I love the entire mid-coast. For our first anniversary, we camped on the beach not far from there. Never did stop at Anderson’s. Back when my mother and I first stayed with the friends, at night, obviously no street lights, you could see the whole sky full of stars. Then, in the wee hours, hear the coyotes. Magical.
Th VRBO sounds perfect. We filled a wonderful home on Cape Cod, people could rifle through the refrigerator or just hang or go running or to the town. Had both the Fri and Sat parties there.
We had an brunch after my D’s wedding–the kids put the information on their Knot website. Plus, they included it in a small card that went out with the invitation.
I think your option #1 would work. My D had a destination wedding and put lots of informaton about travel/accommodations on the site. Also, at the wedding reception, the DJ told people to come to the brunch.
Thanks for the bridesmaid dress link @C3Baker - DD probably is aware of sites like this. DD2 had on a perfect for her dress in dark navy; she is MOH. Irritated as the bridal shop was having ‘computer issues’ as part of the national stores and this individual store didn’t realize, and the dress that I had chosen was not in the store nor was the info saved (the daily sheet had the info on it, but that wasn’t kept either once all was supposed to be in the computer!)
You think you go somewhere reliable…I did write down the details on DD2’s dress, which is a holiday/seasonal/not part of their regular line. Consultant said a bunch of dresses were removed from the store with new ones being brought in, and the dress I had selected for MOB may have been one of them…ugh!
My loyalty has dropped very considerably. DD2 thought I was being too vocal with my unhappiness. Well shoot, I might as well just order something on-line. There is a big market out there. I just saw this dress and really liked it. I am not one to spend a lot of time looking, looking, when I have found something to ‘fit the bill’.
H and I had some quiet time with our S. We offered to help with wedding cost and gave him a $ amount. He was very happy. We will leave it up to him to share with his fiancé. Older D didn’t agree and felt we should have told them both but it just felt right to do it this way. We have met her Mom once but will celebrate the engagement with them around Christmas as her Mom and siblings are coming to our city. They have decided for now to enjoy being engaged and wait on setting a date. Fiancé has lived in our city for several years and I feel like I’m fairly comfortable with her.
Younger D is not engaged yet but they have already told us they will get engaged within the next yr to 18 months. She has some school commitments to finish up before they will get married. I am paying attention to all the words of wisdom on this thread. I’m also following @teriwtt wedding since younger D will most probably get married in the Santa Ynez valley but not for several years.
@teriwtt we have been to more than a handful of weddings recently it seems. For all…there were RSVPs done online…and each event to which the folks were invited was listed…and we had to respond to each one…with the number attending.
So…for,thenlast one, for example…our online RSVP had:
Rehearsal Dinner at Blah Restaurant 5:00 Friday Night. Yes___ NO___
Wedding Saturday at Blah Blah venue at 7:30 Yes___ No___
Sunday brunch at Blah hotel 11 a.m. Yes____ No____
And we simply responded.
That way the wedding families had a head count for all of the events they were hosting…and could plan accordingly.
ETA…there was one wedding we went to…and we DID make our reservations to fly home before we knew there was a brunch. Really…it was not an issue for us and we missed the brunch…but oh well.
@mom60 I totally agree with H and you talking alone with S and giving info directly to him.
One wants to have S and FDIL and her family to not have any mis-understandings or mis-communications, or pull up any potential negative feelings based on mis-reading good intentions and financial help.
DD and FSIL want to take control. It seems FSIL’s parents do want to put on a dinner before with out of town guests included. We will see how things shape up.
We already talked $$ with younger DD, saying we will be setting aside money for her. She is a total control gal.
I would look at reviews on Azazie before ordering dresses there. Some of these online storefronts have terrible reputations for shoddy merchandise. Not saying this one does, but I looked at a number of them a few years ago for S1’s festivities and read reviews from some very unhappy folks.
If they have a website, then add the brunch to that. No, people won’t look at it daily but I think most will look at it again before they make the travel reservations to get the general time frame again, see the brunch and see if they can make a later plane on Sunday or even stay over till Monday. I would. I’d know the general time frame, but before I made reservations (especially since you included flight and transportation suggestions) I pull up the website before I booked the tickets or rooms.
It looks like you are planning about 50 invitations (you said 80 attending the wedding, assuming several invitations will include 2+ people). You could make sure to tell your friends that there is an update on the website to include the brunch, the couple and his family could do the same.
Since the number of guests isn’t that high, especially if you think that many are a couple, calling folks might be a nice way to touch base, especially with folks you suspect may not check the internet and you’d really like to attend your brunch.
I looked through that list of traditions, @doschicos, and they’re charming. We actually followed one of the more obscure ones at our son’s wedding.
I had to laugh at the tradition of having the newly-married couple plant a fir tree at their home, though. Hard to do as a renter in a large apartment building, which is the first home of so many of our kids.
@doschicos, if I were the bride at that wedding and my father pulled something like that without asking me and my about-to-be-husband in advance, I would have been furious. I mean, whose wedding is it anyway?