<p>Whoa, I just ventured out into some other areas of CC, and I can’t believe how nasty some of the posters (looks like students) are to each other. I think I’ll just hang here in the safety of the Parents Threads.</p>
<p>Did anyone else notice this, or am I ultra sensitive? The post I was looking at contained ‘major studies’ bashing, nationality bashing, college bashing, all in one spot. They were belittling everything you could think of.</p>
<p>Let me take the opportunity to thank those of you who have been so helpful and thoughtful in your posts here in the Parents Forum. I appreciate the support.</p>
<p>Kind of makes you wonder what’s really on the other side of some <em>supposedly</em> together, engaged, intelligent, talented, charismatic college student who spends his time bashing people over the internet. Hmmm. Maybe he’s not the person he’s putting out there; after all, this is anonymous, right? Or is it? Doesn’t someone’s behavior paint a pretty good picture? Losers. Geeks with no friends. Anti-social pariahs. They are only telling on themselves. Who else would spew vitriol at innocent people over an anonymous forum?</p>
<p>There are a number of rude kids on CC, but also some lovely ones. You learn pretty quickly which posts to read (like corranged’s) and which to skip!</p>
<p>Agree! I’m talking about the subjects of the OP- </p>
<p>“The post I was looking at contained ‘major studies’ bashing, nationality bashing, college bashing, all in one spot. They were belittling everything you could think of.”</p>
<p>I think many of the ruder student posters are high school students, not college students. Some are unbelievably immature, and some post simply to provoke. A case in point appeared for a short time last night, but disappeared quickly after I, and no doubt many others, reported it to the moderators. (Thank you, mods.)</p>
<p>I think a bigger problem on some of the other forums is rampant ignorance, cases of the blind leading the blind.</p>
<p>If you’re angry and frustrated, mad at a friend or your parents (all common states in the mood-swing years), where better to express your anger and frustration than an anonymous forum?</p>
<p>Yeah, people are ruder and snarkier online because it’s much easier to be so online, when you’re anonymous. Also, on a lot of the other threads, we have a lot of inside jokes that people might mistake for bashing if they haven’t been around sometime. I don’t think I have been rude in any of my posts, but yeah, that’s my take on it.</p>
<p>There’s a new country song called “Online” by Brad Paisley, which is hilarious. It talks about being “so much cooler online”. It’s a great song.</p>
<p>I think a lot of people take the opportunity to be much more aggressive and rude over the internet than they are comfortable with IRL. It can easily turn into inappropriate “attitude”. Just be glad this forum is moderated. I participate in one unmoderated forum which is a horror, and one lightly moderated forum which also can turn south easily. </p>
<p>I, too, have been attacked by students for simply expressing an opinion about certain aspects of “their school”. I think there is a lot of defensiveness, and sometimes if you say something that hits a little too close to home, you find yourself on the receiving end of some expressions of insecurity.</p>
<p>Most of the student posters are really nice. However, there is a small portion of student posters who get their kicks out of ■■■■■■■■. Use the report button if you read anything that is inappropriate.</p>
<p>Best not to venture out of the parents’ forums unless you are wearing a ballistic vest. </p>
<p>I agree, the bad advice (I’ve seen “what are my chances?” posts answered by HS sophomores!) is probably worse than the flaming/■■■■■■■■ activity.</p>
<p>Gosh…no kidding about the ‘what are my chances’ threads! </p>
<p>My first few months here, being the little newbie parent, I made an attempt to help these posters out with my thoughts on their chances. I quickly realized…I don’t have a clue about their chances! So I don’t respond anymore. Occasionally, someone will ask my d’s stats to get an idea of what it takes for the XYZ scholarship or an admit to ABC university. Unfortunately, that info may even be suspect, because I can barely remember my d’s stats! (How quickly we forget…lol!)</p>
<p>I guess we’re just surprised to see it here, maybe. There are so many astonishing, articulate wonderful kids here that we probably don’t expect it.</p>
<p>Wow, on some other message boards it is beyond ugly. Have you ever read the comments on YouTube? Terrible.</p>
I totally agree. Being a high school sophomore that spends an unhealthy amount of time on CC (;)), I basically find that “giving chances” is ridiculous, especially when people who’ve never even seen a college “give chances”. That’s basically why I stay in the Cafe and the Parent forums. We don’t take ourselves seriously in the cafe, and I like getting real opinions on things in the parent forums. (Major brownie points, right?)</p>
<p>Karen, As a parent, I appreciate the complements but I really haven’t seen the kind of bashing you described all in one place in the student forums. There are a few high school bravados and some immature (I was once in high school and probably talked like that too) posters. But reading the student threads give you other perspectives and canbe helpful if you just ignore the impolites.</p>
<p>Karen~ unfortunately, there is a significant number of college students(frustrated, didn’t get in where they wanted, etc.) who ■■■■■. in addition, some of these kids have a prejudice against parents. they’ll take comments from peers, but if a parent says the EXACT same thing, they attack. i’ve used the “report problem post” many times more than i thought would be needed here, primarily to keep this a sane, accurate place for the newbie high schoolers.</p>