In continuing care at-home programs, members live in their own houses for years, with regular health check-ins.
https://www.nytimes.com/2019/11/08/health/retirement-home-ccrc.html
My oldest son carefully explained to me that he was concerned that when he had to put me in a retirement/nursing home that he’d receive too many calls from the Director about my problematic behavior. So his plan was to buy me my own place where I and all my fun friends could live together and be our very own “Retirement Home for Troublemakers.”
I’ve already explained this to my friends and they’re all completely on board. We will have Scotch and escape regularly for adventures.
Seems like in some situations, it would be less expensive to just pay for traditional home care services.
Ooooo! @milee30 …I love your son/scotch/adventures!
This sounds like my kind of retirement community…Can I get in on this???
Sure. Must have a sense of adventure and humor. Pretty much the main requirements.
I can’t read beyond the first 3 paragraphs without subscribing.
How is this a “retirement community” coming to you and not just home care?
My Dad moved to a retirement community. It consists of many modes of completely independent living (stand alone houses, duplexes and apartments) in addition to facilities for assisted living, short term nursing care, memory care, and complete nursing home care.
But this “retirement community” isn’t just about nursing care/assistance, it’s much more about actual “community” i.e., social interaction, group exercise, access to religious involvement, organized emotional support of friends, etc. There is so much more to retirement than nursing care. Many retired people are perfectly healthy and simply want social interaction with others that they might miss by no longer going to work every day.
If my Dad lived at home and had nursing support coming to his house, he would be miserable, absolutely miserable. It’s the immediate and daily access to his community that is what he loves. These people are very very social on a daily basis.
I don’t know that the type of community where my Dad lives would be my cup of tea while I was still capable of living at home, but I’m just not getting how what is being described in the first paragraphs of the article has anything to do with “the community” coming to one’s home. The article must go into stuff that is not self evident from the early paragraphs.
Any way to get past the paywall?
@milee30- How about Bourbon?
Of course - Bourbon will be welcome, too. Funny you should mention that, my son at college just asked me to send him more of my homemade Bourbon Pecans; guess they were very popular. Need to make more.
@Nrdsb4 here’s a quote further down in the article:
and further down:
I had a very unfortunate… interaction… with Bourbon in college. I don’t think the memory of it will be erased even after retirement. Ugh, just thinking about it makes me queasy.
If you go to a wine bar, give me a shout, I’ll meet you all there. 
Wine works!
You went to a fancy pants college! For most of us, that “unfortunate… interaction” was with Tequila. 
As for the liquor situation in the Retirement Home for Troublemakers - that discussion came about when I told my son that once I hit 85 my nutritional needs were going to be extremely simple and cut down to the bare necessities that were enjoyable and nonperishable. No more kale; no more of this sensible, moderate drinking; no more eating stuff that’s good for me but that I don’t particularly enjoy. Just ship in a case of Scotch (I like the Balvenie Caribbean Cask 14 year) and a couple of cases of Little Debbies and I’m good. No fuss.
NYT paywall hit. Want to give us a summation?
Gag. Bourbon and Coke. Never again. I used up my quota in college and not in an always pleasing way.
We are actually in the car right now, returning from getting my in laws moved into & settled in an assisted living facility. MIL can take care of herself, but FIL needs assistance. They had in home care every day, and one of the helpers did laundry & changed bedding … the main focus was helping my FIL with his daily tasks. They had someone clean every other week.
They were pretty much living in a very small area of their big house. MIL was too tired to shop & cook. Her back hurt & helping FIL even a little was too much for her. They chose to move into a two room unit in a very nice facility in their town (3 hours from SIL & many hours from us). It is a huge change, and we felt bad leaving when they had been there a week. The adjustment is not easy. But they are loving getting three good meals a day, chatting with people & doing activities that interest them. FIL pays extra for assistance, but MIL doesn’t need it. It’s just under 7,000/month, I believe. That includes the meals, internet, Direct tv, daily light housekeeping & weekly full cleaning, and weekly laundry.
It’s not perfect, but it’s very nice. I think they would have preferred another local facility where some of their friends stay, but FIL has Parkinson’s so they won’t take him. You have to pay $300,000 to get in, plus pay monthly (3.8% increase recently). They only take you when you don’t need assistance … then as you need additional care, they provide it.
It would be great if they could stay home forever with help … but they outlived that option. At 92 & 93, it was time for more care than an outside service could provide . And the ability to socialize is really important to them now.
@kelsmom, I hope they will be very content there. My mom is in assisted living and it’s an absolute godsend.