It seems strange to me to allow 300 people but insist on social distancing and no dancing. How uncomfortable and awkward to have such a big group but have to stay far away from each other!
@orangepurple - I agree and also wonder about the size of a location to allow that. My own niece’s wedding is scheduled for August and I haven’t heard any updates.
We’re waiting on an update from the venue as our decision now is whether to cancel altogether or reschedule again. The original 3/21 wedding was originally rescheduled to 8/8 but it’s become clear that date will not work, either. We are in NY’s Mid-Hudson region and we haven’t even opened up gatherings to 25 people yet. So, we finally got the venue to give us a number for a cancellation fee and now I’m trying to get them to confirm the contract amendments I would want if we reschedule for sometime between January and March next year. For example, the numbers would be fewer, there would be no ceremony (they’ll get legally married this summer as soon as we can have 25 people together), and I want an out in the event there can be no dancing or cocktail hour. The venue is not technically open right now so getting answers to anything takes days. I will commend the person they have dealing with what I assume are many disappointed families for approaching everything will grace and kindness, even if she can’t make happen what we want to happen.
My sister (a lawyer) added a clause to her daughter’s contract about in the event they are not able to have a gathering due to covid then they would have the option of rescheduling (I am not sure if they could get the deposit back). My sister moved the wedding from Mar 2021 to May 2021. It included deposits for the hotel rooms.
@runnersmom So sorry (but sadly not surprised as it seems like we live nearby). As you might remember we are in a similar position (rescheduled D’s 200 person wedding for next Aug. and set up a 10 person wedding on their original Aug. 22 date this year which hopefully will happen - their venue just reopened in a small way).
I hope things work out as well as possible for you and your children. Feel free to PM if you think our expereince can provide any help.
SO sorry, @runnersmom. YOu have more thanyour sharre of tsuris.
Its a sad state that here we are, smack in the middle of what is typically wedding season and this thread is relatively quiet and sadly has to address cancellations and contract issues for rescheduling/refunds.
Our friend’s son was supposed to be getting married this labor day. We just received a change of date magnet - postponed to July 2021.
There are two popular wedding spots overlooking the ocean that H and I walk past on our walks several times a week. In “normal” times we would see weddings Friday, Saturday and Sunday, but now when we walk by there are no weddings.
Hygienist’s niece is getting married today. Outside ceremony, inside/outside reception, about 80 people. No dancing, bar outside, plated meal. Luckily the weather is nice today, though pretty hot. 86 now. 3 employees are attending this wedding, 2 said if raining and everything moves inside, they won’t go.
Niece’s August camp wedding has been postponed again. Wedding and outdoor meal okay, but no activities due to cleaning standards. So August 2021, hoping for the best. She is bummed out, but they got married by the county clerk March 13 fast just before the courts shut down (because she needed his health insurance). At least that worked out. Caterer is her uncle, photographer is her friend, florist only needed for bouquets and is flexible.
I can’t imagine the disappointed for wedding plans to be cancelled once let alone twice. 
The only wedding we had this summer was postponed from Mother’s Day weekend until August 20-something. Honestly, I don’t know that they will be able to have the wedding/reception they are hoping for even then. I think I’d just throw in the big plans towel!!!
The only good part (looking for anything positive) of having become engaged in late February is that son and fiancee had not put any deposits down on anything or set a firm date . But, they are certainly having a different experience than most engaged couples have had in the past (as are many other engaged couples right now).
They have lots of friends, have both been in a few weddings, participated in all the showers, parties, weddngs, for many of their friends. It is what it is. Future daughter in law won a wedding dress in a contest but in a recent zoom she said she has to pick the dress by mid August. She doesn’t even know what season she will be able to have the wedding in and can only take 1 person to even be with her to look at dresses because of current rules. Luckily, they are positive people but it is a strange time to be engaged and trying to figure all this out.
DD2 was a bridesmaid in a wedding Saturday in N AL. It was an outdoor wedding venue, and the weather was so perfect. Was humid Friday and rained Sunday. They had indoor reception facilities (about 140/150 people); did not social distance, had a buffet as planned, and DJ with dancing. I know restaurants in town social distance; this wedding venue place is probably doing what they are doing as a business decision. Churches are doing social distancing.
DD2 is also a bridesmaid for a TX wedding in Dec. The bridesmaids are going to some beer festival in Oregon in Oct. I guess those plans are still in place.
I feel for those with very disrupted plans and rescheduling.
DD1 was married in 2017 and it was such a happy event (despite the stress I had hosting elderly/medically challenged in-laws before and after the two day hotel stays). Nephew was married in 2018 in CO (and the elderly/medically challenged grandparents were in even less shape for that wedding - then the grandfather did go to skilled care some months later) - the main buildings of the nephew’s wedding site succumbed to a fire later that year.
@SOSConcern, wow about the wedding. I am not surprised anymore unfortunately. Thanks for coming and reporting on this.
I am co-hosting a bridal shower for a friend’s son ‘s fiancee’ in late August (hopefully) . However the MOH is coming into town for a WEDDING this weekend and wants to “get to get her” to discuss plans. That would be a no. WIll speak over the phone.
Update: I just texted with the MOH. The shower list has 35 or so people on it, and the tentative date is a week after my DH’s surgery. Am NOT comfortable hosting a large group of people (several with health issues) inside my home, and outdoors would be VERY hot (plus would have to rent a tent, tables, chairs, etc)- and the MOH just texted that the bride is not meeting with the venue until sometime in July to discuss whether the wedding will be postponed. Soooo… best we not plan a shower for the next month. So sad, but necessary, unfortunately.
Niece is having her shower end of next month. Outdoors at aunt’s house. It was postponed from late March, most guests had purchased gifts already. I had sent mine to the MIL’s house since I had been unable to attend. I think it is better to have it now, guests still have their gifts. She had a civil ceremony in March, wedding celebration is now 14 months out.
Oops, a weird autocorrect a few posts up- the MOH wants to “Get together” when she is in town this weekend for a wedding. We will talk by phone.
Decisions, subject to unforeseeable circumstances raising their ugly heads again, have been made! Kids will be married by our rabbi in our backyard on the originally rescheduled date of 8/8, assuming we can have gatherings of 25 people (immediate family is greater than 10!). They will have a wedding reception only (no ceremony or vow renewal) on March 20, 2021, a year from their original wedding weekend of 3/21/20. They seem happy about their plan and I am happy for them.
D1 got married 3/28 (our backyard, immediate family only, broadcast live on Instagram, friends sent in video well-wishes, etc…). They will likely have a party at some point but are not making plans until life is more stable. They have no regrets. The day was beautiful. They had bought a house a couple weeks before, so have fixed up the house, gotten a cat and a puppy, etc… My only regrets are that my roots are gray in the pictures, I didn’t get to spend a fun weekend with all of my family and that I was so busy setting up the backyard that D1 and I didn’t get any of the typical mother helping daughter get ready pictures.