<p>I’d probably feel the same way you do if I were in your shoes and someone told me to relax, but I don’t think your mother doesn’t believe you want to go to Stanford. </p>
<p>I bet she knows full well that you want to go to Stanford or another top school – and that she knows you want it so much that you will neglect your own well-being in pursuit of that goal. I bet what she wants for you is to change your goals so that you are attempting to get into schools that don’t take so much work to get into because she thinks if you set your sights on lower-ranked schools you’d be happier.</p>
<p>I get that your life has broken, but I believe that you can rebuild it. It won’t look the same as it did, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing. Even people whose lives change gradually sometimes end up with lives that look pretty different than they would have expected – and discover that they like those lives.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>