<p>Hi,</p>
<p>I am a high school student and I have a mom who is under the mentality that in order to have a "good life", one needs to go to Harvard, Stanford, etc. While I certainly want to go to a tier one college, and will be disappointed if I don't, I do disagree with some of her methods.
For example, she acts CONSTANTLY as if she would kill me or I should kill myself if I don't get a 2400 on the SAT: "If you actually miss this problem during the actual test, your life will be down the drain!!" (except this would be in Chinese) I think she means this sincerely. . .I do agree with her than getting a 2400 on the SAT is very important, but I feel that it won't ruin my life if I didn't achieve that score.
More importantly, she has this attitude only about standardized tests and school grades - I am one hundred percent positive that she can't get over her Asian make it or fail miserbly mind set. As a result, she has discounted some of the other things that I feel are important - such as fulfilling RESPONSIBILITY in a club as a board member.
Recently, we have not been not on talking terms because she has made me take a SAT MATH class because I missed one problem on last year's PSAT (luckily, I was a sophomore). While I did feel like a failure, I know that that mistake was because of human error - my mom apparantly thinks that going to a CLASS will correct human error. I disagree with her, but i may be COMPLETELY wrong.
So, I was wondering if any of the parents on this board can sincerely bring up his or her opinion - and if you are an Asian parent like my mom, justify your position. I would really appreciate any comments.</p>
<p>Thanks</p>