<p>Fauxmaven, I’m so sorry to hear you’re still waiting for all this to be over. It didn’t seem long ago that you wrote and asked what he should wear to court. And yet, for you, it might have been months and months ago. That’s how time works: when you’re waiting for something, time s-l-o-w-s down. That’s how you might feel when your son enters prison: as if you’re holding your breath. But, as you said, he got a nice sentence, which could mean he won’t be in there for too, too long. And he’ll be in-state, so not too far away that you can’t visit. </p>
<p>It will seem like forever while he’s there, but there will be a day when you’ll say it was over before you knew it. Now do things for yourself. Keep busy. Have lots of distractions. Teach kids, work in the hospital, go to your book club, join a gym. Write and visit your son to know he’s okay, but don’t forget you. We’ll be thinking and praying for him to get out soon.</p>
<p>And please write to us here. We’re right there with you and want to know how it’s going.</p>
<p>fauxmaven, my heart goes out to you and your family. I admire your strength and your willingness to share about something that’s so painful for you. As others have said, any one of us could be in your shoes. Your son is so fortunate to have your unwavering support and love. </p>
<p>I hope that once your son is settled in and you’re able to establish regular communication, some of your fears will be allayed. Soon you and your son will get through this will be able to put this phase of your lives in the past and enjoy a celebratory dinner together, and all the happy possibilities that the future holds for him.</p>
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You are a brave person to post this in CC. Hope the best of your family, it should be over in no time and he will be a better person. Good thoughts to you and your family.</p>
<p>Faux-- Please try to stay strong. When a friend gets diagnosed with Cancer I count the days and months and they always pass by more quickly than I expect. Do not judge yourself, your family or your son. **** happens and we are all just inches away from that being us. Reach out to us and reach out to your friends. Write your son letters. Buy him books to read. ANYTHING that he would enjoy, it doesn’t have to be profound. He is a young person and your acceptance and love will help him. You are not perfect, none of us are. We are here for you and I send you lots of non-judgemental hugs and strength your way. The waiting, the goodbyes… must all be hard. The seasons will pass and he will be home. He will learn to accept this, and move on in his life. Take care, sweet one!!!</p>
<p>Nothing new to add to above except support for you and your family, hoping that by moving to the next phase of this ordeal you can see that this, too, shall pass. Hugs to you, fauxmaven (BTW, there doesn’t seem to be much “faux” about you)</p>
<p>Not sure how I missed all of the earlier threads about your son’s situation. I hope you are holding up as well as can be expected. Sending good thoughts your way!</p>
<p>Hugs to you. Surround yourself with your favorite and ignore any judgmental ones. With respect to the latter, at some point their lives will be less than perfect also.</p>
<p>My heart goes out to you and your family as well. Please feel free to come here to your CC family and vent during this next phase. </p>
<p>I might suggest taking the time to write your son a letter daily. Mail it to him if he can receive mail. It might do both your heart and his a lot of good - something as basic as words from his mom.</p>
<p>Hey faux maven. Hang in there. Once you get a feeling of what he is doing everyday I think it will be easier for you. I think the unknown is what makes this so much more difficult.</p>
<p>Fauxmaven - hugs and prayers to you and your family. It cannot be over until it starts! I wish the best for you. Thank you for sharing your experience. Take care of yourself and, as others have said, surround yourself with supportive and caring people. You will get through this as will your son.</p>
<p>Fauxmaven-- (((Hugs))) What everyone else has said… and thank you for trusting us. Please take care of yourself and keep us posted. It heartens me to hear of those who have a young adult in their network of family and friends who served time, got out, and have happy, productive lives. I hope this brings you a small measure of peace as you face this unknown with your son. Peace and blessing…</p>