<p>my young neighbor hung himself in the back yard and I was with his girlfriend when she discovered him. Tragic on many levels, she had her young daughters with her and they saw him, the young girlfriend is pregnant with their child, the young man had many issues that will never now get resloved. His father happened on the scene just moments after we did, so also witness his son there in the tree. I cant imagine how he is dealing. </p>
<p>Go hug your kids and be grateful…</p>
<p>I’m at a loss for words. My sympathies.</p>
<p>sister, what an awful thing for all involved and to witness it only compounds the pain.
I am so sorry the young man’s family has to go thorugh this. I’m sure you being there was a great support and they may turn to you in the early stages of their grief because you were a witness as well. </p>
<p>My 18 yr. old S witnessed his two best friends lose control of their car and be flipped and thrown from it. S called 911. Both boys died. I think the worst of the grief was not immediately but a few months down the road.<br>
Be prepared to be a shoulder to lean on for awhile. They will need you.
I will pray for you and this poor family.</p>
<p>Oh my, how awful all the way around. So sorry for your experience. I am sure you were able to be a comfort for your neighbor’s g’friend, but be sure to take care of yourself too.</p>
<p>So, so very sorry.</p>
<p>ugh… what a horrible thing to have to witness. Those are the images we only pray are kept to the movie screens, and not of people we know.</p>
<p>Do take care of yourself, and don’t be too hard on yourself if the brunt of the impact doesn’t come for weeks and months down the road in unexpected ways.</p>
<p>I really didnt know the young man, his girlfriend or the family- but to see them. We are seperated by a large field. I doubt they seek comfort with me, but my daughter were awesome with the little girls in the midst of the chaos. They took them back to our house, introduced them to the dogs, put in a kids movie, plied them with Christmas candy, etc. The little girls were with us for a few hours while they process the scene and questioned the family. Those babies were only 6-9 years old and I hope they get some help processing what they saw. </p>
<p>What a mess!</p>
<p>It was creepy walking the dogs last night. We are in direct view of the tree. I am having trouble with the image, I’ve certainly never seen anything like that. Couldnt sleep last night.</p>
<p>Several years ago I got off the express bus on Halloween (at a cemetery no less) to see something hanging from a tree. It took me a minute to realize that it was a teenager from my neighborhood. Sistersunnie, I can totally sympathize because I’ve been where you are. You’ll never get over it but I hope you find peace.</p>
<p>OMG how awful. Sistersunnie, you have my sympathies. Thank heavens you and your daughter were there to help these poor little kids, and their mother. I wonder if they will eventually cut down that tree so no one has to look at it?</p>
<p>I hope that all who were affected by this tragedy – including you and your family – will find comfort and peace.</p>
<p>I’m so sorry for all involved. What a tremendously sad event.</p>
<p>My sincerest sympathies. Death of a loved one is always difficult – under these circumstances, it’s almost beyond comprehension. Continue encouraging your daughters to be supportive and friendly to the little girls – they will be touched, even if they don’t necessarily express it or realize it. Certainly their mother will appreciate the extra warmth her children are getting. I lost some very, very close friends last year about this time - an entire family killed in a car crash. The support I got from others helped me and my family more than I can say. When you’re grieving, a kind word, smile, gesture can mean the world.</p>
<p>My heart is with you. I lost my brother to suicide about 10 years ago. Although you are not close to your neighbor, I urge you to have your daughters continue to befriend the little girls and to do what you can for the young lady next door. Kind words, smiles and just general contact is very important-I found that while everyone was shocked and initially consoling, many close people pulled away because it was just too difficult to deal with. I found that those who were more removed were often better able to provide support and comfort during the aftermath.</p>
<p>Sistersunnie, I am so sorry for your neighbors’ loss and for the trauma you’ve experienced. My brother took his own life about 2 1/2 years ago, and I was the last person to see him alive. Suicide is traumatic for all involved. There is a nationwide organization called Heartbeat that provides support groups for survivors of suicide. I found amazing support and comfort there; they have a website that lists local chapters. You can find it by googling heartbeat and suicide. Again, my sympathies.</p>
<p>I give my condolences to the family…</p>
<p>My thoughts are with you. This is so sad.</p>
<p>I read the obituaries daily and it seems as if there is an increase in suicide rate lately. It concerns me.</p>
<p>sistersunnie,
I am so sorry…my family was impacted by such a situation several years ago. My brother in law, whom I was very close to took his life…my sister was seperated from him, yet he called her last. She was the one to find him and it was devastating , to put it mildly.
My nephews were only ten and just shy of 13 when it happened. They are now grown men.
Suicide is something that is hard to recover from…so much guilt , anger and frustration. In my opinion , the grieving is altogether different than any other kind of grief.</p>
<p>That is horrible, and I am so sorry for everyone involved. My sister killed herself several years ago, but she had been suffering from a dreadful disease for 16 years, and her quality of life was very poor. She made very sure that she would not be discovered by anyone she knew. It was excruciating to think that she died alone.</p>
<p>Oh - what a heartbreaking thread. I can’t get over the fact that his 6 and 9 year old daughters had to see him that way. I hope they will get the help that they need.</p>