D1 is going to have a combined bachelorette party with her best friend (they are getting married within months of each other with almost the same bridal party), probably some where in Mexico. These are girls who have gone on vacations together almost every year. There are people who are not part of bridal parties who want to be invited. Everyone would be on their own for the trip. I will be hosting a shower in our hometown and the groom’s mom is going to host one in her hometown too.
FSIL just arranged for a bachelor party where all 5 flew --not even a direct flight–out of state. The groom missed
his connection due to weather and was not there the first of 3 nights. AirBnB. But still a lot of money. FSIL
won $$ playing blackjack that he turned over to the party.
D is having a bachelorette gathering in July about 30 minutes from their appt. Still 4 will fly out.
Rented an AirBnB house. Not sure what the activities are going to be for the weekend.
All of D’s friends have had bachelorette parties, many meant flights and lots of $$. She has no money at
all and lots of loans (med school) but somehow she makes most of them. When I talk with her she is
very clear that these are friends for life.
I think this is all quite crazy! But I do envy them their friendships.
Back in the day staying friends meant a long distance call $ or writing a letter.
I am impressed with the effort they go to to stay close but that is all made easier by
technology of every kind.
We got married five years ago. My bachelorette party was simple: baseball game in the city we lived in, followed by a BBQ at my dad’s house (he cooked), and then an evening out for drinks. My husband did something similar for his bachelor party. We both had a great time at our respective parties and an even better time together at our wedding! Our wedding was very traditional, but people still comment that it was one of the most fun weddings they’ve ever attended.
I have noticed though that most people now seem to be having “destination” bachelorette/bachelor parties. I think this is absolutely ridiculous and so expensive!
When the couple lives in one city and their friends and attendants are scattered all over the place, having events will mean that folks need to travel to attend or will be very close to the wedding date when most folks will be in the area where the wedding and reception will occur.
In our case, I expect the days prior to niece’s wedding will likely be pretty hectic. She’s arriving 2 weeks prior to the wedding. No idea when our kids are arriving. All I know is the wedding is Saturday and we leave town on Tuesday. I can’t CME enough pin dune a date to throw niece a shower, working with MOB and sisters of the bride–it’s complicated when folks are out of town.
We went to a wedding last weekend, and the bride & groom had both had parties in Austin (they live in Seattle) - I said something about it to D, and she said it’s really common to do destination bachelor/ette parties (she mentioned Nashville being a very popular destination). D and a few friends plan to go to Lake Michigan for a fun weekend, and they are well aware that some of their friends will have to work or live too far away to make it. They are cool with that.
My friends had a combined bachelorette party for my friend & me, because we were married a week apart. One friend had a house with a finished basement, and we gathered there. They rented a stripper cop … boy, was I embarrassed!!
FYI, right now on FB Live the Washington Post is talking wedding etiquette. Already somewhat addressed the bachelorette weekend.