From the way you describe your daughter’s aesthetic, I picture something like this for her bouquet, in this case with dark, rich dahlias. Image 3/24 in the slideshow; I can figure out how to link directly to the picture.
http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/412487/dahlia-wedding-bouquets#383782
ETA: I think the link does go to the correct picture.
Orchids are lovely and come in a range of purple shades. They are also pretty sturdy and don’t wilt as quickly as many other flowers. I’m not sure how available they may be for some of your venues. They are a popular choice for HI and generally well-priced.
Delphiniums! My favorite flowers, along with lilacs. Here’s a bride carrying a sheaf (!) of both, although imho it’s a bit big:
ETA: Can’t get it to go to the right image, but there are lots of lovely photos there anyway.
BTW, for the record, delphiniums are also sometimes known as larkspur, although they are not actually exactly the same: one is a perennial and the other is an annual.
Be careful with delphiniums around food and do not let small kids handle them - they are poisonous plants.
I was thinking of ordering this dress for my S’s wedding next October https://m.whitehouseblackmarket.com/store/product/metallic-lace-bellsleeve-shift-dress/570189285?color=&catId=&onSale=true&fromSearch=true
It seems too early though. I saw the dress while shopping with my D, I wanted her to try it on for NYE. She said it was too classy for her 8-| But then I started thinking of the wedding. The colors are purple and green with fall colors. I’m afraid it’s too early to get a dress.
It is very much my style. I like short dresses, I’m short. And the bell sleeves and lace. Swoon.
deb, go for it! Baby kiddo and I saw it in person… It is gorgeous. Swoon!!!
And it is only $100 or so with the extra 40% off!!! Go for it.
We are thinking of something like this for tables, she wants long farm tables (the last pic):
http://www.ruffledblog.com/nautical-romance-wedding-ideas-in-charleston/
For her bouquet, the first or the third:
http://www.weddingforward.com/gorgeous-summer-wedding-bouquets/2/
Ok, I ordered it. I just think I won’t find something I like better. Thanks BB! Hope it fits and looks nice on.
Gorgeous flowers, @oldfort ! Love the bouquet with the peonies.
@deb922 - I think I will also wear a short dress because I am rather petite (short). The dress looks very nice.
D1 and I are having fun sharing pictures of flowers, food, etc. Her wedding is 1.5 yr out, so we have a lot of time to plan.
The only thing I’d say about the table flowers is that if you want something that full, you should really have 30" or 36" wide tables. The tables in the photo look like they are only 24" wide, and the large centerpiece would likely make the dining space feel cramped. But they are lovely arrangements.
@Oldfort, your picture with the tables is the venue that my daughter just got married in this past October - the Rice Mill House in Charleston, SC! And her bouquet had peonies! It was all so very, very beautiful!
The venue D1 wants to have at has a drop down ceiling in the center, so she is thinking about decorating it with greeneries and hanging flowers.
@Southmom - Rice Mill House looked beautiful. I am sure the wedding was wonderful.
@nottelling - I am not the decorator in my family. D1 has a much better sense of what looks like. I am only the check writer with a bit of veto power.
I also learned about what are ghost chairs.
Thanks for all the flower recommendations! All those links are really beautiful bouquets. I looked up the individual flower types too and like them all. I’m just copying all the flower replies into the “mom stuff” wedding doc. I’m glad we have some flower experts here. ^:)^
So funny that @oldfort’s pic is from @Southmom’s D’s venue! I like the look but would also want the tables wider – I’m not the least bit artistic, just thinking the place settings might feel a bit crowded.
I had to look up “ghost chairs.” We recently stayed in a hotel that had those in the room and I didn’t know there was a name for them.
@deb922, I’m glad you bought the dress – it’s very pretty and not a typical MOB dress which I think is a good thing. My D’s wedding is in July and I have had no luck finding something that’s even close to what I want. Not that I know what I want…
I had to google ghost chairs, too. We stayed in a rental house that had them this past summer. Just didn’t know what they were called. Now I know. 
Love the dress, @deb922, and what a bargain!
What would you folks say is the least ambiguous wording for the RSVP cards? I’ve read lots of stories on CC and elsewhere about guests misinterpreting how many are invited and/or how to respond with the correct number. I found this site today:https://rsvpify.com/wedding-rsvp-wording/ It’s primarily for online RSVPs which may explain some of the nontraditional wording. As in: “Deal Me In!/Sitting This One Out” or “Free booze? Yes please/In a nutshell … I’m lame.”
So … we’re not using those.
Would you include “number attending” after the lines for the name of the guest(s) and “accepts with pleasure/declines with regrets?” When my older daughters got married, a surprising number of people forgot to write their names on the “M_____” line. We could usually deduce who it was from the return envelope, but not always. Some smart online friends reminded me that we’re supposed to number the backs of the response cards and keep a list matching numbers and names since this happens a lot. Your suggestions are appreciated!
Oooh, thanks for the tip on numbering, @frazzled1 ! That sounds really helpful.
I personally like an RSVP card that says “The favor of a reply is requested” at the top of the card, with the rest blank. Guests write their own responses.
We numbered all our RSVP cards discretely on the back, which was handy because some guests forgot to write their name. Most are aware that they are only supposed to RSVP for the number which was invited and we had one line for number accepting and one for number of regrets. One of H’s distant relatives–2 were invited but they RSVP’d that 10 were attending (couple plus their 4 kids and partners). No one else did that, thankfully!