D1 is this November. If she decides within the next 30 days to cancel, she gets a full refund, less a 3500 orginal booking fee. But there are other fees out there, some with refunds, some without. So the photog is already paid in full, no refund.
She’s going to run the numbers this weekend. We’ll review the contracts.
If she cancels the reception venue outside the next 30 days, no refund.
Problem is, she’s put down a lot of $$$ so far.
Ugh. And if she takes s chance and keeps the date, maybe the virus is still around. Or goes away and comes back in October
A young woman in our neighborhood was supposed to get married in mid-May. She has rescheduled for mid-October, on a Friday (it was on Saturday originally). So many plans have to be changed now. It’s difficult.
D1 has set an end of 2021 date. Tell me that should be safe. They have the venue booked, and are waiting for everything else.
She is supposed to travel for a friend’s bridal shower in June. The trip involves 2 state borders and one international one. Who knows if this will happen.
I am invited to a wedding in August. For now, I assume it will happen and we will be able to cross state lines to get there.
This will probably result in lots of longer engagements with more uncertainty about dates, venues . Son got engaged on February 28th with an eye to marriage spring or very early summer 2021. Everything up in the air for now.
I talked to the event planner at a venue we are looking at for the rehearsal dinner. I asked her what the wedding cancellation scene looked like. She said they legally can’t have any weddings in April and that the shelter-in place could be extended beyond April 30, but she has three May brides who are holding tight for now. She said that almost all the cancellations rebooked rather than called off a big ceremony.
She noted that part of the problem with rebooking is that couples have to worry not just about the venue but about the other vendors – flowers, photographers, caterers – and their availability for their desired new date. She was optimistic that when this is over there will be pent-up demand for gatherings. What a time.
@Youdon’tsay, congratulations! As you know, my S and FDIL postponed their March 21 wedding. The venue had 8/8 available and we rebooked for that date but, to be honest, I have serious doubts about that happening, either. Even if things loosen up I don’t know that the state will allow gatherings of up to 200 people and I suspect many guests would be uncomfortable in that size group, anyway. The kids sent revised “Save the Date” emails (based on their original) and indicated that though things are still in flux they hope to be able to celebrate later this summer. Originally they wanted to send out elites now but my S and I convinced FDIL to wait since neither of us is convinced 8/8 will be an option. My heart goes out to all who have had to postpone, cancel, or celebrate in alternative ways. We will all get through this and, as my kids say, have a celebration that is even more sweet when it’s safe to do so.
We had a family wedding cancelled for June 13. They asked us to hold August 29 as a possibility. No firm plans yet as their venue is closed and is not even taking reservations for any dates in 2020.
A good chunk of the guests will be traveling here from abroad, so they need to consider that as well.
We have a family wedding scheduled in November.
We’re all assuming things will be OK by then. I just made reservations for nearby hotel, but they can be canceled up until the day before.
This is definitely a difficult time to plan anything.
Many special thoughts going out to those of you with planned plans and wanting to plan plans up in the air. The comment about there probably ending up being many more Friday or Sunday weddings is probably true.
My Goddaughter postponed their May 9 wedding a couple days ago. They will get married on that day with just their parents present and then have rescheduled a “vow renewal like a wedding” and reception for August 22. I’m glad they decided to go ahead and say their vows on the day they chose. They will have two very special days to celebrate!
I also told this story on the virus thread, but I thought it might be OK to repeat part of it here: my youngest decided that his stuffed puppy should marry his stuffed elephant (just like his older brother was supposed to have a wedding last month).
I felt unreasonably jealous of all the hugging and dancing that the stuffed animals’ guests get to do!
My update. D1 (November} took a hard look at the finances, what gets her further, considering they also want more in life than a wedding.
And had I mentioned that she’s been furloughed and still owes about half the costs to the venue? So, the fancy schmancy reception place lost out. She got hit by the lightning bolt of sensibility.
She can get more bang if she cancels now (loses an non-refundable deposit) but gets back the other monies she paid them, and moves it all up to the city. The other suppliers are already set, it’s just a matter of getting a new place for vows and the party. Easier said than done, of course. But she already sent out emails to some possibilities and we’re both willing to take the chances.
But she still wants to keep the date. If there’s still trouble in November, * then* she’ll punt and pick a better date. But she’s willing to take that risk.
I had been worried she’d be crushed about not using the first venue, but she isn’t. Interesting.
My nephew was to be in wedding in May. He’d already bought the suit. The couple will still be married in May but will do the wedding and reception later.
What nephew has learned (as has my daughter)is that these weddings are just too much ‘stuff’. My daughter had to go to St. Thomas at her own expense, buy the dress, pay for all the other stuff. Nephew was to go to Vegas, the suit was $600, the time off from a fairly new job, etc. They’ve learn for themselves that they don’t want all this. Unfortunately for my nephew, his girlfriend is from a big, wealthy family and probably wants a big expensive wedding.
I’m leaning toward trying to plan a party for DS/DIL in early summer of 2021. Since we’ll likely have to postpone DS25’s bar mitzvah to then, perhaps we can make a long weekend of it. Maybe even a brunch for DS20’s belated graduation. My DH thinks that the general public could reasonably expect access to a vaccine by May or June of 2021, which would be my desire before a big family/friends weekend of activities and travel to us.
I remembered today, we still have boxes of decorations, dishes, etc. sitting in the side room at the synagogue where we were going to have our [cancelled] local reception. Of course, they’ve been on lock-down since mid-March and who knows when we could get back in there.
Some of our stuff did make it back home, and I had to use a box of that plastic cutlery today because we ran out of Passover stuff due to a mix-up.
In one sense, I can’t believe I was worried about purple vs. blue centerpieces, but in another sense, I’d really like our world to get back to a reality where it’s OK to be worried about that, IYKWIM.
@lookingforward - fair enough. I’m going to start a new trend that the couple has to demonstrate a successful year of married life before I hold a party.
Perhaps like other perspectives in life now, couples will start a trend of more simple wedding celebrations. I personally think this would be a real win.
She said they would decide by Easter, and today our daughter confirmed that she and her fiancé are going to cancel their June 20th wedding in Barcelona. They would still like to go ahead with their vows in City Hall with the fiancé’s family present, but they have to wait to see if Spain opens their borders by then.
She didn’t want to reschedule because it’s so unclear when would be a safe time. My husband is very high risk, and probably won’t go anywhere until there is a vaccine.
