<p>I think that you need to separate your problems and also to prioritize them. I agree with the poster who implied that from your posts you may be saying that you are gay and that your parents are unaware. That would seem to be by far the biggest problem if so.</p>
<p>If you feel that you are physically unsafe then you should notify police or other similar authority because physical safety is always first. ( also if you think you might want to hurt someone else , same thing). </p>
<p>I must admit that I was surprised to learn here [VM</a> – Counseling Gay and Questioning Minors about Coming Out, Aug 10 … Virtual Mentor](<a href=“http://virtualmentor.ama-assn.org/2010/08/cprl2-1008.html]VM”>Counseling Gay and Questioning Minors about Coming Out | Journal of Ethics | American Medical Association) what i read. As a parent the part about safety is unfathomable.</p>
<p>The question about 90000 is inconsequential, but I would say that I think if you clear things up then you would not feel the need to leave NJ. If your parents have a history of violence then I might reconsider that statement. However I don’t think you want high debt regardless.</p>
<p>Good Luck mw531</p>