and have a reception when it’s ok to do so, but there was no sadness to not be in that big venue on March 28, only happiness to be in their living room joining as one.
DD got married yesterday. It was not the wedding they planned but it was beautiful. They got married in my backyard with immediate family only. My DIL made a video of greetings from all their friends and family, they had the wedding live on Instagram so friends and family could see (and comment), and some friends parked across the street and wished them well after the ceremony from their cars with signs and horns. I was very impressed how well they handled everything. I have to admit I was pretty stressed out.
^^ Yay to them! Congratulations!!
@tx5athome Congratulations and much happiness to them!
Yes congratulations!