Colorado does not require an officiant at all, so no need for the online certificate. My sister is performing the ceremony for her son and fiancee in 2 weeks at their request. My brother’s friend did his years ago.
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We have a bit of a story about our wedding too. We actually had 3 priests at our wedding - Catholic Pastor, Assoc Pastor, and the priest who we actually wanted (but did the homily, which was great). The Pastor had a scheduled meeting with DH and I, and DH mentioned he had graduated from the Jesuit HS that would have been known (100 miles from where my hometown and our wedding took place). Pastor then drew a conclusion that DH had just graduated from HS! Since we did a marriage preparation through Diocese of Milwaukee (where we both attended college), once we showed the Pastor that marriage prep certificate, he didn’t have us do the ‘inventory’ papers on how well we know each other (and I guess for Pastor to get to know us better).
Stating priest, I am assuming Catholic. Terrible that the priest who did marriage prep with you didn’t make arrangements to be able to come back to do the wedding. And with the other priest making changes? Insisting? Then didn’t pronounce your name correctly? Wow. In our Diocese, priest new appointments and changes do take place during July, but the priest could have indicated to the Bishop that he had a scheduled wedding - so arrangements could have been made.
DD/SIL, his parents, and I know a bit more about dynamics with Diocese and other things, being involved in our respective places.
Unfortunately, many of the avoidable things that turn people off ‘happen’.
My S had a choice of several justices of the peace who are family members. He chose a close family friend who is a retired judge whom he has known for decades. It was lovely and she felt so honored to have been included. We have a family friend who got a certificate online to perform weddings and has performed at least two that I’m aware of in various states (extended family members).
My brother’s wedding was at the Drake Hotel on the day of the Chicago marathon. Their North Shore rabbi got caught in traffic and was running late. My father’s first post out of the seminary pre-WW2 was in Illinois, so he was still ordained in the state decades later. Husband took him off to prepare to officiate just in case.
Luckily for Dad, the other rabbi showed up just in time. Dad had participated with our rabbi at our ceremony a few years earlier, but by this time he had trouble walking and really didn’t want to do much more than sit.
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Neither does Pennsylvania, I was told it’s a Quaker wedding. No officiant needed.
My daughter’s destination wedding, we leave 2 weeks! Getting excited!
For those who remember, we did drive the in laws to the wedding in the kids hometown. The grandparents were very happy they could go, my kid was happy her grandparents could attend.
For my husband and I. It was difficult but it’s over and we will never do that again. I’ve told all involved that.
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New to me but D2 says it’s a thing these days:
Saw a car parked with writing on the windows. You know, like people would write on their car windows going to a sports tournament or something.
But the back windshield said: “ITS MY BACHELORETTE PARTY! Help me celebrate, Venmo @bachelorettesvemno “
I don’t know, seems kind of tacky to me!! Thoughts??
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Tacky.
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Yikes! Very tacky!
But who wouldn’t want to contribute to the excessive alcohol consumption by venmo-ing more money for more drinks?
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Well, I guess they decided it was worth hoping they MAY get some contributors.
It’s also a “thing” now at destination bachelorette parties for the bride-to-be to wear a badge around her neck with a QR code, which random people can scan and buy her drinks.
Both are tacky but not at all surprising given the crazy levels that bachelorette parties have risen to.
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No less tacky than a venue that D went to a few months back where the bridal party was required to submit photo’s of themselves so that the venue could determine if they were attractive enough to book a table – and this was liberal California.
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What!!! I would have been all over that with their management and social media.
D1 is going to be D1’s matron of honor. Last year when they booked the venue D1 was very slim and attractive. Now she is 6 months pregnant. She will look like a watermelon on the wedding day.
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My daughter went to a bachelorette in Miami and they had to do the same thing before being being able to book tickets to get into a club.
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My son and DILs former roommate is a chaplain, and she did a great job. Another former roommate had made them a quilt. My son asked if they could use that as a chuppa prior to it being stuffed and finished.
The personal touches are lovely.
My son requested that the flowers be white roses and greenery, which looked lovely.
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@oldfort your D1 will not look like a watermelon. She will look like a woman who is happily celebrating and standing up for her sister.
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My SIL was barely 3 months pregnant when she was my matron of honor. She kept throwing up , and believe me, a watermelon is a better look! We do have a great photo of me, in my gown, helping SIL to a seat in the congregation and my DH telling people “we’re just gonna stop a second and make sure she’s okay”. She was so determined to stand there !
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Happy to say my daughter is not having a shower or bachelorette party as she’s getting married in Indiana and no one lives close, her bridesmaids are not friends of each other, and it would have to be a destination event for all of them (and too expensive). Really, the cost of being in the wedding is enough.
Other daughter is a MOH in a different wedding and the costs have been ridiculous. Trip to shop for the wedding dress (Virginia), bachelorette party (South Carolina) the cost of the dress, and now the cost of traveling to the wedding (Virginia again) (they already decided D’s boyfriend is not going because he’s in two other weddings the following 2 weekends, NJ and FL). D didn’t go to the bridal shower which was in yet another state (DE).
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So far, D is a bridesmaid for a March wedding. They just went shopping with bride-to-be, D and 2 other mutual friends of bride, all in LA, where all 4 live. No idea what costs will end up, but I added $3500 to her checking account so she can participate. Weddings will be in Honolulu, so at a minimum they will all fly here, where all the girls have family.
There will be 8 bridesmaids & 8 groomsmen. D has no idea what expenses will be incurred.
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