I don’t see why no fancy paper plates, either. Less to clean up. But I’ll guess we’ll learn per our areas. I know we asked to rent plates, etc, if the caterer is unaware of some rule, I will be surprised. But these things do happen.
Got a notice from the camp today that they are cancelling the remaining 4 resident camp sessions. D2 now has no job, unsure about niece’s rescheduled wedding August 23. We could make it work if they keep the event schedule open. Makes some money for the camp, so maybe…I asked her to email the wedding manager.
For all you mothers of the bride out there, Nordstrom is currently having a very good sale. I ordered a couple of dresses to try that are normally 450+ dollars but are going for under 200.
It’s actually a good time to go shopping as retailers are desperate.
@twoinanddone …no passed appetizers because it’s impossible to socially distance and do this. The server would be close to every single person they are serving.
Good news here. Our governor just increased the number in groups to 10 indoors and 25 outdoors. The wedding shower I’m supposed to go to might end up being an in person, outdoor event. Less than 25 people. Social distance space has not been relaxed, however.
Re: weddings…this same bride has an August 15 wedding. We had originally planned to stay an extra 3 days to see some CO sites and visit some friends and relatives. At this point, I’m sort of wanting to just fly home the day after the wedding. Maybe I’ll call the airlines and see if that can be arranged. I’m also going to check the venue hotel and some others to see if we can get reservations for those three extra days. We can meet our friends and relatives outside, but we really can’t stay with them…not after a plane ride and a wedding with 130 or more guests.
This was going to be our nice summer vacation. I’m sort of hoping it all gets pushed out a year.
FDIL’s mom called this morning to discuss the postponed wedding. Unfortunately, my MIL passed away last night and she hadn’t heard about it yet from S2, so she very quickly said we should discuss this after the funeral, etc., such as it will be in these trying times. The kids chose an August date after the 3/21 wedding was postponed but I would rather they reschedule for next year, even if they want to get married sooner. I think here in NY there will be too many restrictions to have the wedding they wanted. based on my very short conversation with MOB, I think she agrees with me.
The waitstaff will be close to every single person when they serve drinks or a sit down dinner too. The staff is close to you at a drive through window. I guess I can’t picture how it would different for a waiter to serve appetizers that are pre-plated than dinner.
@twoinanddone we were told no appetizers. Actually no cocktail hour at all. An appetizer course will be added to the sit down dinner. With passed appetizers, the guests pick up the food. For serving dinner, the wait staff puts the plate down and walks away. That’s a lot different.
Family member owns a catering business. No appetizers at his place either.
Maybe it’s different where you are…but that is what the wedding parties we know are hearing.
Also, no dancing.
I’m not sure how you would take pictures with folks standing 6 feet apart.
Also, the spacing of tables…6 feet apart…and with less folks at each table.
So many accommodations to be made right now.
I think I’m not even going to get into it with son and his fiancee who got engaged right before the virus until they bring it up next. I feel for them-they are 32, have both been in a few weddings and have gone to lots of their friend’s parties, showers, etc. It’s now their time to plan , have parties, look for a wedding dress, and it’s all on hold. I’m not even going to think about a dress for me or a rehearsal dinner right now. Not what I envisioned but we’re all in the same boat. Just a little sad though.
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I wonder if these sorts of limits will remain if one chooses an outdoor venue at public park? Know one couple thinking of moving from indoor hotel ballroom to outdoor park. Don’t think they’ve contacted caterers, yet, to get details.
The wedding I’m supposed to go to in CO in August is completely outdoors…if the couple wants it to be. That wasn’t their original plan.
Some states, like Ohio, are allowing up to 300 for events indoors. But the social distance guidelines have to be adhered to. This starts, I believe, now. But many folks who had weddings planned for June have already cancelled the venues or postponed, or scaled down to a smaller event.
The ceremony is the important part of the wedding, I know. But the celebration with family and friends is special for so many folks.
I hope this all works out for those of you in the planning stages.
I think the size of crowds allowed will be increased every month, but right now you’d either need to cut the size of the wedding or increase the size of the room by a lot. Most places here can reopen with 25-50% capacity depending on inside or out.
Today I spoke to the venue for my S’s postponed wedding. As those that have been following our saga for the last year know, the venue is where we live and where I’ve already had celebrations for my kids’ Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, so I have taken the lead on the venue, rather than the bride’s family or the couple themselves.
Given that they originally rescheduled the 3/21 wedding for 8/8 and that our area of NYS is still in Phase 1 of reopening, I am concerned that even if we could hold a wedding in August it won’t look anything like the wedding that was originally planned. The venue is reopening on July 1 (as of today) and the coordinator couldn’t have been more open or kind when discussing what we might be able to do. While a full refund is a (albeit unlikely without a real fight) possibility, a later date with a revised minimum guarantee is a likely solution.
The biggest issue is that FDIL wants me to push for a refund and then have the small wedding she always wanted while my S is likely to still want the big party to celebrate their marriage. Once they decide, I will move forward.
If public health issues don’t get in the way, I’d love to see them make their spiritual marriage legal in my backyard as soon as we can have gatherings of 25 people and then reschedule the party for New Year’s Eve (it’s available), which is a Thursday night this year and totally on point for the black tie bash that was originally planned.
My little niece and her boyfriend are going to tie the knot in July. No big wedding plans or honeymoons, alas, but my sister is actually happy and relieved that she will escape the burden of wedding planning and financing.
My son and fiance may legally marry in the next few months with something very small but even if they do that , they say they will still want a ceremony/big party later. They have lots of friends that they definitely want to have a party with!
The Detroit Free Press had an article about coronavirus and weddings that I thought was interesting
Sounds like couples and wedding venues are both big losers in this. I wonder if this will change weddings for years to come.
My own kid who isn’t married, never has wanted a big wedding. I’m sure this will cement her choice. She’s not engaged but in a serious relationship
It still floors me that in Ohio you can have a wedding now with up to 300 people - but tables have to have SD and no dance floor I think. I just can’t believe that we graduated to “300” so quickly (though I’m sure the interior space has to be quite large). I would not have to be the one to control or worry about all those people adhering to rules.
This pandemic will be over. Most of kids’ friends are moving their wedding to next year. My niece’s wedding is moved from next Mar to next May. I think it is an imposition on guests to come to a large wedding during the pandemic. It puts them in an awkward position.
My son told us yesterday that he and his fiancee are now invited to their first zoom wedding. The original date was last month and involved travel for lots of people, including them, so was postponed. The details of the zoom wedding are very detailed -including time of first dance, when to toast, etc . The couple will probably have a party down the line.
Son’s fiancee found out she won a free wedding dress in a contest. One less expense to worry about!
So our niece whose wedding was going to be in Milwaukee in Oct is postponed for a year. I guess the social distancing was going to affect the event and hopefully they can have the wedding they have planned next year.
@SOSConcern I’m sorry about your niece’s wedding being so affected and I hope it goes great next year.